Stress helps nothing

Challenges come all the time and cannot be avoided. What we do have control over is our reaction. When people react to problems in frustration or anger, they create stress for themselves and others.

What purpose does this reaction serve? Has anything ever been taught or learned, or has any problem ever been solved through stress?

Even when nothing happens, we imagine a terrible thing that might happen. When we believe every thought is real, we worry all day and night. The heart starts beating in panic, we get exhausted, lose sleep, and ultimately develop illness—and all because of this thing called stress.

What is stress but another word for madness?

I used to believe that stress fired me up and gave me energy to get things done. Then I began meditating each day. I found out that you can get a lot more done in a calm, relaxed state. The peace, calm, and restfulness I feel after a 15-minute mediation puts me in a state where I can be very productive and effective for hours. Now I meditate to reset whenever I want to do something well, or even when I want to enjoy myself.

In a relaxed state, the quality of your work improves, you make better decisions without emotion, your relationships are more solid, and you don’t get tired as fast. Time efficiency isn’t the most critical success factor; your state of being is.

Stress serves no positive purpose. It is an insane reaction to belief in fear. It is also the cause of accidents, conflict, disease, exhaustion and failure. Let’s stop believing that stress is okay and then learn to overcome it so that we can enjoy life right now and always.

112

The Switch is the eBook and Audiobook about using the power of honesty to enjoy life and avoid crisis.

I'll die smiling

Trying

Lyrics to "I'll Die Smiling" by Abscondo

Abscondo - I'll Die Smiling

Out of place
Some street in London's left me out of place
Looked right at you, did you see my face?
Seems all of London's going separate ways
I'll go mine

To New York
No sky above me as I walk its floor
Bright lights attack me but I just ignore
Seems like New York's becoming such a bore
A waste of time

But time is still the question
What are you gonna do?
From infinite directions
You've got to choose a few

So I've searched some sad, sad cities
I've seen some semblance of the truth
I've walked so many journeys
That I've worn these scuffed-up shoes

So I'll die smiling
And I'll die trying

Deep in love
A heart that's beating should be deep in love
She looks right at me as we float above
Seems so sudden we face questions of
These two lives

Like before
A heart that's beating looks for something more
We can't stop walking through that open door
So, yes, you've got me but like I said before
This is mine

So time is still the question
What are you gonna do?
From infinite directions
You've got to choose a few

I've sought some sense of newness
And I've heard never-ending calls of youth
Yeah I've known what it means to do this
because I've shattered each excuse

And I'll die smiling
Because I'll die trying

Listen on Apple Music, Spotify and Deezer

The Switch is the eBook and Audiobook about using the power of honesty to enjoy life and avoid crisis.

A person who is afraid of love does not know what love is.

People say they are afraid of love because they might get hurt. All fear of love is identification with ego and allegiance to it. It is only the ego that fears love, and only to protect itself.

A person afraid of love does want someone nearby—a partner to control, manipulate, and use for practical purposes. This person wants to be able to argue, attack, correct, punish, blame, shame and make wrong. Apologies and occasional acts of kindness are offered as a last resort—used only so that you stay around for the cycle of more drama, more attack, more diminishment and more misery.

This is what the world calls love. When someone claims to be afraid to love you, the fear is only that you won’t forever play your assigned role in their tragic drama. This, the normal state of marriage, is the ego’s playground. Here, true love is resisted and not desired because it would be the destruction of ego. This is known as "resentment".

To know love is to know that it gives you everything. When you have everything, then something different would be less. Identified with love, ego becomes unnecessary and wholly undesirable. True love is the total undoing of ego.

Only after ego has been undone are you able to love. As they say, love yourself first—which is only possible after the escape from ego. Now you can connect with other beautiful spirits in love. Now there is nothing to be afraid of because, through love, you are already perfect and complete. Now you can actually enjoy life right now and always.

111

The Switch is the eBook and Audiobook about using the power of honesty to enjoy life and avoid crisis.

We are more than body and mind.

There is a dimension of our being that is beyond physical form and yet more real than anything observable. This is the self that cannot be seen, nor understood, nor possessed.

We can study our biology—observing the heartbeat and measuring mind activity—yet will this ever help us understand what exactly is life? Where is life? Is it a thing that can be physically seen? Held? Observed? Understood by the mind? Where does it come from? Why does some matter possess this thing called life and other matter does not?

We can observe everything that life does, but it is impossible to observe what life is. We are alive, and so the same can be said of us: we can observe everything that we do, but we cannot observe what we are.

This simple awareness of what we are frees us from what is unreal and changes everything. To know, each moment, what we are is to place the mind and body in service to complete truth and knowledge—the source of all consciousness, creation and power.

Now we move beyond words like “spiritual”, “God”, “soul”, or even “love”. This is an experience of true enjoyment.

110

The Switch is the eBook and Audiobook about using the power of honesty to enjoy life and avoid crisis.

Truth is the opposite of what the ego has learned.

