Posts categorized "Personal Development"

Sacrifice is no path to happiness

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We were taught to sacrifice not only our time and energy—but also our honesty. These days, it can seem impossible just to tell the truth. We’re made to feel guilty and afraid, always needing to prove who’s right and who’s better, in a game of pretending to be normal.

But almost every problem is first caused by a well-intentioned decision for dishonesty. We withhold honesty because we want to avoid problems in our relationships, but the result is always stress and confusion. Then, when lies are eventually exposed, the result of dishonesty is always crisis.

Only perfect honesty heals by breaking the cycle of suffering and crisis. I’ve just finished writing a powerful new eBook called “The Switch”. This book will show you there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you, and no reason for you to withhold honesty. This book sets you free to come out of the dark, to tell your truth, and to live it. Now your life is going to get a lot more fun.

More to come. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


If the human race is to survive, it will have to go on to the next phase. (Eckhart Tolle)

If the human race is to survive, we need only remember what matters. At some level, we all know that our way of life is unsustainable, that we are on a crash course, and that at some point the collective ego will have caused so much destruction to the planet that the human race cannot survive.

What are we supposed to do about it? We don’t have the power to overthrow the government, or even the arguments to convince our neighbors to change their minds. If it all feels outside your control, that’s because it is. The good news is that there is no true power in external doing anyway. Power is, by definition, something you can control. The only realm you can control is within.

A person who has awakened to the love within can cause no harm. Here, there is no conflict, no greed, no hunger to acquire more, no need to take from another. In love, there is no miscreation of monstrosities—only creations that are useful, healthful, and beautiful. In love, there can be no lack, no brother or sister is left to suffer, no desire to cause harm to life, and no problems.

One day we will look back on life before love as if it were only a terrible dream. Until then, we continue bringing the light of love tomorrow and each day after that.

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Projection

The ego uses projection to reinforce its idea of specialness or separation. “Projection” is a psychological theory in which we reject our own qualities or impulses by denying their existence in ourselves while attributing them to others.

Projection is an attempt to exclude something about you that you do not want. By attempting to project it onto others and then remove yourself from them, you attempt to rid yourself of that part of you. This is an attempt to make the other guilty and to make yourself innocent; then use this as a justification for attack.

You would not see any guilt in the other unless you had first recognized it in yourself. Attempting to throw it outside of yourself and to stick it on the other is a game that does nothing to help you or anyone.

Better to honestly look within and forgive yourself, accept yourself, love yourself unconditionally. Then you can leave others in peace so that they can do the same. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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The way to end a bad dream is to awaken.

In sleep, a nightmare may cause you so much disturbance that you eventually escape that dream by waking. Now from the awakened perspective, you realize that it was only a dream and that there’s nothing to be afraid of. Calm settles over you, you close your eyes and drift off into a peaceful sleep.

To believe you are only this physical form, this body and mind in this time and place, is like being lost in a dream without knowing it. To be spiritually unawake is to experience the ups and downs of temporary highs followed by suffering and depression. All the while, you are afraid because you feel vulnerable; seeing this temporary existence as all there is.

Terrible suffering, like a terrible dream, reminds us that there is a way out. We remember that it is possible to awaken. Life gives you whatever level of suffering you need to reach this point of escape from the dream. If a little bit of suffering doesn’t do the trick, here comes a bit more, and still more, and finally a challenge so impossible, a pain so deep that you reach your limit.

Spiritual awakening is like coming up for air, entering another realm, finding peace and love like you’ve never known. From this higher perspective, life is no longer scary. You can rest your head on the pillow and go on—this time without the ups and downs, without the suffering—in peace and stillness. This time the colors are more alive, there is beauty everywhere and life becomes a good dream.

These spiritual teachings are pointers that I hope you remember when the suffering becomes too great. Better yet, don’t wait for any more suffering. Awaken from life while you are still alive, while you can still enjoy this dream. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Beauty is experienced only when the mind is still.

“Mind can neither recognize nor create beauty.” -Eckhart Tolle

The greater your ability to see without thought or to observe without labeling, the greater your capacity to experience and appreciate beauty. Others may talk of a beautiful day, comment on a beautiful flower, but beauty can only be experienced in the absence of thought, the absence of words and labels.

“The mind, left to itself, creates monstrosities.” Most of today’s art and music is created purely from the mind. An artist who does not know how to stop thought cannot create anything of beauty—only works of ambition that fail to truly inspire; rather, only capture attention for a moment.

An egoic work of ambition sometimes produces short-term success, but only along with expensive and dishonest promotion. As the promotion ends, it will be almost entirely forgotten. Works of true beauty, on the other hand, slowly grow in popularity and then endure for ages. That which carries true beauty is timeless.

