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To undo the past in the present is to release the future

How do we undo the past? By recognizing false perceptions and beliefs. By correcting a wrong. By forgiving a person for an error. By accepting what happened as something that had to happen. By seeing everything from the perspective of love.

Without undoing the past, a different future is impossible. How can anything change when the very same ideas, beliefs, judgements, and perceptions continue to define our thoughts and behavior?

To undo the past is to awaken to the present—to realize that the stories you carry with you are not here at all. Each present moment is a clean slate—a space where we are free to create whatever we desire now. This is called letting go—which means losing nothing of value while gaining everything. It is also called awakening, and it is available to everyone each moment. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  

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What are the Top 5 beliefs that make true love impossible?

I believe every person has access to perfect love. Relationship problems result from learned errors. Here are the Top 5 beliefs and thought patters that block love and cause relationship problems:

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1) Belief in guilt.

As innocent children born into an unwell world, we have been taught to feel ashamed of ourselves. The natural process of learning and growing requires that we make mistakes along the way. Rather than being encouraged to look honestly at errors, consider the consequences of our actions, and unemotionally making adjustments—most of the people in our lives make us guilty, shame us, and tell us we are no good. When we believe this about ourselves, we begin to loathe ourselves. When we loathe ourselves, it becomes impossible to love ourselves or anyone else.

Know that you are not guilty, and neither is anyone else. We have all made mistakes and have acted in ways that does not honor reality. Errors can be corrected, but only if looked upon lovingly, honestly, and without judgment. Simply notice how your words and actions made you feel. How did it make others feel? What was the result of your deeds? Is this what you want or is there a better way? Think about it, talk about it, and experiment until you get it right.

2) Belief in attacking to teach a lesson.

This is closely related to belief 1. The thought system of the world is to judge others and then to respond with reward or punishment as a mechanism of control. This is a violent, manipulative way to get others to obey us without consent. This is one form of attack. Other forms include violence, arguing, insulting, etc.

The problem with belief in attack is that it leads to rebellion, resentment, and teaches us to react in fear rather than in common sense and wisdom. The other problem is that it is impossible to feel love within the thought system of attack or a relationship based on attack (because it is violent).  


3) That there is ever a good reason to withhold honesty.

Another common blockage to our ability to love is that we are afraid to be honest and we are afraid of the truth. When we restrict honesty, we are restricting the free flow of communication. Yet, it is through open communication that love flourishes. Loving yourself is about knowing yourself and being honest with yourself about you. Loving another is just the same. Withhold or prevent honesty and you destroy love.

Practicing honesty requires a willingness for both parties to accept. There can be no judgment, no making wrong, and no attack as a response to honesty or honesty will be impossible in that relationship. What we are talking about here is unconditional love. Any love that is conditional is not love; rather, an arrangement.


4) Believing that you get love from another person.

Most people want to be loved by another person, but lasting love from another is impossible unless we first learn to love ourselves. This, of course, has become a cliché (yet, even so, it is rarely understood or practiced).

Spend some quiet time with yourself and think deeply about the ideas in this post. Remember that you are innocent, that you are good, that any shame or guilt you feel has restricted you from love—yet, at your core, you are love.

This is the process of unblocking yourself that we are talking about, and it is a necessary step before we can experience perfect love with another person.


5) Faith in time.

Most people seek love by waiting for circumstances to change, for someone to finally apologize for this or to do that. Others are waiting to meet the “right person”. But waiting is not seeking. Infinite possibilities for love exist right here, right now—and the present moment is the only dimension of reality that has ever existed.

Love yourself perfectly now. Love those in your life perfectly now. Greet new people with perfect love as well. This is how you transform your life into one that is filled with perfect love everywhere. Everyone meant for you will fit exactly where they were meant to fit. But it happens now, not in the future.

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I am not my self; the difference between your identity as consciousness and the ego-identity

Consider the expression, “I can’t stand myself anymore” or “I don’t know what to do with myself”. You might ask, who is the “I” and who is the “self” here? A person cannot be split into two identities. One must be the real identity. In these sentences, the “self” being referred to is the ego or false identity. The “I” is the true identity—or “I am”. To spiritually awaken is to identify with the “I am” and not with the conceptual “self”.

You are not your thoughts; rather, you are the entity observing those thoughts, listening to the voice in the head, and perceiving everything else going on in life. The voice in the head is mostly insane.

