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Why do people ignore the spiritual message? Why is it so hard to help people heal?

I completely understand why almost everyone ignores the ideas people like me try to share. As my friend, Sara Bini told me just now, “People are so identified with their own personal needs and sometimes conflicting goals that they can’t even conceive of letting go of their egos.”   

Let’s get real, I didn’t care about any of this stuff either when I was trying to hold it all together. What I cared about was my marriage, my public image, my life story, what people thought of me, and my goals. Back then, the idea of spiritual awakening seemed insane—it would undermine everything about my life. I paid it no attention.

The promise of ending suffering is uninteresting until that day comes when you face a total existential crisis. When it all falls apart, and you can finally say “fuck it” to everything—that is the moment these ideas become everything. Until suffering becomes intolerable—which it does someday for everyone—none of this is interesting. Until then, please remember only this: there is a way to end suffering and to leave the hell behind.

My life crisis came about 5 years ago. I wish it had happened when I was much younger, because my life only began at the age of 40. This is a pretty normal age when we come to understand all the world’s lies, violence, and insanity and when our errors catch up with us. We can finally realize that we are not going to find happiness by fighting the world around us or by achieving anything. From there, we can choose to let it go and be free, or we can grumpily fake our way through life as we accelerate the slide into misery and old age.

When that moment comes, the few choose heaven over hell. They choose to die to this insane world by allowing the destruction of ego. Their lives then become a perfect reflection of everything that is true about every one of us—our goodness, love, and complete perfection at our core.

But nobody is going to take away anyone’s right to hide their perfection, to be unfree, to ignore the deeper truth about love and life. I get that and respect everyone’s decisions fully; but I am still going to make sure these ideas are lying around for those who may one day need them.


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What if you looked within and saw no sin? (A Course in Miracles)

We are afraid to look within—to explore our inner dimension honestly and deeply—because we are afraid of what we might find. We’re afraid that we will see our own darkness, ugliness, and errors—and that this is the truth about who we are. But anyone who has ever looked deeply within has found just the opposite.

What we have found by looking within is that we are good. Do you not believe you are good? Deep down, everyone does. So why the fear to look within?

To truly look within is not to find guilt; rather, to recognize that all the errors, all the violence, and all the dishonesty in your life is from the external. Sin is of the world, not within us. It is only our belief in a violent, dishonest world that leads us to attack others and do harm.

We lie and treat one another violently only to the extent that we believe in the violence and dishonesty of the world—to the extent that we believe in the media and other centralized institutions of power. To put our faith in these violent institutions is to carry out their violent agendas against our brothers and sisters; hiding the truth of our goodness while causing others to needlessly suffer.

If we look within and come to terms with what we already know to be true—that, at our core, we are pure love and goodness—then we must speak the truth about us and the world. This is what we fear most because we believe the world will punish us for it. The opposite is true.

The world already punishes us though endless, escalating sacrifice and abuse—but this stops when we learn this very lesson. Once it is learned, personal suffering ends because we are immune to the horrible effects of the sick thought system of violence, fear, and abuse. This is the escape from ego and, when this happens, love becomes the only thought system, honesty the only language, and perfect joy the only state of being.


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Faith and vision and belief are meaningful only before the state of certainty is reached. (A Course in Miracles)

“In Heaven they are unknown. Yet Heaven is reached through them.”

These teachings are simple and are ultimately about just one thing: establishing complete certainty about love. This—the entering of heaven now, the awakening from the world’s dream of hell in this life and for eternity—cannot be achieved without first taking a leap of faith and trusting an inspired vision.

It is only through faith, vision, and belief that perfect love can be applied and put to the test in reality. Only when love is practiced completely, in every situation, can the truth about love be proven. This is how certainty is reached, and then there is no sliding back into confusion.

Establish faith, see the vision, and believe that perfect healing, total success, joy and salvation are possible. This is an inner journey that requires no sacrifice at all; rather, that you stop holding back your goodness, your truth, your passion, your freedom, your beauty.


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Abscondo Podcast #89: How to end violence now

If you going to listen to or read just one thing I've written or said, make it this podcast episode. 

You can also listen to the Abscondo Podcast wherever you normally listen to podcasts.

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When the Milwaukee Bucks decided to boycott the originally scheduled game 5 with the Magic...

When the Milwaukee Bucks (my favorite NBA team) decided to boycott the originally scheduled game 5 with the Magic, I was filled with conflicting thoughts and emotions. They took a stand: racism and police brutality will no longer be accepted. While this single act won’t solve the problem, I believe it can start a conversation that will.