To create from the dimension of being, which requires the awareness of total truth and honesty, takes almost no thought and little effort. Creating a true work of beauty is fun, and leaves you energized and inspired. Here there is no ambition, no desperation, no awareness of competition and also no possibility of failure.

Now we learn to create gaps in thought, so that we can create beauty from the state of being. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Attack is really just a call for love. (A Course in Miracles)

The ego emotionally responds to attack with anger, then seeks revenge in the name of “teaching a lesson”. But spirit looks beyond the attack form, sees only a brother or sister in need of love and offers just that.

The error of attack is always a cry for help—a misguided plea for love, peace, happiness. Any form of attack—including shaming, blaming, shouting, accusing, judging, punishing, or even sarcasm—is an expression of uncontrolled egoic pain. If you are not yet awakened, attack typically makes you mad and you will respond with anger or frustration.

Rooted in being, you know that you cannot be diminished or threatened and; therefore, you need offer no defense. A defenseless response to attack or threat can be as unemotional as saying “could be” or “is that so?”. While this feels unnatural, you will find that this passive response diminishes the attack by not making it real. To defend yourself or counter-attack, on the other hand, makes the whole thing real.

Eventually, there is always calm after any attack. Wait for it, then talk lovingly with the person suffering to find out what the real need is. Accept, forgive, move on. This is not your diminishment—this is you at your greatest, as a miracle worker.

“What is a good man but a bad man's teacher?
What is a bad man but a good man's job?
If you don't understand this, you will get lost, however intelligent you are.
It is the great secret.”
-Tao Te Ching

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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How to avoid anger.

“Anger cannot occur unless you believe that you have been attacked, that your attack is justified in return, and that you are in no way responsible for it.” A Course in Miracles

Consider the sanity of these beliefs. Can the actions of another really be an attack designed to hurt you? Isn’t it more likely that the perceived offense isn’t about you at all; rather, about the other person expressing something or even just living freely? Even if you do perceive error, use the language of love—unconditional acceptance and forgiveness—to correct it.

If an attack is directed at you, might it be that the intention is to communicate something or “teach you a lesson”? Perhaps this person has errored in the belief that attack is an effective learning instrument. Respond without anger, and also teach that it is not.

Everyone has a thought system, and everyone teaches it by living it. A person who believes attack is real believes that that blame, shame, or punishment can teach a lesson. In truth, attack never teaches the intended lesson. It only teaches that anger is justified and that violence solves problems.

If you believe your attack has ever solved a problem, you believe in an illusion and you are being deceived. If attack teaches only anger or retribution, then perhaps it is time to rethink.

“You cannot be attacked, attack has no justification, and you are responsible for what you believe.” Indeed, you are spirit and spirit cannot be attacked or threatened. Identify with spirit and perceive all forms of attack as a call for love. Seen in this light, love is the appropriate response and retribution is never justified.

You are responsible for your thought system. Now we choose peace rather than anger. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Nothing the ego sees is interpreted correctly. (A Course in Miracles)

The ego interprets everything it sees for the purpose of itself. So what is the egoic self and what does it want?

The way we have been describing ego, one might imagine some terrible parasite. You might think I’m suggesting that an egoic person is one who is “possessed”. My response would be; yes, that’s exactly what the ego is. The Bible uses the ancient metaphor of a serpent or the devil. Most Christians haven’t realized that being saved is just another term for escaping the ego. These Christians are attempting to interpret The Bible through the ego; therefore, nothing is interpreted correctly.

Eckhart Tolle sometimes calls ego the pain body. Indeed, to be possessed by this parasite is a source of pain and suffering. The ego, like any creature, must feed. Every so often, it gets hungry for more pain, more drama, more suffering. It gets so hungry that it is no longer satisfied by just torturing you. It must feed by attacking another. The simplest solution for the ego is to attack the very people we claim to love. The ego turns families into an emotional, toxic wasteland—the perfect environment for the ego to thrive.

We fight, yell, throw stuff, and then in the end proclaim, “I’m sorry, I don’t know what came over me.” The answer is clear: you were possessed by ego and it needed to feed. Now it got what it needed and can remain under control for a little while. But it will happen again and again until you learn to lay ego aside for good.

To live in the egoic state is normal in this world. It is also the cause of all suffering in this world. Choose love, honesty, acceptance, and forgiveness and the ego within you will die. Also, the ego cannot survive if you become fully aware of the present moment and learn to live in this state.

Most people believe that you need some ego. I have found that it is possible to escape ego entirely and that nothing of value is missing in this exchange of guilt for joy, viciousness for love, pain for peace. “Delay does not matter in eternity, but it is tragic in time.” We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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