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The special ones are all asleep; surrounded by a world of loveliness they do not see. (A Course in Miracles)

Specialness is an imaginary hell of our own creation, made up of everything we give value to that is not real.

To prove our specialness, we attempt to form an identity rooted in externalities such as our accomplishments, our possessions, our beliefs, our looks, characteristics, or other details having to do with our life situation. While some of this is mildly interesting, the truth of our identity cannot be found in these notions of specialness (nor can any lasting satisfaction or enjoyment).

Rather than seeing the clear truth of what is real, specialness would have us identify with made-up illusions about our lives and then fight to the point of exhaustion to make them so. This is a fool’s errand, because there is nothing that can be done to make illusion real. We can sacrifice, we can fight, we can ride the ups and downs, we can give it all striving for what we think is important—but it isn’t important because no real victory is found here.

What is truly wonderful about us—our real potential—flows from being. Access this by knowing that identity is in consciousness. No meaning is attached to external form which has none. If we have accomplished something, or if there are special talents or beautiful personality traits that others enjoy in us, it is because we have remained centered in the knowledge of identity.

Rooted in the oneness and sameness of being, we can enjoy all the loveliness the world has to offer. Life flows nicely without much effort. Things tend to work out. The pace accelerates because we no longer resist. We feel perfectly complete and success fills our lives not because we had to reach for it; rather, because it flows from within.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  

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Who we think we are is not who we are. (Clare Dimond)

When people hear the true spiritual message—this one truth spoken in infinite ways—they become afraid.

We spend our lives defining who we are and what we believe about the world. We craft an image, we define ourselves by our circumstances (good or bad), we compare ourselves to others, we worry that nobody cares, that nobody loves us and that we don’t matter.

These are the stories of the mind, and most people’s identity is those stories. We think all this makes us interesting, but it doesn’t. In fact, it makes us normal and boring—just like everybody else. We become dull and predictable, barely noticing reality, lost in our heads juggling ridiculous and meaningless thoughts.

Identified with the mind, we think we are interesting and unique. All the while, we are blind to the fact that everything we say, think and do is so completely and utterly predictable. The ego believes it values differences; but in its inner-workings, every ego is exactly the same.

Identified with the mind, life is a chore. There is no freedom. No lasting joy or bliss. No true meaning. No deep wisdom or understanding. In the ego we are lost. Is this what we are afraid to let go of?

When we stop defining who we are, then the light of who we truly are begins to shine. To awaken is to let go of the stories, then the fears, then the rules, then the inhibitions, then the limiting beliefs, then the stress and pain, then the exhaustion, then the illnesses—constantly peeling back all that is false until the true you emerges.

“When we glimpse the truth of who we are beneath the stories, whatever remains is more real, not less.” -Clare Dimond 

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Relationships do not complete what is already whole.

To be spiritually unawake is to believe that what we are lacking inside can be fulfilled externally. With so much attention on so-called rational thought, we have forgotten that we were all born with perfect love within.

All these cruel, insane lessons of sacrifice have tricked us into believing that we are incomplete—that love is not what we are; rather, that we must get it from another person. So, we desperately look for someone to play the part—someone who has also forgotten about the love within and also needs you to play the part.

Where is the source of love in this unholy relationship? You both expect it from the other, so both feel pressured to play a role. There are the rules, gestures, expectations and decisions all designed to provide that feeling of love—but somehow the loving bliss you both expected from the relationship isn’t quite there.

Now you blame each other, you attack, you resent, you argue—all because you both have a deep need for love but went about it the wrong way. With each new attack and manipulation, the relationship is damaged and love becomes more elusive. This is not love; rather, a codependent arrangement that will never bring lasting happiness.

Love requires that we undo ego to remember the perfect love within. This is done alone, in silence and stillness. There are beautiful books that can help by authors like Don Miguel Ruiz, Thich Nan Hanh, Osho, Michael Singer, Erich Fromm and even Yours Truly.

Only when you come to love yourself so much that you don’t need another person are you ready for a romantic relationship. If you meet another enlightened soul who has done the same, then your relationship will be overflowing with love. There is no way around this, so we continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Let the noise push you into consciousness.