The problem isn’t just one isolated incident of racism or police brutality. The problem is an entire system of violence—a culture of violence that is so rotten to the core that it is no longer acceptable. These elite athletes are willing to risk their season—perhaps their careers—because they, like so many of us, are completely fed up.

I, too, have had it with police violence in any and every form. I am also fed up with a military that arbitrarily kills people in foreign countries, with the government’s trampling on personal liberty, with the endless threats from the legal system and life-destroying prison sentences to back them up. I know how the entire system treats minorities, but nobody else’s life in this system is any picnic either and this has been going on for far too long.

Just as in the days of Fascism and Communism, government authority is terrorizing human beings and we are fed up.

But it doesn’t stop there. I’ve also had it with the violent attitudes of people—the sarcasm, open hatred, mocking, road rage, even shouting and threatening each other. Then there are the lost souls who would steal or murder, there’s the brutality against children and spouses, and the frustrated sexual aggression everywhere.  

Everywhere we look in this violent culture, we see threats and symbols to trigger fear and exalt violence. This is not just about the United States, there is a global pandemic of violence that is causing far too much fear and suffering. Beyond racism and police brutality, the violence is from top to bottom—including the angry individual behavior that causes the police to respond, including the violent attitudes and tones, and including the crime.

All of this is caused by only one thing: lack of love. Sin is where love is not, and nothing will ever get better until we decide to learn what love is.

No symbolic gesture like a sports boycott is going to make any difference. It, too, is only a failing strategy of the ego—more shaming and blaming, more pointing to an oppressor and a victim, more calls for punishment—this is all the stuff of ego, just more of the same.

The cure is the antidote to ego—the undoing of it—and it is unconditional love. If we are fed up, this is the only path forward. This is the complete and lasting undoing of violence and hatred. If George Hill, Eric Bledsoe, and rest of us want to solve the problem—then let’s talk about love, forgiveness, presence, awakening, the escape from ego.

Now is the time to go deeply within and then speak the real truth—as we all must if we want anything in this world to change.


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If you get sick...


Fear is the cause of sickness. Without any fear, we cannot catch anything because the immune system is strong.

Ironically, fear is both the cause of this pandemic and the response to it; which creates a negative feedback loop so aweful that it is apparently killing some people.

The only cure for fear is perfect love. Only love casts out fear...there is simply no other way.

Until we learn this mandatory lesson, our suffering only increases. The purpose of our suffering is that we learn this lesson.

How perfect and beautiful is this design of reality.

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It is impossible to place equal faith in opposite directions. (A Course in Miracles)

People pretend that they are rational; yet what guides everything we think, say, and do is our faith.

Some believe in a specific religion, some in consumerism or materialism as the source of happiness, some in romantic relationships as the primary source of salvation, some in a political party or ideology, some in higher education, riches, or social status.

Some believe in their racial identity, nationality, or country. Others believe in fear, in the reality of sickness, in a world that is a dangerous and depressing place, and that people cannot be trusted.

Nobody is unbiased and rational. We are all operating on faith. The reason nobody can agree is that we place our faith in thousands of different false idols which are unreal; then we try to make them real by convincing everyone else of their reality.

The world can only come together in peace when we place our faith in the only thought system which is true and beyond debate: love. With full faith in love, we can fully accept our differences, we can allow one another the right to be free and to experience our lives as we are meant to. We can have fun and help one another through any suffering. We can discuss all kinds of ideas, do all kinds of things, and use all kinds of words and language, always with an open heart and mind and without judgment.

Do you believe in love? If so, believe in it fully. If you place your faith in multiple directions, then your faith is not in love and you are confused. You don’t have to change anything about your affiliations, your relationships, or your profession or lifestyle. You need only humble yourself to the reality of love, learn and adopt its thought system, and I promise you all will be well for you, eternally.


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Because it is so painful for the ego to be honest about itself, it cannot deal with the truth of any situation.

We have said that the ego is insane, and one example is its inability to look at true cause and effect. More often, the unobserved mind confuses the effect for the cause.

I will explain, but first I will be clear what is meant by the ego or the “unobserved mind”. A person trapped in ego trusts and believes that “my thoughts, words, and actions are me and I am diminished if any of this is not honored.” With this belief system, honesty about anything becomes impossible.

To ignore, laugh at, or question thoughts and ideas requires that you first recognize yourself not as the mind; rather, as consciousness or awareness—which is beyond the mind. Is there not a “you” who is watching your thoughts and observing everything? Have you ever said, “I’m driving myself crazy”? Who is the “I” and who is the “myself”? Are there two of you, or only one? In fact, the “I” in this sentence is only the egoic mind.

