The mind can come up with a thousand reasons not to love. Each of these reasons is backed by a strange belief that there is something more desirable than love to be gained. There isn't.
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To forgive is to see something wrong as only a mistake. If an error has been made, even if it is not fixed and there is no apology at all, forgiveness is always the sane and correct response. This doesn't mean you have to go along with a person or situation that you are not inspired to go along with, but the "sin" is not an offense against you to be taken personally.
So what exactly is sin? Sin is where love is not. Anything done in perfect love cannot be an error because love is perfectly honest, open, sensitive, eternally loyal, understanding, giving, and accepting. Within the thought system of love, it is impossible to sin. Sin is only possible when you forget about love as your core value and faith; when you follow the external world's insane lessons instead.
Because so few people have learned unconditional love, the world is filled with sin. The world teaches us that to easily forgive is to let someone off the hook and condone a sinful behavior. But what is the alternative to forgiveness? Non-forgiveness? Non-forgiveness means condemning a person, punishing, attacking in some way, or withdrawing love. Does it make sense to punish someone who is acting without love by withdrawing love?
When there is a genuine willingness, it is entirely possible to correct error. But correction cannot happen if there is attack or punishment because non-forgiveness insanely teaches that the real problem (withdrawal of love) is the solution. If there is non-forgiveness, the problem cannot be solved because the conditions of lovelessness are perpetuated and the ground remains fertile for terrible, disgusting behavior.
This isn't about holding someone guilty, labeling a person as bad, and then speaking the language of forgiveness when it isn't in your heart. If there is any chance of correcting the error of sin, we need to learn to see past the error not as who a person is; rather, a simple, correctable error a person has made. Anything less than total forgiveness is an attempt to make error so real that it is an identity. How can a person change when you have made their error their identity?
By the way, learning the art of forgiveness means starting with yourself. If there is anything you feel guilty of or ashamed of, if there is anything you have not forgiven yourself for, you can now give yourself permission to do so. You can love yourself unconditionally, creating the space in your heart to easily make things right, tell the truth, and to walk the bravest and truest path of all: love.
To atone (at-one) is to be at one, or in union. The word describes a state in which you no longer perceive yourself as separate from other people, from God, or from the universe.
Christians normally use the word to mean something like “confess your sins, humble yourself, come to church and acknowledge Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.” But this is not the real meaning of the word. This version is not even atonement because, to start with, a person using the word in this way is suggesting that we ought not to be at one with other faiths.
The real meaning of the word points to real salvation. A person living in a state of atonement is honest about everything all the time and is no longer split into pieces. Here there is no perception of duality, no good versus evil, everything is one and is part of the greater good pervading everything.
Atonement is a state of being that is beyond thought and aligned with perfect love. Here there is no sin because sin is only the error of thinking and doing without love.
To live in the state of atonement is to experience joy and peace as normal and ongoing. It is to respond to inspiration within, to live in such a way that you are wide open to people. You can easily experience whatever is happening externally because none of it has the power to shake you or bring you down.
To atone for your sins means to end the errors of ego and live at one, in truth. This is salvation, escape from ego, awakening to consciousness, or spiritual awakening—a state of union, oneness that is beyond all words and concepts.
The world’s definition of success is to win the battle against yourself. Think about how insane such a victory would be.
If you sacrifice more, fight harder, work yourself to the point of exhaustion, and if you play your roles flawlessly; then the treasures of security, riches, fame, approval, and recognition are supposedly yours, right? Isn’t this the world’s basic lesson?
Because we know how impossible this battle is, we admire those who achieve worldly success very much. But what exactly are we admiring, and what exactly is everyone trying to defeat?
This is a battle where we attempt to think, say, and do exactly the opposite of how we feel, who we are, and what we would like to do. Why would anyone want to win this war? What could possibly be won in a victory over ourselves?
