Posts categorized "Relationships"

The Egoless.Love video course; everything you need to be happy in your romantic relationship

If you are not happy in your relationship or marriage, I have something really exciting for you. I am currently putting together a video course called Egoless.Love. It is an in-depth video series that teaches everything you need to build a loving, joyful, fun relationship that cannot break. 

Maybe you aren't being treated fairly in your relationship. You feel controlled and manipulated, or your partner isn't trying hard enough. Maybe there's resentment, not enough sex, too much arguing and fighting, not enough honest communication or fun. It really doesn't have to be this way. Don't give up on your relationship just yet.

It isn't that you don't love your partner. The problem is that the world has been teaching us the wrong way to love. There is a better way to do relationships so that the love never dies, you are both happy, there's nothing to argue about, and everything is always good. 7 years ago, my wife and I discovered this radically different and better way to do relationships. Now we're teaching all the lessons and leave nothing out. 

In the course, you will learn about the destructive force of ego in your relationship. You will have a chance to look at how we are taught to use guilt and attack to change people (and it this never works). You will enjoy a workshop to learn the skill of non-violent communication. You will find out how to be honest and want honesty and openness in your relationship. You will even be freed from the grip of sexual jealousy. You will learn to love yourself and find lasting inner peace. 

The course also includes in-depth teaching on topics of identity and spirituality. You will overcome the fear-based, destructive ego-identity by shifting to the true thought system of perfect love. I will also teach present moment awareness, how to observe the voice in the head, and how to gain control over negative emotions.

The most exciting part is that Egoless.Love is fail-proof. If you apply the lessons, the outcome will be perfect love and joy in your relationships. The course is coming very soon.


On setting rules & boundaries

Setting a rule or making anything taboo is asking another person to lie to you. Do you value knowing or not knowing? If you value knowing, then don't make knowing impossible by setting limits on truth.

In all areas of life, it is the lack of both honesty and unconditional acceptance that causes suffering. You cannot claim to want the truth and not choose unconditional acceptance--which is simply a decision for truth everywhere.

Lies will suffocate any relationship; causing mistrust, resentment, distance and loneliness. Being limited by someone else's demands—because you are afraid of what might happen, or because you want to protect someone else's feelings—also feels lousy and is completely unnecessary. 

There is nothing wrong with you and, therefore, there is nothing wrong with telling your truth and living it. Same goes for your loved ones. If you love them, let them be who they are.

When there is perfect honesty combined with love, all issues can be dealt with and worked through. As you truly communicate, that blissful, energetic feeling of love will be kept alive. You will be blessed with an open heart and mind. Youthful energy will flow through you at any age. If this is what you want, unconditional love is the only way.

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If you want perfect honesty, you will need to learn unconditional acceptance. If you place any limits on truth, you will not have it.


Relationships without rules are filled with a bliss that can continue as long as perfect honesty also continues.


Stop trying to control. Let go of fixed plans and concepts, and the world will govern itself. (Tao Te Ching, 57)

However noble our intentions may be or how true our opinions may seem, the line is crossed the instant we try to impose our will upon another. Everyone already has limitless power, and it rests in our ability to think, to feel, to express ourselves fully and do as we please. If we happen to speak and live the truth, others will follow willingly and enthusiastically.

Oftentimes, however, we get frustrated when others fail to share our intentions or agree with our opinions. Rather than respecting those differences and honoring free will, we may then wish to impose our will and to control others. We may even adopt political ideologies which restrict personal liberty. So sure of our fixed plans and concepts, we may even justify or applaud heavy-handed politicians who brutally impose severe limits on freedom.

But harmony and balance is impossible so long as anyone is attempting to control anyone else. The world becomes blocked. Nothing works quite right, and the reason is that so many fixed plans and concepts are being imposed upon people despite our God-given, inalienable right to exercise free will.

Everything that makes life worth living flows from truth, beauty and freedom. The argument against freedom is the opposite of wisdom. What we need, want and desire on the deepest level arises from the basic freedom to be who we are, unrestricted. Can we not allow one another the right to speak our truths and to live as we choose?

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Healing is the recognition of the truth in things

Inspiring words are nice, but you can’t control your thoughts and you can’t force yourself to feel what you don’t. It is enough to simply observe your thoughts and to feel your feelings.

You can just observe your thoughts and emotions in a detached way, from the perspective of the observer—as consciousness itself. You are not your thoughts; rather, the one observing your mind. When you feel fear, worry, tension, confusion—you can try to just notice it, smile at it, or shake your head at it. None of it is real. This is only the conditioned, “educated” mind doing what it does.

In this mad world, we all have negative thoughts and feelings from time to time. False positivity is dishonest and unhelpful. No solution or progress is possible absent of honesty and truth.

Healing is the recognition of the truth in things. We can accept it and see it for what it is. This is a gradual process of undoing, and there is so much that must be undone. We can remove the errors, the illusions, the confusion—end the madness of all the world by honestly looking at it.

The way isn’t easy, but it is the only way now. We can try to resist for a little longer, but ultimately there is no path forward other than love. Love is impossible absent of honesty and truth, and inevitable with it.

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Can you love people and lead them without imposing your will? (Tao Te Ching)

Love does not force anything upon anyone and does not restrict. It does not command, insist, or expect.

To properly and effectively lead others is only to love them. Love nurtures by providing a feeling of safety, comfort and support. Love frees a person to become the best version of him or herself. Love undoes fear, gives permission, and accepts everything about the person and the journey.

What reason can there be to impose your will upon others? It is not the struggle of your will; rather, the effortlessness of your love that provides everything wanted and needed in any situation. To value anything other than love is to misunderstand what love is.

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You cannot communicate by not communicating

Because of pride, sometimes we choose not to say what we really mean or feel. Instead, we may try to use body language, passive-aggressive silence, or even attack to communicate what we mean to say without saying it—and then we expect the message to be received and somehow understood.

In truth, nothing can be understood unless it is well-communicated. If you love someone, say it. If someone says or does something that hurts you, tell the person how you feel. If you are afraid to lose someone, be honest. If you feel lonely even while in a relationship, find a way to gently say it. If there is something you really want to do with another person, simply express the need.

Any level of understanding in human relationships is difficult enough to achieve even when we are being completely open, honest and accepting. But withhold honesty, keep things inside, or let another person’s behavior silently eat away at you and the relationship begins to feel unbearable. Resentment begins and now everything is a problem. Then, from this place of frustration and suffering, what ends up happening is that your behavior starts to appear crazy to the other person because they have no idea what’s going on.

Trying to communicate by not communicating doesn’t work. It is only pride, which is a pillar of the ego, that would have you attempt such insanity. True communication requires vulnerability. If there is a problem in any relationship, simply be honest about your inner world. Say what you mean. Encourage the other person to do the same. Now you are communicating, and any problem is easily overcome.

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A relationship that can break is a relationship that never even was

If there is something real between two people, then it is eternal and beyond threat. If it can be broken at all, then it was never real.

That which is true is, by definition, unchanging and eternal. Real human relationships, because they are based on love (the invisible energy of soul or spirit), are eternal. Love is unconditional and does not change. A relationship is a bond that is based on love.

Sometimes the mind can make us believe we are in an unbreakable relationship when it isn’t so. When we feel the need to hold onto a person—perhaps through argument, manipulation and debate—we are not in a real relationship. This type of connection is very brittle because it is based upon external factors and conditions, which are unstable and always changing.

Broken relationships are a tragedy not because they end; rather, because they never began and never even existed.

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