This statement contains two words that are an immediate turn-off for most people: “truth” & “ego”. There are two reasons for this: 1) the ego is threatened when it becomes aware of itself, and 2) the ego wants to invent its own truths—which are always limited to that which is impermanent and therefore cannot be true.

The ego’s basic doctrine is, “Seek but do not find.” The ego deceives you by promising happiness, then leads you down a path in which only short-term pleasure or satisfaction is possible. Following ego, you are led away from the place of truth where you were already perfectly happy and complete—and into the chaos of constant sacrifice aimed at delivering only short-term highs followed by painful and depressing lows.

From a very young age, you have been taught there is no other way. The real truth has been called naïve, impossible—and you have been convinced that there is no alternative to what the ego calls “normal”. In a world dominated by ego, truth is always the opposite of normal.

The truth is that you do not need the ego. You need only tell the truth and want only truth. Here, your knowledge is complete and there is no confusion.

Now your life is aligned with reality. Your abilities are limitless, your happiness is constant, you are free, and your life is abundant. 

109

The Switch is the eBook and Audiobook about using the power of honesty to enjoy life and avoid crisis.

Let go of the past and begin every day at a higher level of love. (Don Miguel Ruiz)

The romantic realm is love’s playground. Here you learn to serve love, you teach love, you play, you grow and have fun. “Love is what makes you happy, and if you become the servant of love, and your partner becomes the servant of love, you can just imagine all the possibilities.

To serve love is your highest ideal—your goal at home, at work, in every aspect of life. In the confused mind, there were times when you did not know this. You therefore must first forgive yourself and everyone else who does not know this. Forgiveness, or unconditional acceptance, is a powerful letting go of everything that is not love—a seeing of only love and a shrugging-off of all else.

“The day will come when you can be with your partner with no guilt and no blame, no anger and no sadness.” Let go of the past and forgive so that there is no resentment, you can be yourself, and you can have fun.

“You are there to serve your love to your lover, to be each other’s servant. In every kiss, in every touch, you feel you are each there to please the one you love, without expecting anything back.” In this type of relationship, “Sex becomes a complete surrendering, a dance, an art, a supreme expression of beauty.”

“It’s no longer a war of control; it’s about service.” This is true enjoyment.

-Quotes from Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz

108

-Quotes from Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz

The Switch is the eBook and Audiobook about using the power of honesty to enjoy life and avoid crisis.

Abscondo Podcast #71: The Switch

You can listen to the full podcast here:

Abscondo Podcast 71

* Streaming audio on an iPhone often leads to skipping. Please find the Abscondo Podcast using your Podcast App.

NewPodcastLogo

Also available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and other Podcast Channels. 

The Switch is the eBook and Audiobook about using the power of honesty to enjoy life and avoid crisis.

When you are in love...

446

What most people don’t know is that the feeling of love is what happens whenever you are open. Open your mind and heart completely to experience the natural energy—the force of life—that comes from within. 

The wonderful feeling of love—the ultimate experience of being alive—wasn’t something given to you by the person you were in love with; rather, it was a feeling that happened inside you because you were wide open to another being. You were perfectly honest, open, and accepting of yourself and the other. You felt how someone really gets you. You felt understood. Well, yes, you were understood because you were honest and open. And it was bliss.

The Switch is the eBook and Audiobook about using the power of honesty to enjoy life and avoid crisis.

About "The Switch" by Abscondo

You can only enjoy life when you are free to openly be yourself. Yet most people hide their real feelings, needs, and desires.

Despite how others can make you feel, the truth is that you are not guilty of anything. Your truths are not wrong — so why hide anything?

The problem is that to withhold honesty is to try to make illusion real rather than truth. This always causes stress, suffering and crisis because illusion cannot be made real.

You can learn to use the power of perfect honesty to end suffering and prevent crisis in your life. You can find peace by freeing yourself from the confused thought system of dishonesty.

This eBook will inspire you to rediscover your perfect inner strength, courage, and wisdom. The way to find lasting peace and happiness in your life is through the power of your loving honesty.

For $10, you’ll get instant access to the eBook PDF and Audiobook versions of The Switch. Follow the link below for more info:

Learn more and buy The Switch

The Switch smaller cover for blog

The Switch is the eBook and Audiobook about using the power of honesty to enjoy life and avoid crisis.

The problem is that you almost never say exactly what you mean.

You so rarely confess how you really feel. You are almost never open about what really excites you, what really bores you, and what you really want or would do if you were totally free.

Now consider the fact that nobody is telling you what they mean either. This has caused a detachment from reality.

You think that, by filtering what you do and say so that it is socially acceptable, you are gaining relationships and your life is going more smoothly. But by limiting your telling of the truth, you are limiting the life you were meant to live and teaching dishonesty to all.

To be honest and to tell the truth is the experience of true enjoyment.

445

The Switch is the eBook and Audiobook about using the power of honesty to enjoy life and avoid crisis.