To live unaware of your identity is to lack full vision. This makes you unable to see true causes and effects. For example:

1) A wife believes that the husband’s affair is the cause of her suffering; yet she is unwilling to look at the thousands of things she has done and decisions she has made to co-create this tragic relationship.  

2) A person catches the flu and sees the illness as the cause of suffering; yet is unwilling to look at the hundreds of unhealthy decisions that have weakened the immune system—the stress allowed, the poor diet, the lack of sleep, etc.

3) A man loses his job and goes bankrupt; seeing the loss of employment as the cause of the problem; yet is unwilling to look at the years of poor career choices and the risky and irresponsible financial decisions that left his family vulnerable to the inevitable outcome.

These are just a few of the infinite examples of ego insanity, and if you mention the truth of any situation to a person in the grip of ego, you will be accused of blaming the victim. For there to be a victim, there must be a story about something external that "just happened" to you. The effect must be seen as the cause. Any discussion of the true causes and effects will be considered an insult.

When you recognize yourself as beyond the mind, you no longer take the mind so seriously. You can see your errors without experiencing a negative emotional reaction. You can laugh at your mind’s occasional insanity and, by recognizing it, effortlessly correct it. You can be honest with yourself without carrying any feelings of guilt or shame. You can see love as the only refuge where everything you want is found—and then recognize that it is everywhere and that you are living in paradise.

The mind does what it does and is a useful tool, but the voice in the head is not you. Because your thoughts are not you, you cannot be diminished by anything that is thought, said, or done. Now you have awakened. You are rooted. You have the vision to see reality—including the truths about causes and effects.


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The life review and the near-death experience

In Mark Gober’s extensively researched book, An End to Upside Down Thinking, he examines thousands of personal accounts of near-death experiences (when a person’s body and brain is physically dead for a short time and then brought back to life). One of his fascinating findings is the regular reporting of what is called a “life review.”

As reported by one individual, “Every second from birth until death you will see and feel, and you will experience your emotions and others that you hurt, and feel their pain and emotions. What this is for is so you can see what kind of person you were and how you treated others from another vantage point.”

This is all experienced in an instant—a total picture of the truth of your life and that of everyone who you affected. Others even reported seeing truths that their spouses or loved ones kept hidden. Think about that.

Another individual who experienced this explains, “Not only did I perceive everything from my own viewpoint, but I also knew the thoughts of everyone involved in the event, as if I had their thoughts within me. This meant that I perceived not only what I had done or thought, but even in what way it had influenced others.”

Read this breakthrough book yourself and come to your own conclusions about the nature of consciousness, but ask yourself this: if, at the moment of death, everything true about our lives is revealed to us in an instant—if this is part of the process that determines what happens to us when we die—and if everyone we love will go through the same process when they die—do we want to lie to anyone we love? Do we want to harm anyone and be forced to confront the effects in our dying moment? Do we want anyone we love to have to deal with what we have kept hidden in their dying moment?

The near-death experience and the life review teach us to choose unconditional love now and always, while we are alive. We can always be honest and open about everything. We can always be accepting and forgiving so that others can do the same.


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I wanted to share a deeply meaningful conversation I had with a reader of this blog

The parts in italics are the words of the reader.


I wanted to know, how can I remove my ego and pain body?

It sounds like you are a student of Eckhart Tolle? Are you finding that present moment awareness doesn't quite get you there? What usually triggers your pain body?

Its triggered when I'm exhausted and tired.
I've learned to control the other triggers more or less but just can't seem to do it when I'm tired.

I would recommend resting. :-) Everyone gets grumpy when they are tired.
I do a guided meditation whenever I feel that way. Even 15 minutes is better than a nap. Search for the Meditation Oasis podcast for free meditations.

Thank you so much.

Write anytime, my friend.

Seeing others suffer causes so much pain and anger. It upsets me that people can perpetrate abuse covertly and get away with it. Others are not willing to acknowledge it or change it.
Is this anger and frustration from ego? If I become egoless will I be indifferent to abuse?
And if I do address covert abuse, should I do it by writing an article to avoid confrontation?

I feel the same way, as I suppose any kind-hearted person does. The question is, how best to solve the problem? To fight something or someone only causes further clinging or identification with the destructive behavior.

The only way to change anything, to heal anything or anyone, is through perfect, unconditional love. Have I mastered this in a way to change people beyond my close relationships? No, not yet.