Is a true victory found in the defeat of the self, or in the full alignment with it? The true self—our life force within, our divine love, our endless creativity, passion, and desire to be free (all those honestly embarrassing truths that we have been taught to hide and repress)—success is what happens when this part of us shines and when we stop carrying the weight of all those dimming expectations of the world.
Success, by the world’s definition, would be death to the self—to the real me and the real you. The path only seems bearable to the extent that we fail. If it were even possible to succeed completely, by the world's definition, it would be no success at all.
This is what Jesus spoke about when he referred to gaining the world but losing the soul. All value is in the soul, spirit, the life force within, consciousness—this is who we are. We create value not by hiding this self; rather, by extending it through loving creation and service. This is true success because it brings not only material abundance and recognition, but also ongoing joy and everything we do want.
You might think I don’t know you well enough to say this, but I do love you as you are. Whatever it is you might be struggling with; I’ve struggled with it too. Whatever the sins you might believe you made; I’ve made them too.
Whatever you tell yourself is wrong with you; I’ve told myself the same things. Whatever state of depression you might be in, whatever doubt, hopelessness, or despair, whatever fears may be keeping you up at night, whatever you feel you have to hide from people, whatever you really think about people, however mad you get, however you struggle with forgiveness or acceptance; I’ve been there and done that.
Yet somehow, miraculously, I learned to love myself. Therefore I know how to love you in just the same way. I remember the moment I learned to see past all this, to grab hold of that dim ray of light inside and let it grow, and I realized in an instant that none of this was ever the truth about me—nor is it about you.
With me, there is nothing you have to hide, nothing you have to be, no way you have to change—I love you unconditionally, right now, and forever.
Before 2020 and the so-called pandemic, it felt like the road was straight and steady. It was never exactly a smooth ride and the views were not great, but we were traveling it for such a long time that it all felt so familiar.
Then came a fork in the road. Even as all the so-called leaders and their unquestioning followers are pointing us clearly toward the paved road on the left, deep down we are questioning whether it is the way.
Gazing down this road, every sign appears incomprehensible, senseless, and confusing. We are told to trust our old guides, to believe they know what they are doing as they continue to assure us that this is the path to safety. And yet, all we see when we look in this direction is insanity with no end.
Is this not a road to nowhere, paved with fear? In truth, they are offering us only violence, confusion, sacrifice, and sickness. This is not like the road we have been on, and not one we would wish to take if there were a choice.
Thankfully, there is a choice. To the right, there is another direction. This road is paved with love. Here, the signs teach us always to forgive ourselves and others, to be our good selves and have fun, to accept reality, to speak honestly and seek truth, to enjoy each moment, to celebrate beauty, to live in perfect health, to create abundance by serving one another in freedom and inspiration, and to teach love to all those along the way who do not know what love is.
The right path is not a fearful road or a difficult journey, so it should not be a difficult decision at all. But it is unfamiliar.
A real choice must be made. Now that we can no longer go straight ahead, we all must choose either the path of ego on the left or the path of unconditional love on the right.
Thankfully, there is some time to learn about these two different roads, and time to contemplate this decision. But there is not much time, and the wrong choice could be deadly.
Illusions carry only guilt and suffering, sickness and death, to their believers. The form in which they are accepted is irrelevant. No form of misery in reason’s eye can be confused with joy. Joy is eternal. (A Course in Miracles)
“Reason will tell you that the only way to escape from misery is to recognize it and go the other way. Truth is the same and misery the same, but they are different from each other in every way, in every instance and without exception. To believe that one exception can exist is to confuse what is the same with what is different.” -A Course in Miracles
The question here is why we should care about illusion vs. truth. Illusion may produce boosts of pride or pleasure—maybe even the temporary feeling of happiness—but it is always short-lived. Interestingly, the price of this happiness—always paid in suffering—is always greater in measure. Thus, our suffering increases as we age and the need to find joy becomes evermore urgent.