Imagine spending one whole day saying out loud everything that runs through your head. It would be terribly embarrassing and annoying, so we keep most of it inside. Yet we find it perfectly sane and normal to take those thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions seriously and to react to them. If you believe the voice in the head is you, you will even defend those thoughts as if fighting for your life. Unfortunately, this ego-driven state is a dangerous and ineffective way to live—a roller-coaster of drama, suffering, and crisis.

The mind will continue to do what it does, but we don’t have to take every thought seriously. We can learn to recognize the negative and fearful thoughts simply as ego—and as ultimately unreal. When I talk about escaping the ego, it doesn’t mean that all the ego’s thoughts disappear completely. I am talking about observing the thoughts and recognize them for what they are—as merely the functioning of the mind (a “useful tool” as Eckhart Tolle often puts it).

There is nothing wrong with the mind, but you are not your mind. You are consciousness, the awareness, life itself. To meditate is to learn not to constantly think, and not to chase a train of thought. What is left during those brief moments when there is no thought—that is the essence of who you are. Become aware of your “I am” here, and you have awakened. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Purification is the decision to align your beliefs with higher truths

It is a choice to disassociate from the ego. A decision to value the miracle of the now, to practice non-resistance to what is, and to always respond to everyone and everything lovingly.

Higher truth is grasped in the form of various concepts and words, yet it is one whole. If you understand one piece of it (e.g., forgiveness), you have accessed the whole. This whole is nothing other than perfect knowledge, and perfect knowledge is superior to mere perception. It is also far superior to so-called rationality (which does not even exist).

Higher truth includes some of the following spiritual beliefs:

  • I believe that I am not my mind; rather, that my true identity is formless consciousness (or awareness, love, presence…these are all different words that mean the same thing and the words do not matter).
  • I do not believe in the reality of fear because I know that I am eternally invulnerable beyond form.
  • I believe that I am perfectly complete now, in this eternal, ongoing present moment, and am waiting for no future destination of salvation or heaven. The entire reality exists now and there is no other time than now.
  • I believe that the thought system of love is perfect and wholly true. Sin is where love is not. Anything done in love is done correctly. One need only learn what love truly is and what love truly does. There are books about it. I wrote a free eBook that you may enjoy on this topic, and it is called Belove: How to End Pain by Escaping Your Ego.
  • As love, we believe not in manipulation or attack; rather, in the thought system that is effortlessly giving, creating, accepting, open, free, fearless, joyful, blissful, and capable of solving every problem because the only problem is lack of love.

Purified, we feel the perfect energy flow from within and life is instantly and constantly perfect. From this true belief system, our decisions are very different. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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A decision is a conclusion based on everything you believe. It is the outcome of belief. (A Course in Miracles)

“No belief is neutral. Every one has the power to dictate each decision you make.”

I am neither rational nor unbiased. Each of my actions, behaviors, and decisions are an outcome of my beliefs—and no belief is neutral. Only beliefs have the power to lift us from confusion, chaos, suffering, and crisis—but only when those beliefs are true.

False beliefs seem to promise comfort and end confusion, but only for a time. When our actions, behaviors, and decisions are based upon false beliefs, reality will come around to make the correction.

This correction is what is experienced as suffering. If correction is not made as a result of suffering, crisis will make sure that it is. I explain this concept in detail in my free eBook The Switch.

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Only you can give yourself permission to be that amazing, wonderful version of you

What is it that prevents you from being that fun, joyful, inspired version of you? How long has it been since you had that feeling of excitement inside? Since you allowed yourself to dream? Since you lived a dream or experienced a fantasy?

The only reason we fall short of being the best possible version of ourselves is that we give power to external voices and forces. We are made afraid by the media, the financial system, and the healthcare system. We are falsely made into criminals by a corrupt government. We are made to feel guilty by environmentalists, social justice advocates, and others. We are forced to conform and act normal at work and at school.

In our personal lives, our romantic partners, family, and friends want us to say, do, and be as they say. The lesson is always that we are wrong, we are flawed, we are not enough of this or too much of that.

When you give these external voices power, then you doubt, ignore, and even lose your inner voice. Your inner voice is your compass. Most people are lost because they believe that their own compass is bad. When you lose faith in your inner voice, you become confused, withdrawn, cynical, sarcastic, angry, fearful, stress out, and life becomes a miserable experience.