I do know it works perfectly in my family, with my customers and business contacts, etc. Beyond that, words and teachings may help some people...but you are a rare case; someone whose heart and mind is open enough to want to awaken (I presume). I am glad to write with you. What do you think?

Yes, please that would be great. Thank you very much.

I very much want you to share your wisdom as well, so that we can both grow.

I have been listening to Eckhart Tolle recently and reading Pearls of wisdom of Yos W Hadi, an Indonesian spiritual teacher.


I have learned a lot recently from my Mormon friends. I am very curious how Eckhart Tolle touches someone from an Islamic background.

Islam is a very spiritual religion.
Often misunderstood.
Peace and unconditional love to all creation because God loves everyone

I know a little about Sufism. Very little.

The basic aim is to remove ego.


Jesus Christ also spoke the truth, but of course Christianity is also mispracticed and misunderstood.

Ego is considered the barrier between man and God/universe.

Indeed. Ego is the devil. Religious people don't get this.

Yes, we love Jesus and Mary, Hannah, and Joseph very much. Peace be upon them all.


I only care about the truth to which the teachings point.
Ultimately, all teachings point towards unconditional love and peace, I believe.

And annihilation of the ego.


Which is God's love, yes. We agree as one.
It is that simple.

But reaching this stage of pure unconditional love and removing ego are very difficult, I think.

Look, I sometimes have tiny ego flare-ups in a moment. Or a little fear. But I observe it and it goes away. I reached this point mainly through A Course in Miracles. Eckhart came later.

But it is important for me to read / listen to a little each day, write something, and meditate. That is how I exist in this ongoing state.

I dedicate maybe one hour a day, total, in different chunks of is enough, even if I do business, spend hot long days with the kids, have some wine at night....I’ve stayed egoless and aligned with love—for about 5 years now.

Do you think it's possible to reach a permanent egoless state?

Yes, with a daily practice and a commitment to perfect honesty everywhere.
I want to do more, to reach more people and heal. It just hasn't worked on a large scale yet.

Yes, you should reach more people.
I'm sure you will help many people.
Many spiritual teachers instruct us to become egoless, but do not tell us how to do it.

And they are popular for it. Eckhart even stops short of going all the way, which is why he is popular...but not always able to take people all the way.

I have tried almost everything, but ego stops this message everywhere.
The ego's mantra is "seek, but do not find."

I want to go all the way.

I guess people around me think that I'm crazy.

The ego does not want its own destruction, so only an already awakened person wants this message. But that person doesn't need it!
And that person is also a teacher.
There is something which transcends everything all religions and differences.

How to convince the ego to let go of its grip? That is happening by itself as we look at the state of the world now. Ego is imploding under the weight of its own insanity. We need only speak the truth about it and teach the way to those ready to listen.
It is a very gradual process.

Many people do not know its ego...they are so deeply identified with it.

And that causes suffering.
They won't even consider the concept. Almost nobody.

Yes, and still they cling.

Life is like heaven if one is without ego.
Reality will continue to teach them the lesson.

But the society trains us to view ego as necessary for so called success.
That is heaven, yes.


Yes, but true success is in loving service and creation…even fame and riches can be found there. Ego never achieves anything significant, beautiful, or lasting.

It is an honor to meet another awakened soul, Muhammad. I will write later, my brother.

Likewise, brother.
My name is actually XXXX.

Nice to meet you.

Is fear of rejection due to ego?

Only the ego can reject. Spirit doesn't recognize rejection as anything other than an errored choice for separation. It isn't about "you".

Ego and spirit cannot communicate at all. So, rejection of you can only be ego in another.

Do you have a wife, girlfriend, or partner right now who gets you from beyond the ego?

My husband does I believe.

Ah, so you are a woman? Sorry about missing that!

No worries.
I've been reading your posts, where I found answers to many of my questions.

Thank you!

That is wonderful to hear. Do you talk with your husband about your beliefs / faith?

I do....but sometimes he cannot answer my endless questions.
Like how to get to an egoless state.
I feel like I've wasted my life being a slave of ego. Wish we were taught all this at school.


Exactly. I am glad you have a strong, loving marriage then.
My partner and I wish we could share what we have learned with more people. I am sure you feel the same.

Yes, but I'm still learning, myself, and I have a very long way to I know nothing.
You and your partner should definitely go for it.
You will help many people as you are helping me.
There are so many definitions of ego but no clear cut guidelines for removing it.
I guess it's not that simple

As Eckhart asks, how do you drop a hot potato? By dropping it. :-)
It is only a decision to go all the way. Destroy it. Leave it behind. You never needed it and it is unreal.

