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If this were the real world, God would be cruel. (A Course in Miracles)

Confusion about God arises from confusion about reality, itself. When people speak of "the real world", they are talking about a world in which guilt is real, where attack is justified, and where love can be first given and then withdrawn. They are talking about a world in which politics are corrupt, governments exploit, the media lies, the church calls us sinners, and school makes us ill with its endless lessons of sacrifice. 

We have come to think of the real world as sitting in traffic, doing our homework, going to work, paying our taxes and obeying the law. We have learned the world's lessons so well that we believe suffering is good and enjoyment is for the foolish or weak. What a strange thought system we have adopted and what a cruel world we have made.

Certain species of animals are domesticated: dogs, cats, cows, chickens and more. Only animals that agree to their own domestication can be domesticated. Bears, wolves, deer and countless other species would not agree to their own domestication because they fail to see the benefit.

For the past several thousand years, humans have been domesticated by other humans because, at some point, we saw the benefits of greater safety, stability and comfort. We were sold an idea and we agreed to it. Now, largely detached from nature, we no longer know how to survive in the state of nature and we are no longer so sure any of this was a good idea.

Spiritual awakening simply means remember what is and has always been real about us; even before our domestication. Who we are is not of this artificial world we have been trained to see. All of society is what human minds did and what other human minds agreed to. It is what we have made and what we have accepted. 

God did not make this world of suffering; we did. God made the perfect nature within us and the perfect balance of this world before our confused minds became a cancer upon it.

To heal is to look upon God's creations as real, not our own. By turning reality upside down in this way, our minds may once again serve truth and we shall once again do no harm. Seeing the real "real world" once again is spiritual awakening.

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Only the love within has any authority to lead you.

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Centralization is the idea that an officially-sanctioned person or organization has legitimate authority and responsibility to lead people.

Rather than simply doing what excites or inspires us, we've agreed to a society that allows schools to shape and limit our learning. We stare blindly at the phone or TV rather than bringing our own experiences to life. We attend formally organized events rather than relating with others freely. We respond to promotions as if the ideas presented were legitimate or the information were true.

Because of this entrenched worldview, our so-called freedom is little more than a choice of how we choose to associate between external affiliations and allegiances. To accept the very idea of centralization means that we must learn to doubt ourselves and to see ourselves as having no authority over ourselves.

This domestication of humans has been going on for a few thousand years, but it isn’t freedom and it isn’t the experience of being fully alive. We no longer have to see the world in this way. We no longer have to agree with it.

If something excites you, then upon your authority over yourself, you can do it. The feeling of excitement or inspiration is nature nudging you in the right direction. If you feel lousy, that's nature telling you to stop doing it. This message is so obvious it sounds silly, yet we don't live this way because of our belief in external authority. 

The truth is that external authority cannot be trusted and, therefore, centralization never works. When enough of us look to the truth within for guidance, decentralization emerges and the experience of true freedom in this world arises. Decentralization sets you free to think what you want, to accept what you feel, and to connect with other people as you desire in loving honesty and openness. Decentralization is your birthright, and is unstoppable if we have faith and courage.

Look at this fearful, confused world and see that those external voices of control have no authority; nor does the confused, egoic mind. Only the love within has any authority lead you. To live fully, let your goodness within light the way.

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Better to walk in love than to fall in love

To fall in love is to believe that one special relationship can be your primary source of happiness—that the other person will be enough to complete you and to fulfil your every need as a man or woman. Even while almost everyone believes this, in practice it never quite works.

When two people fall in love, often the relationship starts to become a job. Your job is now to follow all the normal rules, to play a role, to do whatever it takes to make the other person happy, and to act as though any of this even works. Often, in a normal relationship, the price you must pay is the sacrifice of personal freedom, openness, and authenticity. You are expected to hide a huge dimension of your curiosity and deny the possibility of new experiences or growth beyond the relationship.

As wonderful as it is to spend your days together with that one special person, the price of falling is too high and the returns are too little. Better to walk in love than to fall.

