Each time we set out to change other people or do something about a situation, we fail. Worse yet, our interference starts a trail of unintended consequences and makes the situation worse.
So we should just do nothing, asks the mind? One might answer to the mind, you should do nothing if there are any negative emotions in me and if there is any unease or suffering. Loveless, ego-based doing is impotent, and it is far better to do nothing. Let things be as they are.
True power is in being, rather than doing. If you can be love, then love will effortlessly correct any error and cause no harm. Love is unconditional, meaning that the reality of a person or situation must first be accepted and embraced for love to exist.
Love without forgiveness and understanding is not love. Wanting to change someone or something is not love; rather, it is an act of resistance or withdrawal, which insanely attempts to go against truth, reality, or the free will of another.
State your loving truths, however and whenever you feel inspired, but make no consideration of the consequence because the true meaning or importance is not found in the realm of situations or consequences.
Unconditional love, joy, freedom, honesty, and openness—all words describing the same truth—this is the core of our being and the cornerstone of all true faith. Nothing outside of this has any importance and can be ignored for healing to occur. After all, healing is nothing other than coming to fully embrace the one truth that these words all point to. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.
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Each time we set out to change other people or do something about a situation, we fail. Worse yet, our interference starts a trail of unintended consequences and makes the situation worse.
You look forward to it all winter, the beautiful weather, the outdoor activities, and the time with your children. But when summer arrives, parents often face a lot of pressures and frustrations.
How do we prioritize time with the family at the pool or beach, hiking and biking, traveling, or camping with the pressures and responsibilities of work or business? When we slack off at work, we feel guilty about that. Then when we focus on work while the kids are passing time idly on the couch, we also feel guilty about neglecting them. What is the right balance? Is there a way to do this right?
We all do our best—sometimes the grandparents help, some of us send the kids to a camp for a week, separated parents get a break by sharing custody, some parents get enough vacation time—but, even when the details are properly planned, all this time spent together is a true test of our family relationships. Can you be yourselves together? Can you be present, without stress, without that feeling that anything should be different from how it is?
Most people spend all their lives being here but wanting to be there, working toward some future destination. But each summer is a destination, and now we must learn to become present, to enjoy each other's company, to accept each other’s differences, to express our love even when we are hot, sweaty, tired, and being stung by mosquitoes.
Even under the best of circumstances, summer is a test of patience for any family. It isn’t getting any easier with all the technology, all the increasing complexity and pressures in our lives. But you can practice being still, sneak away for a rest or meditation when you can, be yourself, let unimportant things go, let yourself off the hook for whatever you’re not doing in any particular moment—and also give your spouse a break. This is not a time for faking or repressing emotions. It is a time to practice present moment awareness, acceptance, and unconditional love.
As we get some of this right, we build so much trust. As we get things wrong occasionally, we show that we are not perfect, and we ask for forgiveness. Summer is a time for growth in the areas of life that matter most, the areas that are real, with the people who we love. It is a time when relationships are strengthened and beautiful memories are made, even if the days can be long and there can be unexpected challenges or frustrations. Forgive yourself, forgive your loved ones, enjoy summer!
These days, many fear the loss of freedom. In a few short months, states of emergencies have been declared, borders closed, and face masks enforced while social contact and movement has been restricted under highly questionable pretenses. Others fear so-called conspiracy theories having to do with future forced vaccinations, tracking, and so on. For any lover of freedom, this stuff is terrifying, and everything appears to be moving rapidly in the wrong direction.
But let me ask this: when exactly were we free? When we were born, we were given a social security number, forced to attend school, forced to pay taxes, use a currency, and to obey laws we never agreed to which were created by a government we never consented to take part in. For a long time, all digital communication between human beings has required verification of identity (via mobile phone confirmation), and the government spies on us at-will.
Cameras are everywhere, purchases are being tracked, analyzed, and dissected. Employers are monitoring computer use, there’s the social media corporations, and on and on. When exactly were we free in the external world?