Choose unconditional love each moment and, when you go off course, apologize and go back. :-)

So always think unconditional loving thoughts?
Then there’s no ego?
Is that the formula? :-)

Yes. And observe when you fail. That's it.
And forgive yourself when you make an error.
Correct the error but make nothing about it real.

I feel unloved by my in-laws sometimes, so I feel a sense of rejection, which makes me angry and bitter.

Sin is where love is not...explains A Course in Miracles.

That is only about their inability to practice perfect love. It says nothing about you. Have you learned to love yourself fully?

Besides my books, I recommend Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz.

Can I purchase your books from your website?
Self-love is something I'm struggling with.

Mine are free eBooks. See the link from the main navigation menu.
by Mark Manney and The Switch by Abscondo.

Thank you so much for taking out precious time to help others
I will invite others to like your Facebook page
There are many spiritually minded people on my facebook.

“One of the greatest acts of worship at the end of time, and one which breaks through the veils that are between the slave and His Lord, is striving to fulfil people's needs.”
- Shaykh al-Habib Abdul Qadir as-Saggaf (Alayhi Rahma) ~


If we start to be unaffected by outward events, does it mean we will be indifferent towards injustice to ourselves or others?

For example, will an egoless person be indifferent to being abused or bullied by others, or indifferent to others being abused like animal cruelty?

Should we keep up relations with those who keep hurting us?

And is it ego if one does not wish to be taken for granted?

And does setting boundaries come from ego?

The only real thing we can do about the various forms of loveless hells created by the errors of others is to express our truth, then withdraw our attention from it. Be only love, teach only love, share only love.

To fight something or attack it is to make it seem as if error and illusion have power. Reality will naturally teach and correct anyone lost in error. All you need to do about it is express yourself fully, illuminate the error, and show the alternative. Then move on with things, withdraw your attention from error and illusion.

This either corrects the error or repels the ego away naturally. You never have to make any decision to cut someone off. Simply speak your loving truth and let them decide what to do with you.

If you react to anything in any other way than by telling your deepest truth lovingly, you end up teaching the wrong lesson and helping no one.

Only love has the power to correct error. I will give you an example. Last week, we went camping. There was this large family who seemed to think the entire campground was their private party. They drank, blasted loud music, and sang for three days straight. Everyone around was frustrated and annoyed with them.

Some people gave dirty looks, but it didn't help. On the first night, I even walked over and asked them to please be quieter twice. Nothing seemed to solve the problem.

On the third day, I asked myself to dig deeper. I asked, what is the loving response? I asked myself, if I could find the courage to say anything at all, is there anything that would help them see the error and care how they were spoiling everyone else's time?

Here's what I came up with: "Isn't it wonderful how all these people accept you as you are? Even though you are spoiling our time a little with all the noise, we all accept you."

I thought it might work, but I didn't see how I could just walk over to the group and randomly say this. My daughter urged me to be brave and do it, but I thought it was maybe inappropriate and of no use.

A while later, surprisingly, the man who owned the large speaker came right toward me to ask for a lighter. I went for it. I said just what I had thought earlier.

He looked utterly confused, as if he thought we all enjoyed their loud partying and wanted to know more about what I meant. I left it at that.

He went back to the dozen or so others in his group, we heard them quietly talking about what I had said…as if trying to grasp it.

Things finally quieted down, and we never heard another loud noise from them the rest of the time. The situation was resolved without any conflict. Maybe they became aware of the respect we all showed them, and became inspired to finally offer the same in return.

To answer your questions directly:

If we start to be unaffected by outward events, does it mean we will be indifferent towards injustice to ourselves or others?

No. What does your outrage about something do that is constructive? Love has nothing to do with feelings of guilt.

For example, will an egoless person be indifferent to being abused or bullied by others, or indifferent to others being abused like animal cruelty?

No. An egoless person will speak freely and openly about it; but will not carry any burden about it.

Should we keep up relations with those who keep hurting us?

We should tell them exactly how we feel, asking for nothing. They will either recognize and respond to our needs, or they will choose separation.

And is it ego if one does not wish to be taken for granted?

If you feel you are taken for granted, you should only communicate about how you feel in the purest, most loving way.

And does setting boundaries come from ego?

Yes, the ego is all about separation. It is all about closing and withdrawing from your brothers and sisters, from God. How can there be boundaries when, on the level of consciousness—our true identity—we are exactly the same, we are one?

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