By walking in love, I mean be who you are while practicing unconditional acceptance, total honesty and openness. It means loving yourself completely, telling the truth about everything, and then letting your perfect love flow to whoever reflects that love back to you most beautifully and purely. When another person also loves in this way and feels the same way about you, you have found a true treasure—a conscious, spiritually-alive love relationship. Such a relationship may or may not involve romance or sex and, whatever form this holy relationship may take, is never considered exclusive.

There is a different way to do relationships. This is the ongoing experience of love and passion that never fades, the uninterrupted flow of positive energy, the endless safety of mutual understanding and forgiveness, and the experience of transcending this world to awaken fully in perfect union. Relationship bliss isn’t found by falling; but, by walking together in love.

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There is no separate you and me competing for the same resource. There is only our shared potential for abundance. If we are failing to harvest it, that’s because we aren’t working together to plant seeds.

To say that we are not separate is not at all hypothetical or philosophical. Our minds may vary and we may interpret things differently, but the reality we both inhabit is entirely shared, collaborative, and there is but one consciousness flowing through us and through it all.

This mystical realm we call life on Earth is, indeed, a shared experience. When we are destructive or greedy, we all lack and we all suffer on some level because of what has been foolishly taken or destroyed. When we are creative and nurturing, we all experience greater joy, beauty and abundance because of the wise choice to harmoniously work together and to create.

Human endeavors such as business need not be greedy and destructive. Much of it is already nurturing and creative. If we are to create a better world, then it is time for all our conscious attention to go in this direction.

I am here to trust, to offer unconditional acceptance, and to help unleash our full potential. This is only possible when I truly serve you. When we do this for one another, then our skills and abilities complement one another. We then honor the truth of our oneness and we align with reality as it is to experience total abundance in all areas of life.

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Rules—while justified by the story that we are guilty—are only a means to enslave us.

The purpose of a rule is not to prevent you from doing wrong; this could be done more effectively. The purpose is to teach that you are bad and guilty—that something is inherently wrong with you.

Because it is untrue, this idea of guilt requires extensive teaching. That’s what the church, the media, and school is for. Learn the lesson that people are bad and, more importantly, that we need authority to keep us in check.

Authority, of course, does not limit itself by the very rules it makes. Authority defines itself as supreme. Unlike the rest of us, the government does harm, kill, threaten, rob, and print money to enrich themselves and so on. It is centralized authority that is to be feared, not people.

Would you do harm? Do you need rules to protect others from your evil nature? What if everyone was taught meditation, present moment awareness, spiritual principles and the thought system of love? What if the error of violence was corrected through love and not punishment?

Imagine a decentralized government whose job is only to help people and correct error with love. If any violence remained in such a society, a dangerous person could be isolated—but under the conditions of help, not punishment. If anyone were to steal or attack, the entire community could come together to help the person understand the error, to provide the love that was obviously lacking, to forgive and to heal.

In our natural state, we want to feel safe, free, and to be loved and accepted. We want to play, to have fun, and to feel good. We do not need rules at all, and certainly not the punishments and rewards and ongoing fear that follows. Let us look clearly at what we have been taught not to question so that we may expose this massive lie for what it is.

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To love yourself is to heal yourself. (A Course in Miracles)

To love yourself is to see only that part of you which is lovable. When this is done, self-love is felt. In the presence of self-love; somehow the fear, the shame, and the guilt all melt away. Absent of the stress from these negative emotions, the mind and body begin to function optimally. This is healing.

When you are healed, you can then look upon every other person to see each of them in this same way. All that which is lovable in you is also true in them. Only love is lovable, and love is the same in each of us because it is one. There is no person absent of love within—though, through shame and guilt and punishment, people have become blocked to various degrees.

Forgiveness is the act of seeing only that part in a person which is lovable. All the rest is error, it is unreal, and it can easily be undone just by letting love melt it away. In the end, it is as though all that negative garbage was never real—for the simple reason that it never was.

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The world teaches fear to distract you from your power.

Your power is love and it is what you are. This power cannot be lost, but it can be forgotten. Love is the only force that the world cannot resist, cannot contain, and cannot successfully war against. When your thoughts and deeds are loving, you channel unstoppable power and strength. 