Democracy has never been exactly real and fair to all. Before that, there were openly totalitarian dictatorships, and before that oppressive monarchies and religions. Freedom in the external world was removed from our lives right at the dawn of civilization, with that first step from the garden of Eden.
So what is freedom, and can we still be free? Freedom is not granted to us by governments, it is not found by cutting yourself off from others, and it is not in a statement, protest, or an act of rebellion.
In the truest sense of the word, to be free means to be absent of ego. What freedom is there if your mind continues torturing you, if you need egoic institutions to leave you alone, and if you continue to suffer in fear?
Because people do not know what freedom is—and often associate it with reckless or violent behaviors—violent institutions are required as a response, to keep error and confusion in check. If we only knew what freedom really is, then a new society would emerge that is absent of violence, oppression, or injustice.
To become free is to awaken to unconditional love, to humble yourself before God, and to practice true forgiveness. True freedom undoes violence and attack as you walk the path of perfect honesty and bliss—speaking only the truth and wanting only the truth—knowing that the truth is real, and it can only be love.
No government, no technology, nothing can take away your true freedom because it is accessed within and practiced each time you meet just one brother or sister who also knows what freedom is. You were born complete, with everything you need to practice perfect freedom, and all the power to do so. All external attempts to limit freedom—as horrifying as it always is and as much suffering as it causes—will fail in time…for the simple reason that enough of us will always remember who we are.
You can be free now, but you must know what freedom is. Any freedom that can be limited by external factors and forces is no freedom at all. Furthermore, if you practice perfect freedom, no external authority will want to limit you because you are incapable of harm. To awaken is to become free, and it is yours now. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.
All what appears to be drama, crisis, and despair in today’s world is only the inevitable destination of the path we were on. One who fears or suffers from sickness is one whose diet and habits have gone off course. One who fears a diminished lifestyle or loss of possessions is someone who spent too much, borrowed too much, and reached for a life that was beyond their means. If a marriage is crumbling, it must have been built upon shallow ground. If there is angst, fear, depression, anxiety, or any form of suffering, it is for lack of a spiritual practice. The problems are not external. Reality is as it is. So, the solutions are entirely within our control.
It is you who is traveling down whatever path you are on. Rather than complaining about the scenery, understand that wherever you are is your chosen destination. You may have received a lot of bad advice, but ultimately every decision you made at every fork has been yours and has determined where you are. Accept this completely as the starting point if you want anything to improve.
From this point of acceptance, you can instantly create a new reality. The good news is that life’s path is not like a road or path through the forest. It isn’t necessary to retrace your steps all the way back to where you began and do it all over. In life, changing course is more like instantly awakening from a dream and finding yourself somewhere new.
Awake, you know that all authority is within. What matters now is how you feel. Is there a nice flow of energy and excitement each day? What about your thoughts? Do they bring lightness, inspiration, and positivity? Are your relationships harmonious? Is your purpose in life and work useful to anyone? Are you free to be you, express yourself and do what inspires you? All this is yours if you want it.
Total change, total healing is possible through an embrace of unconditional love—a humbling of oneself to God (God means whatever you want it to, but it must be loving or you haven't found God). It also takes a commitment to healthy habits, to an open mind and heart, and to meditation to create gaps in the stream of thought.
Here, you awaken to the recognition that everything real is now. When you are fully alive now, everything is perfect. Let go of the past, forget about the future, pay attention to your state of being now. We continue in the ongoing, eternal now.
“Although the ego urges you again and again to get, it leaves you nothing. For what you get it will demand of you.”
You are not at home in time; rather, in eternity. The ego seeks happiness and safety by denying the unavoidable realities of material existence, which is always unstable, always shifting and temporary. It seeks to get more and then to hold onto it—even if that means sacrificing your joy, your freedom, your entire life.
A Course in Miracles teaches us to trust in the energy of love, which it also calls the Holy Spirit, which I might also call the force of life itself or consciousness—which will always provide everything we need in the ongoing present moment without asking for any sacrifice and without stealing any joy.
