Posts categorized "Love"

Worry pretends to be necessary. (Eckhart Tolle)

There is a big difference between problem-solving and worrying. Lying awake at night in worry is very different from lying awake in creative problem-solving mode.

The human mind is the most advanced, most capable problem-solving machine we know of. While spiritual leaders often talk of a state of no thought—and it is essential that we learn to create gaps in our thinking to undo ego—in this world we also need to use the full potential of our minds.

A mind absent of ego is optimized because it is aligned with truth. A mind that is optimized can accomplish anything because it is free of illusion, calm and steady, and in service to love, beauty and truth. It’s okay if your mind is racing with new ideas, spinning out different scenarios or possibilities and solving problems. But as it does, pay attention to your inner-body and your emotions. Do you feel stressed, worried, fearful? If not, then everything is great and your thinking is clear.

But a worried mind isn’t capable of solving problems. Real solutions always come from a state of positive clarity. Positivity is the high-frequency energy of love. Love energy always accepts, forgives, cares for, creates and serves in a way that is fun and effortless. A fearful mind, on the other hand, only causes more problems. The energy of fear is violent, selfish, attacking or depressing at best. This only leads to action which causes more problems. Fear also causes stress…which accelerates the aging process and makes us ill.

Whenever you experience fear or worry about the future, the best response is to connect with a spiritual teaching and meditate. Let that stuff go. But if your mind is aligned with love, following the excitement and positive energy of intuition with in, then by all means unleash your thoughts and actions fully! This is the sacred process of consciousness coming into this world of form through you—which is the purpose of our lives. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Our concern to avoid suffering in the future keeps us suffering in the present. (Peter Russell)

We are so afraid of suffering that we suffer. Or, as Peter Russell explains, “We have lost the very thing we seek.”

Fear rarely exists in the present moment. There are perhaps only a few moments in our lives when we are in legitimate danger, yet each day we allow fear to persist as a normal part of our thought processes. In some cases, ironically, it is our desperate need to escape the suffering of worried thoughts that drives us to do things that are dangerous (extreme sports, drug abuse, creating conflict and fights, etc.). By making fear real, we are creating real reasons to fear.

We fear because our minds cannot foresee the future. Reality is far too complex to be fully grasped by the mind. There are too many variables—most of which are out of our control. Deep down, we know this but cannot accept it. This is what causes the fear, the worries, the urge to hide from reality, and the desperate and ineffective attempts to interfere with rather than accept reality.

But life doesn’t have to suck! We can learn to stop taking our worries about the future so seriously. The antidote to fear and the solution to any problem is perfect love—which is practiced when we meet the present moment with full attention and acceptance. We need only do our best each day, become open and willing to accept reality without judgments of good and bad, and then react lovingly. Follow the signs, let intuition lead rather than the mind. Try this and you will find that things tend to work out.

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Vision or judgement is your choice; but never both of these (A Course in Miracles)

To judge is to choose perception over vision—to trust the ego’s concepts of good and bad. Judgment always attempts to make sin real in order to justify the ego’s solution to sin—which is always separation, punishment, blame, shame and other forms of violent attack that the ego believes will teach the lesson of correction. What is the purpose of judgement, and does it ever work?

In truth, the thought system of judgment fails every time and corrects nothing. Any form of attack only teaches violence; thus making the situation worse. Judgment is blinded with its own logic—its own assumptions about human nature and about the motives behind human behavior—and so every response that comes from judgment misses the mark.

The mind likes to judge the errors of others, yet ironically the real error is the act of judgment, itself. All error is, to use the words of Marshall Rosenberg, only a tragic expression of an unmet need. The way to correct error is not to judge; rather, to communicate honestly on the level of the unmet need.

In any situation, there is an optimal, effortless, true path forward. The way is never found through judgment or any other form of separation; rather, only through faith in union on the level of spirit. Vision requires that we respond to error lovingly by communicating on the level of needs with an open heart and mind. In so doing, what starts as conflict leads you both on a path toward inner peace, true happiness, and eternal love.

We remember to choose vision tomorrow and each day after that.

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Meet your challenges with perfect love

When you give love, you are not giving of yourself. You are effortlessly allowing the brilliant, warm light of the universe to flow through you and into the hearts of everyone’s lives you touch.

When you receive love in return, remember that its source also comes from the same place—far beyond the limits of bodies and minds. To awaken is to love in such a way that nothing obstructs the light—everything is made whole, made one, made perfect, and recognized as beautiful and true.

Wisdom is knowing how to live in such a way that you do not hide from the light nor dim its effects. This is what is meant by the undoing of ego—learning to not get in the way of love, which of course means the same thing as God, consciousness, presence, truth, beauty and freedom. One energy, many names.

Because we are alive, challenges will arise. In response, we must stop repeating the tired lessons of this world. Enough with the sacrificial, mind-based, loveless doing. Now we meet our challenges with perfect love. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Let the Tao become present

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To let the Tao become present in your life is to remain rooted in being—which is to say present, fully accepting of what is, lacking and wanting nothing. All doing that flows being is an extension of being—an expression of limitless and eternal power rooted in truth.

To let the Tao be present in your family is to accept all family members unconditionally, to love without limit, and to let truth flow freely. If the Tao is present, then this is easy because the truth that flows is profoundly beautiful and loving. Let your loved ones be. Let them go on their own journeys without adding mind-based judgment, shame, or guilt. A family routed in being will flourish.