It should bring great comfort to understand that, as the course puts it, “illusions must give way to truth, not to other dreams that are equally unreal.” In reality, illusion always does give way to truth—it can be no other way. This appears to take place in time, as our bodies age and we eventually die. Whatever illusions we were clinging to are then instantly gone, and we are released to the dimension of truth, where there is eternal joy if we are prepared for the transition.
But if we wish to end suffering, to experience eternal joy, and to awaken the world from this hell now, we can recognize truth from illusion while we are still alive. These illusions all exist in the external dimension of physical form. Seek meaning or release from suffering there, in the external world, and you will only find more of it.
Truth is in you. It is beyond even words and concepts, which are also form. But there are words and concepts which point to it—such as "God", “perfect love”, “consciousness”, “being”, or “presence”.
The purpose of establishing a daily spiritual practice is to recognize and align with truth each moment. You can still take part in the illusions. You can play the game of life and dance the dance—but in a way that you are not expecting it to save you from suffering or bring you joy.
Our purpose here is not to seek salvation in the external illusions; rather, to recognize the truth within. Tomorrow, I will describe in more detail how to recognize truth vs. illusion. Today’s post was about why, tomorrow’s will be about how.
We are afraid to look within—to explore our inner dimension honestly and deeply—because we are afraid of what we might find. We’re afraid that we will see our own darkness, ugliness, and errors—and that this is the truth about who we are. But anyone who has ever looked deeply within has found just the opposite.
What we have found by looking within is that we are good. Do you not believe you are good? Deep down, everyone does. So why the fear to look within?
To truly look within is not to find guilt; rather, to recognize that all the errors, all the violence, and all the dishonesty in your life is from the external. Sin is of the world, not within us. It is only our belief in a violent, dishonest world that leads us to attack others and do harm.
We lie and treat one another violently only to the extent that we believe in the violence and dishonesty of the world—to the extent that we believe in the media and other centralized institutions of power. To put our faith in these violent institutions is to carry out their violent agendas against our brothers and sisters; hiding the truth of our goodness while causing others to needlessly suffer.
If we look within and come to terms with what we already know to be true—that, at our core, we are pure love and goodness—then we must speak the truth about us and the world. This is what we fear most because we believe the world will punish us for it. The opposite is true.
The world already punishes us though endless, escalating sacrifice and abuse—but this stops when we learn this very lesson. Once it is learned, personal suffering ends because we are immune to the horrible effects of the sick thought system of violence, fear, and abuse. This is the escape from ego and, when this happens, love becomes the only thought system, honesty the only language, and perfect joy the only state of being.
Faith and vision and belief are meaningful only before the state of certainty is reached. (A Course in Miracles)
“In Heaven they are unknown. Yet Heaven is reached through them.”
These teachings are simple and are ultimately about just one thing: establishing complete certainty about love. This—the entering of heaven now, the awakening from the world’s dream of hell in this life and for eternity—cannot be achieved without first taking a leap of faith and trusting an inspired vision.
It is only through faith, vision, and belief that perfect love can be applied and put to the test in reality. Only when love is practiced completely, in every situation, can the truth about love be proven. This is how certainty is reached, and then there is no sliding back into confusion.
Establish faith, see the vision, and believe that perfect healing, total success, joy and salvation are possible. This is an inner journey that requires no sacrifice at all; rather, that you stop holding back your goodness, your truth, your passion, your freedom, your beauty.
I talk a lot about being open and honest, but before this video I was still holding back. Today I share the true story of my marriage, my sex life, my affairs, divorce, threesomes, and what I have learned along the way.
There is a way to overcome jealousy, live your fantasies, and avoid problems in romantic relationships. You can create a lasting, life-long, blissful union without arguments, resentment, or sacrifice.
This is part one.
Part two is a short conclusion to the talk. You can find out how to put some of these ideas into practice by visiting this blog every day and enjoy the free daily teachings, free eBooks, a podcast and so much more.