It knows that the material world is shifting and unstable, that our physical form will grow, change, and then die—but to align with the thought system and energy of love is to know that, in its embrace, you are always safe, you will always have everything you need, and when something is no longer useful you can let it go.
The worldly answers of the psychologists, the educators, and all the so-called authorities combined know nothing other than confusion, but they are great teachers. Take in the lessons of the world, but evaluate everything within the perfect knowledge of love. You will not error, you will not lack, and you will know no fear. Love knows no fear because fear is your mind’s natural reaction to error. “Sin is where love is not,” and sin is nothing other than error that can be corrected in love. Fear can only exist within you to the extent love does not.
“Therefore, ask not of yourself what you need; for you do not know. And your advice to yourself will hurt you. For what you think you need will merely serve to tighten up your world against the light, and render you unwilling to question the value that this world can really hold for you.” (All quotes from A Course in Miracles). We continue tomorrow and each day after that.
The world you see must be denied, for sight of it is costing you a different kind of vision. (A Course in Miracles)
“You do not really want the world you see, for it has disappointed you since time began.” You cannot see the world and at the same time see the spiritual reality. There is a choice: one must be made real and the other denied. One contains everything you want, the other everything you do not want.
When you allow pollution to come into your awareness—whether it be the fear-mongering of the government, the corporate media, the deception of advertising, or negative ideas and conversations—you are pulled away from joy, which is your natural state of being. What you give your attention to must not pull you away from joy, from an underlying sense of ease, from the state where there is calm and peace within. When it does pull you away, you can stop, change course, do a meditation, take a nap, you can do something that makes you feel good and then start again. This is how real problems are solved and progress is made.
Anything done, said, or created when you don’t feel good is a miscreation. All the ugliness of this world was miscreated by people who were detached from the natural state of joy within. All that ugliness cannot be fought from a place of ugliness, but it can be ignored and left to die.
I do not give any attention or reality to error. I do not debate. I do not get outraged. I am not afraid—for this would make error seem real, to give it power it does not have, and to pull me away from joy. Spiritual vision looks within to recognize and embrace reality, and my reality is identical to yours if you will do the same. It is love.
Our lives are shaped by where we put our attention. Find the source of love within, where you remember perfectly well that you are innocent and complete. Feel your positive energy growing. Stay connected to this place in all your thinking and doing, ignoring all else. The reality of love, the only reality, is the only power, the energy of life itself, which contains everything you want within it. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.
Obviously, germs do exist. Trillions of bacteria and viruses are everywhere around us and inside us always. Whether we become ill, however, is entirely up to us.
Illnesses, such as the flu, are commonly understood to be caused by something external, something happening to us, and can only be addressed in the external dimension. Seek solutions there and none shall ever be found.
All power lies within the inner reality. This is where we have control. Solutions must first be accessed there, and only then can they be extended to the external reality. The world is not happening to us; rather, we are creating it.
Illness is only possible when scared thoughts in the mind poison the body with stress, which is born of fear, which is the emotion of the ego. Fear that you can become ill, and your fear will manifest into a reality that you made real.
Illness happens because a person who is stressed diverts energy from the normal functioning of the body. Now the heart beats too fast, the mind steals vital energy from you to fuel worried thought, you can’t sleep at night, you feel lousy and grumpy, you may even turn to medications or bad habits that weaken you more. If this becomes your ongoing state for a little while, you are severely weakening the immune system—giving those germs the power to overtake you. This is a downward spiral, and you get sick because your body is trying to rest and end the ongoing abuse caused by the egoic mind. This is what illness is.
The good news is that a person who has learned to eliminate fear (and therefore stress)—in other words, a person who has learned the higher truth about illness—does not become ill because, even when exposed to germs, the immune system is always strong enough to fight. The germs are there, but nothing bad happens.
They say, in places like the USA these days, that we are all in this together and that we are only as healthy as our weakest link. This is meant to communicate that people like me should shut up, agree that illness is reality, stay home, sink into depression, and wear masks. If I were to take this path of making it all real, then I would become ill just like everybody else. The strategy is, therefore, exactly wrong.