To let the Tao be present in your country seems almost impossible in this modern world. No country comes even close to representing anything other than ego. What is possible, nonetheless, is the establishment of movements facilitated by technologies rooted in being. We can form virtual countries of people rooted in being and connected in union. From this position of truth, we can begin to influence institutions and politicians. But that isn’t the goal. Letting the Tao be present is the only goal.

The Tao Te Ching is a work of such profound beauty and truth that it is recognized only by looking within. When we stop treating this present moment as merely a means to get to the next moment, we begin to see, to feel, and to hear all the universe sing. Everything we desire is here. Now. Within. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  


As you give, you gain.

To give of yourself and to serve—and to do so in freedom—is the source of abundance and salvation from an otherwise cruel world.

Seek creative ways to effortlessly help, to serve, to make lives better. This is how you join with your brother and sister in true union. There is enormous opportunity and power in a union of mutual trust and service.

Two hearts and minds joined together in a common purpose are far stronger than one. Now imagine the potential of a network of a thousand or a million people joined together, in spirit, with open hearts and open minds. What is blocking this from happening? The ego within us is, of course.

While the ego is still alive within us, it insists upon interfering in and controlling our relationships. Now the ego is suspicious at best and vicious at worst. Is this who you want to put in charge of your relationships? Dreams will come true only when we remove this parasite.

Everything great that has ever happened in this world is a result of people coming together in true harmony, cooperation, union. This type of union is rare, but herein lies all strength. We are assembling a large community based on the principles of love and service using the mobile app called “I Am by Infobeing”.

If there is something you need help with, something you feel inspired to do or accomplish, just create some “I am statements” on the app. If I happen to meet you there, I will do everything in my power to help you and to serve you in freedom. This is how the movement grows, how we become stronger, happier, and more secure.

Open your heart and mind. Say yes and feel fate and inspiration guide you forward. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Miracles are everyone’s right, but purification is necessary first. The real miracle is the love that inspires them. (A Course in Miracles)

Everything that comes from love is a miracle. Purification is the undoing of anything within you that is not love—which of course is the experience of learning to love yourself.

To find the love within requires quiet and stillness. You may choose to lie in bed or take a long walk. Find a way to just be with yourself for a while. At first, you might be tempted to occupy the mind by picking up the phone or watching something. Resist this impulse and make room for the mind to become bored. This undoes the mind’s grip.

Now go within. Let your attention move toward the energy within your heart. If you have had any recent thoughts of guilt or fear, notice how these thoughts have been blocking this energy. The energy within you can only expand when you find out that you are perfect, that you are not guilty, that you are doing your best and everything is going to be alright.

That nice energy you feel within when you relax your shoulders and forgive yourself, that’s self-love. Let it expand. Now open your heart to every single person in the world—to every living creature. Open your mind to let your love flow through it.

This is the undoing of stress, the escape from the ego, the movement toward perfect health, freedom and happiness. Now you are ready for any challenge. More importantly, you are ready to love others. Any attempt to love anyone without starting with self-love will ultimately fail because it will be only mind-based clinging to form and not love at all. Purification is necessary first.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Perfect love is the way

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Yesterday I wrote that perfect love is the best way to undo the ego. Most people believe that it is necessary or even desirable to have some ego, but I have found that the ego offers nothing of value. Ego should be shattered, destroyed, escaped, undone completely and perfect love is the best way.

I say “perfect love” because the word love has been badly misused and misunderstood. Popular culture has defined love as clinging, needy, exclusive, filled with expectations and sacrifice. Perfect love, on the other hand, is not the kind of love you get; rather, the kind that is found within. It functions as unconditional acceptance, total honesty, and extends to everyone. Perfect love is giving and the highest form of giving is creating.

Perfect love never attacks, never rejects, never asks for sacrifice, and is never jealous or needy. It is trusting, truly helpful, yet fills your life with peace and energy as it also sets you free. Fill your heart with perfect love and there is no room for fear. In perfect love, you are your best self.

Most people are afraid to offer the world perfect love because they are afraid of being taken advantage of. Nothing could be further from the truth. Nobody is going to manipulate you because your perfect love exists in freedom and guilt no longer works on you. Now you decide what to give and to whom.  

Be love. Offer only the loving response at all times. Let go of all attack because it teaches nothing. Because you never attack, now you aren't attacked in return. Go within, in stillness, to connect with the perfect love that is already within you as life energy. Now extend it to everyone in all situations. Watch the ego die as your life transforms. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  


Escape the ego to destroy the pain body.

Eckhart Tolle refers to the emotional side of ego as the pain body. The pain body is the out-of-control emotional energy that sometimes arises within us during conflict, stress, or times of great fear. It takes over the body and mind and makes us react in ways that we later recognize as insane.

“I don’t know what came over me.” That’s the pain body. He compares it to a vicious animal within us. Like any life form, as long it lives it is fighting for survival. It needs to feed every few days in some or every few weeks in others. Its food is negative energy and drama. If this doesn’t come from an external source, the pain body creates it by starting conflict or by focusing on negative thoughts.

As long as the ego is alive, the pain body is alive. The only way to avoid getting drawn into a pain body episode—which threatens to ruin relationships and cause irreversible problems—is to destroy the ego.

Eckhart Tolle teaches that present moment awareness and inner-body awareness are the best portals into consciousness—the best way to escape the ego and thus eliminate the pain body. While this is effective, I have found an even more effective way to destroy the ego: choosing perfect love.

The ego’s value system is based on separation and fear. Love is union (the opposite of separation) and the antidote to fear. If we condition ourselves to always align with the values of love, to always choose the loving response, then the ego cannot survive and nor can the pain body. More on this in future teachings. This is what I practice and I don’t recall having a pain body episode for several years now. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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