Posts categorized "Love"

What if you looked within, and found that there is nothing wrong with you?

What if, within you, was the cure to all the problems of the world you think you see?
What if the truth about you is that you are pure love and perfectly lovable?
What if your intuition, your inner voice was the truth and the lessons of the world lies?
What if you looked within, and found the real source of love?
What if you found that you only mean well and are only good?
What if you looked within and found that you have the power to solve every problem?
What if you found that the real you is sinless?
What if you looked within and found nothing to feel guilty or ashamed of?
What if you realized that you are not to blame for the attacks, disappointment, and shaming others have projected upon you?
What if, by looking within, you found that the problem all along was the fear to truly look within?
What if you only looked within, in search of your pure love, your perfect honesty, your need for freedom?
What if, when you find it, you decide for this to become your only reality?
What if you then looked within your brother, your sister, everyone you see in the same way?

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The world you see must be denied

“You do not really want the world you see, for it has disappointed you since time began.” You cannot see the world and at the same time see the spiritual reality. There is a choice: one must be made real and the other denied. One contains everything you want, the other everything you do not want.

When you allow pollution to come into your awareness—whether it be the fear-mongering of the government, the corporate media, the deception of advertising, or negative ideas and conversations—you are pulled away from joy, which is your natural state of being. What you give your attention to must not pull you away from joy, from an underlying sense of ease, from the state where there is calm and peace within. When it does pull you away, you can stop, change course, do a meditation, take a nap, you can do something that makes you feel good and then start again. This is how real problems are solved and progress is made.

Anything done, said, or created when you don’t feel good is a miscreation. All the ugliness of this world was miscreated by people who were detached from the natural state of joy within. All that ugliness cannot be fought from a place of ugliness, but it can be ignored in bliss and left to die.

I do not give any attention or reality to error. I do not debate. I do not get outraged. I am not afraid—for this would make error seem real, to give it power it does not have, and to pull me away from joy. Spiritual vision looks within to recognize and embrace reality, and my reality is identical to yours if you will do the same. It is our choice for love.

Our lives are shaped by where we put our attention. Find the source of love within, where you remember perfectly well that you are innocent and complete. Feel your positive energy growing. Stay connected to this place in all your thinking and doing, ignoring all else. The reality of love, the only reality, is the only power, the energy of life itself, which contains everything you want within it.

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The ego cannot love

They say a perfect relationship does not exist. This is true for people who would choose ego over love. A perfect relationship is, very simply, one made between two people who have decided against ego and in favor of love.

The ego does not know what love is and possesses no qualities capable of responding to it. The ego response to perfect love is either to run from it or to distort it by turning it into what it understands. To greet love with a set of rules, expectations, judgments, and conditions is to decide against mutual bliss in favor of mutual suffering. This is what the world calls a normal, successful relationship. To justify this insanity, we are asked to believe that there is no alternative.

They say that perfect love cannot last, but I assure you that it can and does—not only as a lifelong commitment of partnership, but as an ongoing feeling of perfect bliss. This, the holy relationship, demands of you what the ego cannot do. It is, therefore, only the ego that must be sacrificed…and this is no sacrifice at all because it is only the letting go of everything you do not want.

When you have purified yourself from ego, and the holy relationship is established, then you are accepted unconditionally, you are entirely free, and always open and honest about everything. Can you accept everything about who your partner is and even might do? Everything? If not, you are putting your faith somewhere other than in your love. Unconditional acceptance and total openness is the requirement for love, and is precisely what the ego cannot do.

When I speak of this type of relationship; people always respond, “That isn’t for me.” What this response means is, “I value my false identity as ego more than my true identity as love.” But nobody is going to take away your right to reject love and choose suffering. It is your choice.

Make the need for control real, make attack real, make any rules and conditions real and you instantly banish love at the sad altar of ego. This is the recipe for failure in love because…well…because the ego cannot love. 

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A relationship that can break is a relationship that never even was

If there is something real between two people, then it is eternal and beyond threat. If it can be broken at all, then it was never real.

That which is true is, by definition, unchanging and eternal. Real human relationships, because they are based on love (the invisible energy of soul or spirit), are eternal. Love is unconditional and does not change. A relationship is a bond that is based on love.