In reality, the weak links—the cause of this crisis—are those who believe that what they tell us in the media about COVID-19 is reality. Through self-manifesting beliefs, their thoughts are creating this hell and they have been leading the world to this cliff for a long time. In countries where the connection to inner-being is broken; where, instead, most people believe what they are told by so-called authorities, many more are sick and dying. It is our thoughts and beliefs, manifesting into specific behaviors and habits, that are literally creating reality around us.
You know that there has never been a time in your life when you were in a perfect state of joy, you were well-rested, stress-free and centered…AND you got sick. It is impossible. If you got sick, you were surely worn down. The highest priority in the world, and the end of this crisis, is for you to heal from this sickness of fear, stress, exhaustion. Stop tolerating an existence of endless sacrifice in which everyone is supposed to always feel lousy. Transcend the sickness, which is called ego—and then teach the truth to others who will do the same in turn.
The only way to transcend the ego, to end fear and panic, to dissolve stress, to vibrate at the level of perfect health, is to awaken to the spiritual reality. There are countless paths, which I discuss daily. If we are going to move forward, if our economies are ever going to function, if we are ever going to find a sense of happiness and enjoyment, we must each find one or more paths toward awakening and put wisdom into practice each day.
Those who doubt this message will remain lost in chaos and sickness. This isn’t going away until we shift. Those who have already learned the mandatory lesson have already been saved—are already living in an ongoing state of bliss.
Now you have heard the message, reality will continue to unfold to testify to its reality, and you now have the clear choice to end your suffering in an instant of your choosing. All else is utter confusion and suffering with no end. What an absolutely wonderful time to be alive. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.
Pain, illness, and all forms of suffering are nature’s responses to any rejection of reality and truth. The purpose of suffering is to force us to correct course so that we accept what is, always forgive, and surrender to love as the only correct response to anything and everything.
Learn only that reality is reality (which requires a daily spiritual practice of brief study and meditation) and your problems are removed as your suffering ends. For thousands of years, with but few exceptions, humans have been trying everything but this. Only this has never been tried on a large scale and only this is the answer to all our problems.
Resist the lesson by responding to suffering in any other way, and problems will escalate, suffering will increase, and further crisis is on the way. Crisis is simply what happens when our thinking and doing is not aligned with reality. This can be called error. The longer we fail to correct course, things can only get worse.
Spiritual awakening is not some sort of wacky personal preference nor a false idol or identity. It is the full embrace of the only solution, the humble acceptance of reality, the knowing that all wisdom and truth is found only within the thought system and energy of perfect, unconditional love.
Anything else but this always has, and always will fail. Whether you want to change your life or change the world, the answer is the same. A person aligned with lasting joy cannot become ill. A society governed by the values of love cannot contain violence. A family based on unconditional love cannot break. A business based on love for customers cannot fail. I could go on, and will do so tomorrow and each day after that.
Deep down, most people would enjoy a life in which it is possible to freely explore sexual adventures involving many partners. What holds us back from following our intense, natural cravings is that we want to avoid making someone jealous. As thrilling and enjoyable as perfect sex can be, we clearly understand that no sex is worth causing terrible pain, ruining a relationship, or harming anyone’s life in any way. So, the simple solution that most people choose is to suppress our needs around sex.
The main reason we suppress our sexual needs is because of the sexual jealousy of others; mainly, our primary partners. The problem is that forced-monogamous relationships are built upon a foundation that is both fragile and less than honest. For most people, the promise of life-long monogamy brings with it great and ongoing struggles and frustrations. By suppressing sex, we close our hearts and minds to new people, we cut ourselves off from other beautiful human beings, and many of us slowly sink into depression and low energy.
So we drink more, we eat junk food, we smoke, we watch trash entertainment, we engage in safe small-talk, and we form all sorts of bad habits to distract us from the simple problem that we are not free and we are not honest. Worse yet, none of this works.
