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You cannot communicate by not communicating

Because of pride, sometimes we choose not to say what we really mean or feel. Instead, we may try to use body language, passive-aggressive silence, or even attack to communicate what we mean to say without saying it—and then we expect the message to be received and somehow understood.

In truth, nothing can be understood unless it is well-communicated. If you love someone, say it. If someone says or does something that hurts you, tell the person how you feel. If you are afraid to lose someone, be honest. If you feel lonely even while in a relationship, find a way to gently say it. If there is something you really want to do with another person, simply express the need.

Any level of understanding in human relationships is difficult enough to achieve even when we are being completely open, honest and accepting. But withhold honesty, keep things inside, or let another person’s behavior silently eat away at you and the relationship begins to feel unbearable. Resentment begins and now everything is a problem. Then, from this place of frustration and suffering, what ends up happening is that your behavior starts to appear crazy to the other person because they have no idea what’s going on.

Trying to communicate by not communicating doesn’t work. It is only pride, which is a pillar of the ego, that would have you attempt such insanity. True communication requires vulnerability. If there is a problem in any relationship, simply be honest about your inner world. Say what you mean. Encourage the other person to do the same. Now you are communicating, and any problem is easily overcome.

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I am nothing

People use the word “I” referring to a particular body and mind with a particular life story and situation associated with it. “I” or “my” is concerned only with the dimension of stuff / material / matter—the shifting forms of the material realm.

While I recognize that there is a particular body, mind, life story, and situation associated with this temporary physical form, it is not who I am. “I am” refers to consciousness / life / spirit—which is not in the observable, material realm; rather, is of what the mind dismisses as “nothing”.

The paradoxical truth is that something is actually nothing, while nothing is really everything.

We are talking about identity, and there is a fundamental need for a permanent identity. The problem is that we attempt to build one up through everything we are doing in the physical dimension / external world. Here everything is always changing, and all life forms grow old and die.

For to be meaningful, it must be permanent. That which is not permanent / eternal is only a meaningless situation.

A person driven by ego does not fundamentally understand this. Until we escape from the ego trap, we exhaust ourselves in a vain attempt to build up an identity that is recognizable in the external world. We attempt to derive lasting happiness through particular life situations or outcomes, but reality is such that it does not obey our mind’s desires. Anyway, the mind cannot know anything about what you really need until it knows who “you” are.

To spiritually awaken is to humble oneself to the point of saying “I am nothing”, or “I am” without adding anything to it. This is the recognition of identity / truth / reality—which is unchangeable, or it wouldn’t be truth and reality.

Now you can observe the external world and take part in it—but in a way that you no longer want or need anything from it. You are free. You can express and handle truth. Only loving thoughts and expressions are real, and everything else is forgiven.

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When you are content to be simply yourself, and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you. (Tao Te Ching)

Ironically, you don’t earn the respect or approval of others by pretending to be the person you imagine others want you to be. How could they respect someone who demonstrates so little confidence and self-worth?

When you encounter someone, don’t you want to know the real person? Wouldn’t you rather interact in truth? Wouldn’t role-playing insult both you and the actor by attempting to put you both into a box?

Be yourself. Don’t compare don’t compete. Not only will you effortlessly earn respect, you will give others permission to do the same. You will also form the most solid, deepest relationships.

What’s great about you is not how well you fit in; rather, how you don’t.

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If this were the real world, God would be cruel. (A Course in Miracles)

When people speak of "the real world", they are talking about a world in which guilt is real, where attack is justified, and where love can be first given and then withdrawn. They are talking about a world in which politics are corrupt, governments exploit, the media lies, the church calls us sinners, and school makes us ill with its endless lessons of sacrifice and confusion. 

We have learned the world's lessons so well that we believe suffering is good and enjoyment is for the foolish or weak. What a strange thought system we have adopted and what a cruel world we have made.

Certain species of animals are domesticated: dogs, cats, cows, chickens and humans. For the past several thousand years, humans have been domesticated by other humans. We were promised safety, stability and comfort and we submitted. Now, largely detached from nature, we no longer know how to survive independently.

Spiritual awakening, salvation, means remembering what is real about us; even before our domestication. Who we are is not of this artificial world we have been conditioned to see. All of society is what human minds did and what other human minds agreed to. It is what we have made and what we have accepted, but is not actually real. 

God did not make this world of suffering; we did. God made the perfect nature within us and in the perfect balance of this world. Our confused minds, ignorant of reality, are the cancer here.

To heal is to look upon God's creations as real, not our own makings. By turning reality upside down in this way, our minds may once again serve truth and we shall once again do no harm.

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True mastery can be gained by letting things go their own way. It can’t be gained by interfering. (Tao Te Ching)

Interference is the mind’s attempt to assert supremacy and control where it has none. The unobserved mind over-estimates its own power and fails to recognize the greater wisdom beyond it.

When a situation calls for a response, then we can let intuition lead the way. But if something is beyond our ability to change, then it is enough to speak the truth about it and then let it be. This allows freedom for others to experience their own life journeys. This allows challenges to teach lessons that need to be taught. Absent of interference, we can effortlessly allow the collective, one consciousness to learn through any situation or event.

It is entirely possible to stand in your truth just as you let every situation unfold. It is possible to accept everything as it is—grateful for the knowledge that it must happen for the simple reason that it is happening. This is true mastery, which is your strongest position for success and the only way to experience the peace of God.

