Posts categorized "Love"

When there is no desire, all things are at peace. (Lao Tzu)

What are we supposed to do about our desire? Are we supposed to get rid of it, eliminate it within us, subdue it or perhaps even fight against it? No, this is impossible.

We said in the last lesson that if you want to get rid of something, you must first allow it to flourish. What is desire but the wanting of something you have not yet not experienced? Therefore, by experiencing what you desire, the desire immediately fades. It changes from a fantasy or longing into something else—something real.

When we do what excites us, when we follow our passions, then desire is replaced with knowing. The frustration of wanting is replaced with the satisfaction of having experienced. Here all things are at peace.

So much of the insane behavior of this world is driven by a situation where we do not allow ourselves what we desire. We replace true desires with consumption or spiritual practices designed to deny ourselves. Yet the desire never fades and there is no peace. Better to do what excites you. Do it with love and do it fully. What you are left with is either something you want more of or not, but at least you can know that you have overcome desire.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Miracles are only a decision to heal.

Miracles are not difficult. They happen whenever we choose to heal ourselves and our relationships with love.

To resist miracles, on the other hand, is difficult. This is a stubborn choice for pain over joy, specialness over union, illness over health, death over life, and illusion over truth. You would not make this insane choice, but your ego would.

The ego is the confused voice in the head arguing for a world designed to exploit us. Through the forced repetition of twisted logic, at some point in our lives we all become conditioned, domesticated, enslaved.

Then one day, when the suffering becomes too much and some light shines through our cracks, we so easily awaken from the bad dream to become aware of consciousness.

But continue to obey the ego—that voice in the head that sounds like yours—and delay miracles; which are already yours in love.

We continue in perfect love tomorrow and each day after that.

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To undo the disastrous effects of tyranny, we need only awaken to being and recondition the mind to love.

We have fought the system for centuries and have been ignored. We have engaged in our so-called democracies only to watch government corruption and oppression increase while the faces change. We’ve tried to ignore it. We’ve complained about it. We know the truth about it. Still nothing changes.

But there is something we haven’t tried yet: a consciousness revolution. It is the only true and lasting revolution because it is the only loving one. If the problem is a system based on fear, then the solution is a movement based on love.

Each person who awakens—there are already millions of us around the world and growing—becomes a revolutionary without any risk or effort at all. We cannot be manipulated because we are not fearful. We cannot be lied to because anything that is not love is easily ignored. We don’t respond to threat and intimidation because we are perfectly peaceful and cause no harm. We don’t engage much with the institutions because external form doesn’t really matter. Perfect health and happiness is already present within, so the cycle of additions are broken and destructive consumption decreases.

The only problem in this world is ego. To doubt this is to believe in the system. All centralized institutions are egoic in their functioning. To engage with them is to engage in ego. No change and no victory can be found here.

Freedom is decentralized. Authority comes from within. The solutions come from us—but only when we escape our egos and ignore ego anywhere and everywhere it exists. Only our light can change the world—not through doing; rather, through being. Spread the word. Teach.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.
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There is a good which has no opposite.

To seek happiness in the external is to experience life as a series of highs and lows. However high you rise, you’ll fall just as far.

We think that, by learning to effectively control events, the lows can be avoided. But even after a lifetime spent reaching for the good in external situations or events, we only continue to slip further away from lasting happiness.

What we want is lasting happiness. Moments of beauty, bliss and fun are nice…but not so much if they are always followed by equally dramatic lows. We want a good which has no opposite. This can only be found within. External situations and events do not determine the way you feel or how you experience the present moment. Do not give them this power.

Nothing external can take away your ability to breath calmly, to take a moment for yourself in meditation, to focus awareness on the totality of the present moment.

Nothing external can prevent you from aligning with the thought system of perfect love.

Nothing external is preventing you from forgiving everyone and everything always.

Nothing external is taking away your freedom to make new choices.

Nothing external prevents you from creating loving value by shining your light in service of the good which has no opposite.

We stop fighting for victory in the external. Victory is found within and then effortlessly extended to the external.

External events are not that important. It doesn’t mean we won’t face challenges, that we won’t get sad, that we won’t miss someone…it means that we make peace even with this. Beneath the external events, there is always an oasis of calm, good energy, love and beauty. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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I am not special

I am the one consciousness. This body is made of all the same building blocks as yours—which is the same matter that makes up the rest of the universe. I am you and you are me.