No one is ever going to give you permission to follow your inner compass. Only you have that power. So what are you good at? What is beautiful about who you are or what you create? What interesting perspectives have you learned through your unique life experiences? What unique skills have you acquired? What excites you? When were you most happy? What do you dream of? Do you remember that you are innocent, that you are good and lovable? This is your truth. Own it and live it.

I go by the name “Abscondo” because, to me, to abscond means to withdraw my faith and attention from the harmful external voices, from the lost and lonely people. It means to ignore all the times I have been disappointed by lack of love in people. It means to go within and to connect with the real me—the one who loves purely, creates beautiful music, creates value through my work, does everything I have ever felt inspired to do, and who is completely open, transparent, and honest about everything.

Here I feel wonderful and life is amazing. Here I am complete, joyful, and am as enthusiastic as a child—no matter what any of the external voices are saying. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Life is experienced beyond the mind

So much goes on in our heads, but nothing real can be experienced in thought.

Notice how everything real, beautiful, and enjoyable happens during the gaps between thoughts. We come alive when the analysis, the naming, and the judging of good and bad stops. This seeing with true vision is available to everyone through the perspective of consciousness or "I am". Focused attention with a still mind.

The thoughts, analysis, and stories of the mind are useful at times. The mind is a useful tool, but life is experienced when attention is shifted away from thought. This is learned through spiritually-alive teachings and through meditation. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Lack of love in this world is the only problem

Ignorant of love, humans are a cancer on the planet. We destroy. We use up. We suffer.

Enough. The only priority in this life is that we learn to love. In love we heal, we create, we provide, and we enjoy.

Most people do not know what love is. Love’s energy and wisdom has been lost in this world. We have it upside-down. Everything about life that doesn’t matter has been made to matter; yet it still doesn’t matter because love is still all that matters.

Love is not what you find or get from anyone, it is what you are. Love is not a feeling or an arrangement, it is a way of being in truth.

Forgive yourself. Forgive and accept it all. There is nothing wrong with you and there never has been. There is nothing you need to become other than what you are: love. Be that.

Love does not come to you; rather, it comes from within you. Let go of all that is blocking the love flowing from within. This is success. Furthermore, horrific revelations are about emerge that will require us all to see the world from the perspective of love, if only to maintain sanity in the face of evil. We want only love. We use it to transform darkness. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Newness

Something about being human is this fundamental hunger and drive toward exploration. Life without newness feels dull and monotonous. Newness brings a subtle sense of aliveness, excitement, and passion to the present moment.

Doing is knowing. To know, we must do what excites us—going all the way into wherever it leads, yet without clinging to any of it. We are free to experience it, free to think it, free to say it, free to keep it or let it go. We can embrace new perspectives, new friendships, new music, new routines, new situations, new challenges, new places, new possibilities, new recipes, new things.

Thoughts, rules, or emotions limiting freedom are unnecessary obstacles preventing us from doing what we are here to do. We declare ourselves free and set each other free. We approach the present moment with an open mind, a heart that is alive, and a “yes” always on the tip of our tongues.

Here we are alive in passion, truth, and beauty—but only as long as we remain within the thought system of love. Think and act freely but without love and experience suffering and crisis until you learn the whole lesson. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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The mask is about to be torn off

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For 1,000s of years, humanity has accepted the unacceptable. We were told it was human nature, but there is nothing natural about it. Violence, deception, domination of the many by the very few.

And what kind of people would do such a thing? Was there not a point at which their material wealth, comfort, and fame was enough? Could they not have respected us, allowed us freedom and the pursuit of happiness? What is this sickness that has gradually overtaken the world until it became so impossible that decent people finally fought back?

It is only a matter of days or weeks before the mask is torn off. When it is, the answers will be revealed with perfect clarity. When we are shown the unspeakably ugly truth, we will recognize that the problems of the world are not a result of human nature. We will know because we will not recognize ourselves in these ruthless, dark, corrupting forces that have been in control. We will see that we are good and loveable. We will realize that our confusion was painstakingly taught to us through the insane thought system of ego.

Abundance will emerge in all areas of our lives. There will be a new recognition of beauty and truth. Stress and fear will be forgotten. Our hearts and minds will open. Each moment, we will be grateful to be alive now, just as we wonder how we could have ever accepted things as they were before.

This is the Great Awakening. We undertake it now, tomorrow, and each day after that.

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