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.” -The Serenity Prayer

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Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open? (Rumi)

Search for freedom externally and find only closed doors. It is true that there are endless obstacles to freedom in this world, and that's exactly the point. The doorway to freedom cannot be found externally because it is within.

What is freedom but the right to openly and honestly be yourself, to express yourself, to live your dreams and fantasies? Your soul wants to be set free. You want to feel unrestricted, unblocked, unshackled. Why? Because you want to be happy, to have fun, to love and be loved, to learn and to grow and to play. 

The door to all of this is only found within. To open it, open your mind and your heart to perfect love. To the mind, unconditional love is a thought system. To the heart, it is an energy and a state of being that is felt.  You do want freedom, but real and lasting freedom is only accessible when all your faith is in love. All that is not love can be let go of.

This is the only door to freedom: learn what perfect love is, learn to love yourself fully, then extend it freely and align your thoughts with only loving thoughts. Without first doing this, there is no person, situation, or circumstance in the world that could possibly offer you any sort of real or lasting freedom. You may have already been offered freedom, but failed to experience it because you haven't walked through the door within.

Only if aligned with love are you free. You are free to tell the truth, free to connect with other free people in love, free to explore, and if you embody only love you will render ineffective all the world's attempts to restrict your freedom. You are consciousness, which is another word for perfect love. You are eternal. You are beautiful. You are the light. You are free.

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No trust in authority. The world is messed up. What can we do? How are we supposed to live?

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People reject both Love and God because they incorrectly believe that both involve sacrifice

As A Course in Miracles explains, “You believe it is possible to be host to ego or hostage to God.” Indeed, religion has falsely taught us that salvation requires tremendous sacrifices that would rob us of fun and richness of experience in life. While religiosity can make life dull, spiritual awakening brings aliveness.

The story of Christ dying on the cross is not a story of sacrifice; rather, a story about fearlessly overcoming death as spirit-identity. No sacrifice is required to align with God because God is the force of life, itself. It is what we are, beyond the flesh. When you recognize your divine identity, you choose to let the false ego identity go because you simply recognize it as the source of problems. Is ending your problems in this life and beyond a sacrifice?

People misunderstand God as something external, far away, a sort of man in the sky whom we are supposed to fear. This idea of God is so ridiculous that most people, choosing to become agnostic or atheist, assume the world’s false identity of ego instead. The tragic error of ego is undone when we recognize God as the energy and force of life, itself, experienced by humans internally as the energy, feeling, and thought system of Love.

Of course, Love (capitalized because it is divine) is another badly misunderstood concept, for the simple reason that we are taught that it, too, requires sacrifice.   

“Sacrifice is so essential to your thought system that salvation apart from sacrifice means nothing to you. Your confusion of sacrifice and love is so profound that you cannot conceive of love without sacrifice. And it is this you must look upon; sacrifice is attack, not love.”
-A Course in Miracles

To Love fully, to spiritually awaken and to align with the divine thought system of Love, requires no sacrifice at all. Those who would make you sacrifice for love or for salvation are manipulating and exploiting you for very selfish reasons. To embrace this message is to free yourself, to end your suffering, to awaken to truth, reality, and joy. No sacrifice. No fear. Just love.

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The world teaches fear to distract you from your power

Your power is love and it is what you are. This power can be forgotten, but it cannot be lost. Love is the only force that the world cannot resist, cannot contain, and cannot successfully war against. When your thinking and doing is loving, you channel unstoppable power and strength.

The ego would convince you to sacrifice perfect love to gain the world. But like everything the ego sets out to do, this cannot be done. There is nothing of any real value that can be gained from the world. All truth, beauty and value is consciousness infusing the world of form. To love is to bring about the feeling, the energy, the doing of consciousness.

You cannot sell your soul, but you can forget it–choosing instead a state of suffering, failure, anxiety and fear. This is the feeling of a forgotten soul begging to be remembered.

Remember what you are each day and know that it is infinitely more powerful than anything of this world. Unconditional love is so powerful that no one can stop you from practicing it. All authority lies in your truth.

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Thought alone, when it is no longer connected with the much vaster realm of consciousness, quickly becomes barren, insane, destructive. (Eckhart Tolle)

Complete identification with the mind (the belief that I am my thoughts) is the cause of failure, suffering and insanity.

Still today, most people make exhaustive efforts to blame other people and situations as the cause of suffering. The thinking goes, "If only this person would change, or if only I could find a way to accomplish this, then I could finally be happy.” This story appears to make sense when we are young, but as we pass through life something changes.

As we mature, we look back upon all the things that were supposed to make us happy. Much of what we wanted in our youth was eventually experienced or accomplished. But just as soon as we get what we want, we find the next problem. When we eventually recognize this pattern, most people surrender to despair and grumpiness. The other alternative is to find out how to simply observe thoughts, not take them too seriously, and mostly ignore the stories of the mind.

Through daily meditation and a spiritual practice, you can awaken to the fact that the voice in the head isn’t really you; rather, the conditioning of the world. This is the recognition of reality an the undoing of ego.

All that which is real is beyond the mind and can be best described as unconditional love. When we align with unconditional love, the mind functions optimally and the suffering ends. Awakened, you live in alignment with reality rather than in a state of resisting it. The scattered thoughts no longer cause emotional reactions. Now the sane, creative, productive mind has humbled itself to the vast realm of consciousness.

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