The ego would convince you to sacrifice perfect love to gain the world. But like everything the ego sets out to do, this cannot be done. There is nothing of any real value that can be gained from the world. All truth, beauty and value is nothing other than consciousness coming into the world of form. Love is the feeling, the energy, the doing of consciousness.

You cannot sell your soul, but you can forget it–choosing instead a state of suffering, failure, overwhelming anxiety and fear. This is the feeling of a forgotten soul begging to be remembered.

Remember what you are each day and know that it is infinitely more powerful than anything of this world. Unconditional love is so powerful that no one can stop you from practicing it. All authority lies in your truth. 

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What is self-love? Why is it important? How can I learn to love myself?

It’s become so cliché to talk about self-love. Is it really true that learning to love yourself is necessary if you want to experience a healthy relationship with someone else? To answer this question, we need to understand the problems that arise when self-love is lacking.

We are born as innocent children filled with perfect love. Then we are indoctrinated into a thought system that tells us we need to “be good” to get love. Even in a so-called normal, healthy childhood, love is withheld from children as a punishment when they don’t behave as parents and teachers command. Likewise, loving gestures are sometimes showered upon us as a reward when we do. The world’s lesson all throughout life is this: love is something you get from another person when you behave in such a way that you are “worthy” of it. This is how we are indoctrinated, controlled, domesticated.

We have learned to think about love in such a way that all the focus is on getting it and little attention is paid to what love is and what love does. We are taught to believe that we are guilty sinners, screw-ups, not attractive enough, too young, too old, too poor, too this or too that. In the world’s ongoing competition of egos—this never-ending game of who’s right and who’s better—we learn to really loath ourselves by believing the stories others tell us about ourselves and also the insane stories we tell ourselves.

Now imagine you start a relationship with this thought system. In this kind of relationship, you withhold your true self and expect to be rewarded with love. When this invariably fails, you feel disappointed and resentful. Feeling trapped in a relationship is caused by changing yourself for the purpose of getting love.

Now, realize that both you and your partner are behaving in the same way—saying and doing that which isn’t exactly honest and expecting love in return. After so much sacrifice, you both naturally expect grand gestures and rewards. You expect to feel loved when all you really feel is an addiction to the person who also sacrifices so much for you and occasionally does things right. But the arrangement doesn’t really work. That perfect love you felt in the beginning of the relationship fades. So, you blame the other person and argue relentlessly.

If the feeling of perfect love is lacking, it is never the other person’s fault. The problem is, you’re looking for love from the other person. First, you must look within. Awakening to self-love means forgiving yourself—seeing yourself as not guilty and accepting yourself as you are. There is goodness and perfection within you. There is limitless love within you that you would so happily share with others if they were only open. You have loved many people so perfectly in your life and this is who you are. Those times which you did or said something not loving—yes, it was an error. This is what we are correcting. Purification is needed if we wish to heal, and self-love is purification.

Spend some time lying down in a room without any noise or distractions. Try to find that feeling of love in your heart. Imagine yourself as that perfect, innocent child who knew exactly what love is. Forgive yourself for all that other garbage. None of it is real. What is real is that love in your heart. Now, the details about you and your life don't matter. You can be honest and open about who you really are and what you truly want without shame. If someone judges you, that person simply isn't a fit. Love them anyway, let them respond how they may. No matter who you are, you have the right to be you and you can do so honestly.

Naturally, you want to share this joyful bliss with another person. You want that person to love you, to accept the real you—to love you so much that you don’t even have to work for it. Self-love doesn’t mean not needing another person. Love must be shared. That’s what love is and what it does. But it can only be shared when you extend it from within and outward to others. Your goal is to feel your perfect love fill your body with its energy—turn perfect love on yourself—then let it flow freely to anyone and everyone with no consideration or judgment. Withholding love from yourself or from anyone is being blocked. Healing is unblocking yourself and healing is total or it isn't healing. No more pain and suffering. No more physical illness. No more fear. Perfect love and honesty overcome every challenge.

Now, if you can find another person who also remembers what love is and knows how to live in such a way that it is unblocked; you will experience heaven. You will find yourself in a situation where you can be exactly who you are. You can love that person freely as well as everyone else in the world. You allow each other freedom and place no rules upon each other. 