Despite our best intentions, most people with strong sexual needs end up breaking relationships and cheating. They just can’t take it anymore and nature wins. The more you make something off-limits, the more you want it. In the beginning of a relationship, it is easy to promise monogamy. You have that new relationship energy (NRE), you are in love, you communicate freely, you respect one another—everything feels right and the need for sexual variety is minimal.
But by making the promise of lifelong monogamy to anyone, you cut off the possibility of perfect honesty if your heart ever changes, and you remove unconditional acceptance and freedom from the relationship. The relationship then becomes not about unconditional love, acceptance, openness, and trust; rather, it slowly becomes a job where you must live up to expectations and conditions.
The normal marriage is all about the promise of monogamy. But inevitably, one or both partners will have strong feelings and needs that violate the promise. When this happens, lies follow, maybe eventually cheating, and everything breaks. It is a story we know all too well, and yet we continue to do relationships as though it isn’t going to happen to us.
There is a better way to do relationships, and it works perfectly. From the very beginning, you can lovingly explain to your partner that you will never require them to be sexually or emotionally monogamous—and of course that you would require the same in return if you are going to be together. You know it is going to be very difficult to overcome sexual jealousy, but it is possible, and the alternative to dealing with jealousy is worse, and that for the purpose of your sacred love and respect toward one another, you can do this.
This doesn’t mean that you are going to be desperately running around with other people all the time. In fact, you may never even have the need or the opportunity. But, if the relationship is going to be based on true love rather than control and manipulation, you have to both maintain the right to be sexually free if there is ever a need.
How you go about practicing non-monogamy is for you both to explore and to decide. It will be a personal choice that always honors the needs and feelings of your partner. You need to learn the language of love, talk about your relationship, how you feel, why your partner is the right person for you to spend a lifetime with, how no other person is a better fit and how relationships with other people only remind you of this—and all of this needs to be true or you should never live together or have children in the first place.
I can assure you, through personal experience, that the result of such a relationship is the experience of ongoing bliss and love—which grows even stronger as the years go by. Imagine the closeness you would feel with someone with whom you can express yourself fully, at the deepest levels. Imagine how much you would appreciate enjoying your sexual freedom—with consenting adults who you are honest with—without risk or shame. If either of you find yourself going down that scary path of jealous thoughts, you can talk about it, accept that it is happening, and it will dissolve in the light of your perfect love.
If you are already in a monogamous relationship and your partner will not consider opening it up, I sincerely don’t know what to tell you. I do believe we should live in perfect honesty, and this is what I have done in my life; but your choice is entirely yours. If you are currently single or starting a new relationship, then this is the way to build a foundation of perfect stability and lasting love and joy. Try it. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.
Can you imagine that there exist people who expect others to understand them even without directly communicating what they are trying to say? They use gestures or facial expressions when impeccable words are called for. They attack verbally about something totally unrelated. They withhold response, cut communication, withhold intimacy, or pout—expecting others to wonder why, to care, and to guess correctly about the message and respond accordingly.
In my life, none of this childish behavior is even perceptible and communicates nothing at all. I look past it without even trying to. I don’t even know how to see it as anything other than insanity. If you want me to understand what you are trying to say, then please do your best to say it, to explain it, to tell me how you feel, show me who you are—reveal your truest self through your deepest honesty and I promise that I will dig deep down and will respond with as much patience, love and understanding as I can muster. It isn’t going to hurt!
Those who lack the courage to say what they mean are faking—building a life of illusion, afraid of being honest and vulnerable. They are resisting true human connection all for the purpose of protecting their ego. This is a tragic error that can easily be corrected.
Now there is a new kind of human being emerging in this world. Through directness, openness, and a total commitment to honesty, we so easily live our truth, replacing confusion with perfect knowledge, isolation with union, fear with love, lack with abundance. This is only possible after a decision to shatter the ego, to transcend it, to laugh at its destruction and place all faith in what is real, true, and honest. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.