Sometimes the mind can make us believe we are in an unbreakable relationship when it isn’t so. When we feel the need to hold onto a person—perhaps through argument, manipulation and debate—we are not in a real relationship. This type of connection is very brittle because it is based upon external factors and conditions, which are unstable and always changing.

Broken relationships are a tragedy not because they end; rather, because they never began and never even existed.

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Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open? (Rumi)

Search for freedom externally and find only closed doors. It is true that there are endless obstacles to freedom in this world, and that's exactly the point. The doorway to freedom cannot be found externally because it is within.

What is freedom but the right to openly and honestly be yourself, to express yourself, to live your dreams and fantasies? Your soul wants to be set free. You want to feel unrestricted, unblocked, unshackled. Why? Because you want to be happy, to have fun, to love and be loved, to learn and to grow and to play. 

The door to all of this is only found within. To open it, open your mind and your heart to perfect love. To the mind, unconditional love is a thought system. To the heart, it is an energy and a state of being that is felt.  You do want freedom, but real and lasting freedom is only accessible when all your faith is in love. All that is not love can be let go of.

This is the only door to freedom: learn what perfect love is, learn to love yourself fully, then extend it freely and align your thoughts with only loving thoughts. Without first doing this, there is no person, situation, or circumstance in the world that could possibly offer you any sort of real or lasting freedom. You may have already been offered freedom, but failed to experience it because you haven't walked through the door within.

Only if aligned with love are you free. You are free to tell the truth, free to connect with other free people in love, free to explore, and if you embody only love you will render ineffective all the world's attempts to restrict your freedom. You are consciousness, which is another word for perfect love. You are eternal. You are beautiful. You are the light. You are free.

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People reject both Love and God because they incorrectly believe that both involve sacrifice

As A Course in Miracles explains, “You believe it is possible to be host to ego or hostage to God.” Indeed, religion has falsely taught us that salvation requires tremendous sacrifices that would rob us of fun and richness of experience in life. While religiosity can make life dull, spiritual awakening brings aliveness.

The story of Christ dying on the cross is not a story of sacrifice; rather, a story about fearlessly overcoming death as spirit-identity. No sacrifice is required to align with God because God is the force of life, itself. It is what we are, beyond the flesh. When you recognize your divine identity, you choose to let the false ego identity go because you simply recognize it as the source of problems. Is ending your problems in this life and beyond a sacrifice?

People misunderstand God as something external, far away, a sort of man in the sky whom we are supposed to fear. This idea of God is so ridiculous that most people, choosing to become agnostic or atheist, assume the world’s false identity of ego instead. The tragic error of ego is undone when we recognize God as the energy and force of life, itself, experienced by humans internally as the energy, feeling, and thought system of Love.

Of course, Love (capitalized because it is divine) is another badly misunderstood concept, for the simple reason that we are taught that it, too, requires sacrifice.   

“Sacrifice is so essential to your thought system that salvation apart from sacrifice means nothing to you. Your confusion of sacrifice and love is so profound that you cannot conceive of love without sacrifice. And it is this you must look upon; sacrifice is attack, not love.”
-A Course in Miracles

To Love fully, to spiritually awaken and to align with the divine thought system of Love, requires no sacrifice at all. Those who would make you sacrifice for love or for salvation are manipulating and exploiting you for very selfish reasons. To embrace this message is to free yourself, to end your suffering, to awaken to truth, reality, and joy. No sacrifice. No fear. Just love.

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My love letter to the stranger on the street who asked me for money

Yes, I could have given you a little bit of money, but I promise you that this letter is far more valuable. The path you are on is not your way. If you can humble yourself to this message, which you were destined to receive, your problems will be gone.

Lack of money is not your real problem. Lack of love is. What you may have never realized is that love is not something that you get from another person. Love is found inside you. It is felt inside when you forgive yourself and remember that you are not guilty of anything.

Deep down, I know that no matter what you’ve done in the past, right now you are good. On the level of the soul—within that mysterious realm of life itself—we are all perfect and innocent.

At this point you may be asking what this has to do with your need for money. To this, I will ask a few questions. Is there anyone in your life who you cut off for any reason? Have you unconditionally accepted all the people you have known? What would happen in your life if, right now, you went back to each of them with love in your heart and made it right?

What does it mean to make relationships right? It means forgiving, accepting, and offering your best to them. You haven’t offered your best because you have been drowning in fear and guilt. Panicking and not knowing your value, you have been desperately taking rather than giving. Receiving is impossible without giving.

