Posts categorized "Spirituality"

Most fathers would never walk away. More often, they are thrown away.

To become a mother or a father is one of life’s great callings. We naturally love our children wholly and unconditionally. Relationships between men and women, however, are often a bit trickier.

In a relationship between the two decent and loving parents, access to the child is beyond question. The right for both of you to be parents has nothing to do with the difficulties between you. Yet too often, a parent who has not become fully conscious might attach rules, expectations and conditions to a relationship—and then subtly use access to the child as a sort of personal right or bargaining chip.

When this loveless strategy invariably fails, a judgment is then often made that the non-compliant party “has other priorities” or “doesn’t love the child enough”. Often, he is cut out. His role as a father is then forcibly diminished.

If you are a man, this is the almost inevitable, excruciating outcome of having children with someone who is not deeply committed to unconditional love. Don’t do it. Before you decide to have a child with a woman, be sure that access to that child comes with no threats or conditions. You deserve perfect love and your unborn children deserve the love that only you can give.

Let mothers love their children fully. Let fathers be present in their lives to also love them fully. Your children deserve all the love and attention that nature has inspired you both to give. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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No belief is neutral. (A Course in Miracles)

"No belief is neutral. Every one has the power to dictate each decision you make. A decision is a conclusion based on everything you believe. It is the outcome of belief.” - A Course in Miracles

Contrary to what the ego believes, we are neither rational nor unbiased. Every one of our actions, behaviors, and decisions are an outcome of our beliefs. Nobody is neutral because no belief is neutral.

Purification is the decision to align our beliefs with higher truths. It is a choice to disassociate with the ego and its thought system of fear and separation—a decision to embrace love, to value the miracle of the now, to practice non-resistance and to always respond to everything only in love.

Higher truth is taught in many concepts and words, yet it is one. There is perfect knowledge beyond confused perception.

We believe not that we are our minds; rather, we know that our identity is consciousness.

We believe not in fear; rather, we know that we are eternally invulnerable beyond form.

We believe not in salvation in time; rather, we know that we are perfectly complete now.

We believe not in manipulation or attack; rather, in the thought system of perfect love—which is effortlessly giving, creating, accepting, open, free, fearless, joyful, blissful, and capable of solving every problem because the only problem is lack of love.

Purified, we feel the perfect energy flow from within and life is instantly and constantly perfect. From this place, our decisions are very different. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.      

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Only a purpose unifies, and those who share a purpose have a mind as one. (A Course in Miracles)

State your purpose loud and clear and then live it. Others, who share your purpose, will join with you in perfect harmony.

Whenever a purpose is shared, the other details are worked out rather easily. Things flow effortlessly. The relationship is enjoyable and you feel good together.

But a relationship without a shared purpose will be filled with negotiation, debate, and conflict. This type of relationship is all about trying to change each other, trying get at least as much as you give. Here you are in opposition and there is no fit.

Healthy relationships are about shared purposes. Make your relationships a celebration of that. Then, set each other free to explore your other purposes—the ones that you don’t share. Do only this and experience perfect happiness in every relationship. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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No more good days and bad days.

The ego likes to judge the good and the bad according to its own thought system. The ego, oblivious to its own shifting perceptions, is paradoxically confident that it knows what is good and what is bad.

Most of the time, we do not know what is good or bad. Reality is too complex and inter-connected.

Has something terrible ever happened to you—maybe a breakup or loss of a job? Years later, you may have looked back upon this event only to realize that you ended up better off. Perhaps you found yourself in the right relationship or a profession you enjoy more.

Has something good ever happened to you—maybe you got that big job, you were accepted into that university, or married the person you wanted to marry? Weeks or months later, that which you thought you wanted may have become a nightmare.

So starting this week, we look upon reality not with the ego’s perception; rather, with the knowledge of spiritual truth. Whether we face smooth sailing, or conflict, or abrupt change, or unimaginable success—we no longer react as though we know for certain whether any of it is good or bad.