Because I am not special, I cannot judge you.

Because I am not special, I see nothing to be desired in any walls of separation between us.

Because I am not special, I have nothing to fear and nothing to defend.

Because I am not special, I see no difference between pure giving and receiving.

Specialness is the belief that gives rise to the full spectrum of the ego’s insanity. Without belief in specialness, there is no ego. Without ego, what emerges is perfect love, compassion and kindness, union and peace, joy and bliss, true freedom and effortless abundance.

But believe that you are special and expend great effort in a foolish attempt to prove that which is false. All the image-projecting, all the debating and arguing, the judgment and attack, all the rules and boundaries, the cutting-off of this person in favor of that person—it is all for nothing. It will never be true and will only lead to momentary highs followed by depression and misery.

The ego is nothing. It is a thought system based upon a false belief. Know this and you are already awake. Doubt only causes further delay.

If there are differences in our stories, in our physical details, our skills, or our interests…so what? It’s nice. It’s interesting. But our wisdom is rooted in the knowledge that we are one on the level that matters. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Most fathers would never walk away. More often, they are thrown away.

To become a mother or a father is one of life’s great callings. We naturally love our children wholly and unconditionally. Relationships between men and women, however, are often a bit trickier.

In a relationship between the two decent and loving parents, access to the child is beyond question. The right for both of you to be parents has nothing to do with the difficulties between you. Yet too often, a parent who has not become fully conscious might attach rules, expectations and conditions to a relationship—and then subtly use access to the child as a sort of personal right or bargaining chip.

When this loveless strategy invariably fails, a judgment is then often made that the non-compliant party “has other priorities” or “doesn’t love the child enough”. Often, he is cut out. His role as a father is then forcibly diminished.

If you are a man, this is the almost inevitable, excruciating outcome of having children with someone who is not deeply committed to unconditional love. Don’t do it. Before you decide to have a child with a woman, be sure that access to that child comes with no threats or conditions. You deserve perfect love and your unborn children deserve the love that only you can give.

Let mothers love their children fully. Let fathers be present in their lives to also love them fully. Your children deserve all the love and attention that nature has inspired you both to give. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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No belief is neutral. (A Course in Miracles)

"No belief is neutral. Every one has the power to dictate each decision you make. A decision is a conclusion based on everything you believe. It is the outcome of belief.” - A Course in Miracles

Contrary to what the ego believes, we are neither rational nor unbiased. Every one of our actions, behaviors, and decisions are an outcome of our beliefs. Nobody is neutral because no belief is neutral.

Purification is the decision to align our beliefs with higher truths. It is a choice to disassociate with the ego and its thought system of fear and separation—a decision to embrace love, to value the miracle of the now, to practice non-resistance and to always respond to everything only in love.

Higher truth is taught in many concepts and words, yet it is one. There is perfect knowledge beyond confused perception.

We believe not that we are our minds; rather, we know that our identity is consciousness.

We believe not in fear; rather, we know that we are eternally invulnerable beyond form.

We believe not in salvation in time; rather, we know that we are perfectly complete now.

We believe not in manipulation or attack; rather, in the thought system of perfect love—which is effortlessly giving, creating, accepting, open, free, fearless, joyful, blissful, and capable of solving every problem because the only problem is lack of love.

Purified, we feel the perfect energy flow from within and life is instantly and constantly perfect. From this place, our decisions are very different. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.      

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Only a purpose unifies, and those who share a purpose have a mind as one. (A Course in Miracles)

State your purpose loud and clear and then live it. Others, who share your purpose, will join with you in perfect harmony.

Whenever a purpose is shared, the other details are worked out rather easily. Things flow effortlessly. The relationship is enjoyable and you feel good together.

But a relationship without a shared purpose will be filled with negotiation, debate, and conflict. This type of relationship is all about trying to change each other, trying get at least as much as you give. Here you are in opposition and there is no fit.

Healthy relationships are about shared purposes. Make your relationships a celebration of that. Then, set each other free to explore your other purposes—the ones that you don’t share. Do only this and experience perfect happiness in every relationship. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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