Love must be unconditional, indeed, or it isn’t love (only an arrangement). Are you afraid you’ll lose that person? You want the relationship to last your entire life? Of course you do! That is the most wonderful thing and everyone wants to grow old alongside the perfect partner—but the price need not be the sacrifice of everything. You can have it all!

When two people come together in perfect, self-love and offer it to each other unconditionally, then they will never part. Of course, the form of each relationship varies. If you fit perfectly, you may choose to live together. If not, you may enjoy your loving connecting from more of a distance. It is all a question of fit. What do you both want your life to be? Do you want children or not? What is your attitude about money, travel, sex, etc.? If there is a perfect fit, go for it—but make no attempt to then protect that relationship via the rules of traditional structures like marriage. If you do, the suffering will return and the perfect love will fade.

This relationship is entirely possible and very easy. I have been in such a relationship for many years and it is far superior to what is normal in this world. You can experience it as well, but you will never find relationship bliss unless you learn to first love yourself unconditionally.

Learn the thought system of love. Read my free eBook Belove or read Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz. Watch my indie documentary film called Treetops. Listen to my podcast on this topic a while ago. Whatever path you choose, learn to undo fear and all the negative emotions that have been blocking your self-love. This is very real and is in no way theoretical. Self-love is what you do want and, if you decide for it, nothing can stop you from experiencing what is already yours.

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Babies cry when there is an unmet need. Grown-ups attack for the same reason.

Would you respond to a crying baby by shouting back, or by trying to understand the need and then fulfilling it? Likewise, the way to respond to any brother or sister in need is to look past the cry for help and focus attention on the level of needs.

Most people fear being verbally attacked or insulted, as though such a silly and embarrassing act means something real and carries some power. If you ever feel insulted by the words or actions of another person, that’s only your bruised ego. Let it be bruised and do not defend yourself; for the ego means nothing to begin with.

A mind-identified, spiritually unconscious person responds to attack by getting easily frustrated, angry, and wanting to hit back even harder. But an awakened person has permanently escaped the ego to embrace the thought system of unconditional love. Love is only concerned with giving, never feels slighted, and takes nothing personally. You are not your mind. You are love and, as love, you cannot be attacked or diminished.

Attack is always a misguided, tragic, desperate cry for love. Understand the real unfulfilled need beneath the attack, then respond with love, not violence. Whether or not you are able to ultimately fulfill the need; when a person sees that he cannot activate the madness of ego within you, he will immediately recognize his own insanity and will either walk away or shift the tone. Tempers settle, cool minds prevail, peace is restored.

Respond to any challenge only in love, seeing nothing the ego is or does as real.

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When you are honest, everything about your life is real.

Each time we choose to hide something—however seemingly small or inconsequential it may seem—we make the tragic decision to build a castle upon a foundation of sand. One hidden truth requires others, and those others still, until a web of lies and confusion eventually becomes overwhelming. This confusion is a shaky foundation that slowly causes any relationship or situation to collapse. In the end, no amount of effort can make illusions real.

The choice for perfect honesty starts by being honest with yourself. What do you need? What excites you and inspires you? Who are you and what do you want to become? What do you want to experience? If you can be honest with yourself about everything, without consideration of what others may think, then you have awakened within to honesty. Most people don’t even get this far.

But being perfectly honest also requires that you extend your truth to others. To hold back here is to spend so much energy trying to decide what to do or not and what to reveal or keep secret. Either way, you suffer. You know all that stuff about yourself that you just started to become honest about? Now if you repress it or hide it, you suffer.

To the extent that we withhold honesty, we are limited by others, controlled, repressed, and unfree. It is very normal in this world to sacrifice all that is true and real because of fear—as though something is wrong with us and we don’t fit in the world. This is the tragic game that everybody is playing. Through dishonesty, we are foolishly teaching a version of reality that isn’t real—and hiding what is real about ourselves to all those who are so thirsty for the truth and isolated in the false.

There is another way, and it can be put into practice now. When we find the self-love, the confidence, the faith and courage to first be honest with ourselves and then lovingly extend it without hesitation; then everything about our lives becomes real. Our lives can become a reflection of our wildest dreams, but only if we are perfectly honest all the time.

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