Instead, we just do our best each day to unemotionally recognize and calmly respond to reality. We accept what is happening fully and always choose the loving response. We no longer trust the mind’s analysis; rather, we awaken to the present moment and deal with life in the only dimension where it has ever existed and ever will exist—the now.

If we are exhausted, we rest. If we are scared, we make friends with our fear. If we are challenged, we respond the best we can. If we win, we do so humbly. This is gratitude. This is wisdom.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Life is experienced beyond the mind.

So much goes on in our heads, but nothing is ever going to happen there. Life is for the open-minded.

Openness needs only one thought: the recognition that everything real lies in the dimensions beyond thought.

People are so stuck in their heads, while I alone am alive. There is nothing to be explained, analyzed, or debated when only this one thought is necessary to come alive.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Lack of love in this world is the only problem

Ignorant of love, humans are a cancer on the planet. We destroy. We use up. We suffer.

Enough. The only priority in this life is that we learn to love. In love we create. We provide. We enjoy.

Most humans do not know what love is. Love’s energy and wisdom has been lost in this world. We have it upside-down. Everything that doesn’t matter has been made to matter; yet it still doesn’t matter because love is still all that matters.

Love is not what you find or get from anyone, it is what you are. Love is not a feeling or an arrangement, it is a way of being in truth.

Forgive yourself. Forgive it all. There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing you need to become other than what you are: love. Be that.

Love does not come to you, it comes from within you. Let go of all that is blocking the love flowing from within. This is success. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Abscondo Podcast #66: Letting Go

You can listen to the full podcast here:

Abscondo Podcast 66

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Who we think we are is not who we are. (Clare Dimond)

When people hear the true spiritual message—this one truth spoken in infinite ways—they become afraid.

We spend our lives defining who we are and what we believe about the world. We craft an image, we define ourselves by our circumstances (good or bad), we compare ourselves to others, we worry that nobody cares, that nobody loves us and that we don’t matter.

These are the stories of the mind, and most people’s identity is those stories. We think all this makes us interesting, but it doesn’t. In fact, it makes us normal and boring—just like everybody else. We become dull and predictable, barely noticing reality, lost in our heads juggling ridiculous and meaningless thoughts.

Identified with the mind, we think we are interesting and unique. All the while, we are blind to the fact that everything we say, think and do is so completely and utterly predictable. The ego believes it values differences; but in its inner-workings, every ego is exactly the same.

Identified with the mind, life is a chore. There is no freedom. No lasting joy or bliss. No true meaning. No deep wisdom or understanding. In the ego we are lost. Is this what we are afraid to let go of?

When we stop defining who we are, then the light of who we truly are begins to shine. To awaken is to let go of the stories, then the fears, then the rules, then the inhibitions, then the limiting beliefs, then the stress and pain, then the exhaustion, then the illnesses—constantly peeling back all that is false until the true you emerges.

“When we glimpse the truth of who we are beneath the stories, whatever remains is more real, not less.” -Clare Dimond 

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Enjoyment is what happens when we awaken to the present moment.

When we are happy, we are also kind to people. We can appreciate simple beauty. We enjoy ourselves no matter what we choose to do. We are also comfortable being in a quiet room by ourselves for a while.

What’s interesting is that there is a common element behind all forms of enjoyment. Enjoyment arises during the moments when there are gaps between our thoughts—when we become lost in the present moment. This is because thoughts are usually about past or future and take us away from the present moment—away from enjoyment.

Even thoughts can be enjoyable when they are truly productive. When we focus full attention on our work, or when we create something in a state of heightened concentration, then even our thinking becomes focused on the present moment. So whatever we do in the present moment, everything is in alignment: mind, body and spirit.

Enjoyment is what arises when we awaken to the present moment. Here there are no problems, we enjoy ourselves, we perceive great beauty everywhere, we bring positive energy and helpfulness to those we love, our work is high quality, and our creations are truly inspired.

We learn to live in the now today, tomorrow and each day after that.

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