But what is the source of real wealth and abundance? You are its source. Nothing is more valuable than your ability to create, to serve, to do something valuable for other people. The more you do this, the more money they give you in return. To give is to receive. It is a cycle of abundance which you have broken by an unwillingness to give.

What if, rather than asking strangers for money, you asked them only if there is anything you can do for them. Explain that you are having a hard time right now, but don’t want to beg. You want to earn it. How long do you think you would remain poor if you did only this and meant it?

Your life journey is no different from mine. This hellish world has been cruel to us and unfair. We have failed, suffered, and faced crisis. Was this to teach us that we are victims? No. Your suffering was only to teach you this lesson. If you had not reached this low, you would not have received this message of truth and healing.

I’ve made all the mistakes that you have. But I eventually learned that life is a simple choice we didn’t know we had. You can either choose a life of fear or love. If one is real for you, the other cannot simultaneously exist. Is the past and future real, or is this moment real? Are you not perfectly good and lovable in this moment? Choose this truth, fearlessly live your love, and if you keep going in this direction you will have no problems.

You, my friend, will fix everything when you find the love inside you. Love is all that is real, and it is eternal. Learn what perfect love is, let everything else go, and learn to extend this love. There are many spiritual teachings that reinforce this message. Seek them out. Study and practice them daily. This is your awakening, a sacrifice of only what you do not want.

With unconditional love,

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You can exchange guilt for innocence

Doesn’t everyone want to be free of pain? If so, why do we make choices that hurt us? We avoid being close to others. We make ourselves sick through poor diet and other bad habits. We beat up on ourselves and others. Why?

This is not a rhetorical question. There is a clear answer: guilt. We suffer when we believe we are guilty and have not learned to exchange guilt for innocence.

When people believe in their own guilt, you can see it in their eyes. They feel unworthy of love, freedom, health, and abundance. Believing that they have nothing good to offer, they withdraw and attack others to break relationships and create more separation.

Those who believe they are guilty also behave in ways that cause themselves to be attacked. Most people believe that attack can teach a lesson and can correct behavior. Imagine how misguided it is to attack the guilty, when teaching the exchange of guilt for innocence is what heals.

I know that every brother and sister is inherently good. Our love, our goodness, our light is the only thing real about any of us. As the force of life, itself, we are not only equal we are one. It is only our belief in guilt that drives all the thoughts, perceptions, and behaviors that ultimately cause pain and cloud our goodness.

The truth about you, about everyone, is the truth of perfect innocence. Forgive all guilt by simply recognizing it is as unreal. It is not what we are and nothing we need to carry. Whatever errors have been made, we can effortlessly correct them in the embrace of our innocent, good selves. Whatever we’ve done, whatever we want, whatever we need, we can correct it and obtain it by applying the thought system of unconditional love, total honesty, and freedom. This is the exchange of guilt for innocence, the end of pain, the beginning of ongoing joy.  

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The present is before time was… (A Course in Miracles)

“The present is before time was, and will be when time is no more.
In it are all things that are eternal, and they are one.”
-A Course in Miracles

The normal state of existence in this world is to overlook all that is eternal and here right now to focus on either the past (which is gone) or the future (which is unpredictable, temporary, and fleeting at best). This helps explains the world’s uninterrupted state of confusion.

Only that which is in the present is real. The past and future are not here and, therefore, do not literally exist. Time can seem real only when we bring memories, hopes, and fears to the present. This is the unobserved mind’s unfortunate habit of problem-making.

None of the stuff of this world—the external threats, attacks, manufactured fears, lies, promises, rewards, punishments—none of it is actually here in your present moment unless you choose to bring it into the present moment; thus giving it power, making it seem real, and choosing to live out of accord with the eternal reality.

The stuff of the mind can be interesting, but pay attention to your emotions, thought patterns, and decisions. If you are negatively influenced by the stuff of the mind, you are losing presence and attempting to replace reality with illusion.  

We are at our best when we are present; focusing all our attention on what is here, what is real, what is eternal. By letting thoughts of past and future drift away, we can fully love, create value and beauty, and we can relax and enjoy ourselves in safety and freedom. The mind still has thoughts, but those thoughts no longer control your emotions or behavior. You are able to distinguish present-moment reality from time-based fiction.

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