As the rate of change in this world constantly accelerates, the only way to cope is to allow everything happening to pass through you. This requires presence.

We are living in a time when the rate of technological and social change is increasing. Each day, we might communicate with hundreds of people using advancing technologies and tools. Our tastes are also evolving because media information and advertising is getting better at reaching us through multiple touchpoints.

In his book “Waking Up in Time”, Peter Russell suggests that, as this rate of change accelerates, there will come a time when humans can no longer continue to cling to the external. The material world will become even more obviously impermanent and unstable. If we are to survive and find any peace and happiness, we will need to become conscious—centered in the present moment. Change in the material world will bring us to a tipping-point when the majority of humans awaken. This is what is called the Consciousness Revolution.

In an increasingly chaotic state, the only way to find inner calm, joy, bliss and inspiration (i.e. happiness) is to become so present that everything is let go as soon as it passes through your field of awareness. In your work, your relationships, and in everything you do—become so present that you no longer imagine the future or hold onto the past. You then begin to interact with the world, as it is, in real-time—where your capabilities are optimized and your soul soars.

Let the world go its own way as you open your heart, open your mind, and stay present. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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You can always cope with the now, but you can never cope with the future. Nor do you have to. (Eckhart Tolle)

The mind is filled with “what if” scenarios – thoughts, which are nothing more than the egoic mind projecting itself out into an imaginary future. You might worry all day and night, taking yourself through endless scenarios about what could be, might be, or should be. Or you could just stay present and fully respond to what is.

Everything real is in the present. The eternal, ongoing present is the field where everything happens. Allow your mind to take you away from reality, into delusions of the future and stories of the past, and you divert vital energy away from responding to what is real. This is like going through life with the disadvantage of being severely intoxicated – constantly hung-over by sleepless nights filled with useless thoughts, always drained by endless boring stories repeated to yourself and others.

Be here now and set yourself free to access all your power. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Whenever you are with a brother, you are learning what you are because you are teaching what you are. (A Course in Miracles)

“He will respond either with pain, or with joy, depending upon which teacher you are following. He will be imprisoned or released according to your decision, and so will you. Never forget your responsibility to him, because it is your responsibility to yourself. The Kingdom cannot be found alone.”

Some people seek inner peace by labeling others as narcissists and sociopaths—then creating boundaries, attempting to rid themselves of what they call “toxic relationships”. Any time we judge or condemn a brother or sister using such labels, we are serving the ego and its belief in separation.

What are you teaching? That narcissistic and sociopathic behavior is real, that the other is condemned, wrong, flawed, sinful, hopeless? This is belief in separation, not the path to inner peace. Here you seek but do not find.

Happiness is not found in isolation and separation. This is the path toward loneliness and lack. If you desire abundance and freedom, respond your brothers and sisters in spirit. Learn to communicate, and to teach, on the level of feelings and needs.

Marshall Rosenberg says, “Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.” Or as stated in the Tao Te Ching, “What is a bad man but a good man’s student? What is a good man but a bad man’s teacher?”

To teach is to look past the error and to communicate on the level of the unmet need. Healing and growth is possible, but only if we learn to respond to each other like this: “I can see that you’re feeling angry. Is it because you have a need for more freedom, or more love, or more safety? I’d like to understand you better. Would you like to talk about this?”

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Break free

The word “freedom” scares some people, just like the word “God” turns off others. In truth, freedom means the same thing as consciousness, presence, enlightenment, and God. Freedom without atonement (another word), without inner peace, without awareness of your true self is impossible and means nothing. Today we look past the word and look more deeply at freedom.

If you are in a job where you are forced to be in a specific environment—where you must behave in a way that is inauthentic for 40 hours a week or more—it will be very difficult for you to experience a spiritual awakening. You need to be free to feel good, to meditate, to exercise, to go for a walk, to chase an idea, to start a new venture, to meet someone for a conversation, to read, write, or play music.

If you depend upon one employer for your income, you are not free. You are placing your faith not in your ability to create value through service and creation, not in the abundance of the universe that is possible if you are aligned with love, not in spirit, nor in yourself, nor in God. You have chosen to seek safety and protection from an employer, and for this you have sacrificed a great deal. This is a house without a foundation. Companies fail, they get acquired, and your job might be outsourced or automated. Your freedom is worth too much to exchange for this false sense of safety.

Work is always necessary, but the goal and purpose of work is maximum income in minimum time. Work is not about sitting in an office pretending, living in fear of losing your job. Employment is beneficial and useful for a time to help us gain skills. Beyond that, it becomes crippling. Peace, joy and happiness through enlightenment requires freedom.

You can take the first step toward breaking free by reading the “4-Hour Workweek” by Tim Ferriss. Learn to produce value in the way that you choose to, for the reasons you understand. Learn to serve many companies and many people. Earn income from multiple sources. The source of value and abundance in your life is the love within you. Love is giving, serving, creating. Learn to channel it wisely and earn maximum income.

Most of us find ourselves in a relationship or a job in which we are not entirely free. This is an essential part of life experience and a wonderful opportunity for growth. You can still find peace and joy by going to the present moment. But ultimately, we all dream of more—total abundance and the freedom to live in alignment with truth. This is what we are learning. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Rest does not come from sleeping, but from waking. (A Course in Miracles).

“The world is very tired because it is the idea of weariness.” The idea of the world is that our purpose is to sacrifice, to tolerate maximum suffering and discomfort because of rewards and punishments.

Schools keep little children in frustrated obedience for too long. Employers keep us at work even longer and pay us as little as possible. Governments make strict laws and tax us to the highest level we can stand. Relationships and marriages come with too many demands and expectations in return for too little bliss. We are asked to sacrifice, always sacrifice, and we have come to believe in this manipulation, this theft of our lives. We even call this “the real world”.

All this sacrifice is making us so tired that sleep doesn’t even help. We live for weekends or brief holidays and, just as the dark clouds part and any inspiration appears, we are sent back into the sacrifice. In a way this is done to us, in a way we do it to ourselves. Fuck this.

Tolerance for sacrifice is not the purpose of your life. Furthermore, you will never reach happiness through sacrifice (only more sacrifice). The only way to break free from this dreadful cycle is to remember your spiritual identity and simply begin to live in truth.

You are spirit, not the voice in your mind. Your first priority is to feel good now, not in the past or future. Love is everything, and through love comes perfect knowledge, freedom and abundance. You forgive yourself and others. You break free from this dreadful isolation, you stop competing, attacking, and being right. You connect, you accept others, you give, you create regardless of what anybody thinks. Now accept, without any judgment, the drastic changes coming your way. Now you have chosen the way of spirit and this requires no sacrifice. Rest in joy.

“You are the light of the world with me. Awaken and be glad.” We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Quotes from A Course in Miracles


How to cope with stress

Stress is caused by being here but wanting to be there. Or being in the present but wanting to be in the future. It’s a split that tears you apart inside.

That terrible feeling of stress, frustration, and anxiety is your body telling you that something is wrong. You have forgotten that now is all there is, all there ever was, and all there ever will be. Most of all, you’ve stopped believing that you are freedom.

To be stressed is to believe that you need a different set of external circumstances before you can be happy. But if you are seeking liberation in external form, you will continue to seek for a lifetime—experiencing only brief, temporary relief from the agony. You’ll feel split, torn apart, like something is dreadfully wrong.

To create and live with such a split is insane. The fact that everyone else is doing it doesn’t make it any less insane.

When you feel that you have no power, like you are adrift on a stormy sea, this is the feeling of your soul screaming out for remembrance. The unease and sickness inside of you is a reminder that you have forgotten what is real. Your belief has shifted to external form, to ego, to the realm of the impermanent. You’ve forgotten that you have all the power—to leave the situation, to do something about it, or to fully surrender to it. Those are your options.

Remember that spirit cannot be threatened by any external situation or condition imposed upon you. You are the source of power because you are love and you are the energy of life. What is real about you cannot be threatened by anyone or anything. Remember this, go deeply into the fear, the stress, anxiety. Access the power of now and it will melt away. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Quotes from The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle