Posts categorized "Authentic Life"

I hope that the 2020s come to be known as the decade of self-love

Today, most people loath themselves. We obsess over our flaws, worry endlessly about our problems, and carry an enormous amount of guilt and shame. Yesterday, I wrote that your innocence needs no defense; but most people don't believe it.

To feel guilt and shame is to not see the truth about our errors. Our supposed sins could only have been reactions to fear. People do desperate things because we are afraid.

At our core, we crave that feeling of enjoyment, happiness, safety, peace, and bliss. We want that good feeling more than anything else. The need is so strong that we are tempted to do almost anything to have it. How ironic is it that the need to feel good is the supposed justification for all the harm we do to one another, while we only feel lousy because of all the harm we do to one another? The world teaches that this insanity is necessary, and we learn to believe it even as we learn to hate ourselves.

In fear, we have all made so many tragic errors. The insanity is this: fear is the cause of everything we fear. Fear isn't a reaction to a problem; rather, the cause. Because of fear, we lie and deceive. This causes ongoing suffering and then all-out crisis when the lies are exposed. We also seek personal gain by taking from or diminishing others. We even make others feel bad only so that we might feel better. The result; nobody is really happy and we end up hating ourselves.

To love yourself is to find out that you already have the capacity for perfect love, enjoyment, happiness, safety, peace and bliss within. Now having learned this, you can then forgive yourself for all those desperate errors of fear. There's nothing wrong with you, it's just that you've been following the insane paths of the world. All the world's paths can only lead to suffering and death. There is no difference between any of them.

There is only one path which is different, and it is the path of self-love. When all your actions are loving, all your words are true, and you are also willing to create value by serving others, then all your needs will be met and you will have nothing to fear. Now your self-love can be extended to the world so that your inner and outer reality come into alignment with your purest needs. My hope for the next decade is that your self-love transforms your life and the whole world.


Choose lasting happiness through the power of perfect honesty. Read The Switch.

Your innocence needs no defense

You are innocent. That which is true needs no defense for it to remain true.

Attacks upon your innocence are never real and therefore do not need a reaction.

This is the path away from insanity, where you are always comfortable and safe in the truth of what you are.

You’ve always known that you are innocent. All else you have learned to believe about yourself is untrue and can now be forgotten.

Guilt is also untrue of others, and can also be forgotten. They too are innocent. This is forgiveness, and through forgiveness all the world can heal in one holy instant.


Choose lasting happiness through the power of perfect honesty. Read The Switch.

There was something formless and perfect before the universe was born.

“It is serene, empty, solitary, unchanging, infinite, eternally present. It is the mother of the universe. For lack of a better name, I call it the Tao.”

-Tao Te Ching 25

That formless perfection is, always has been, and always will be. The Tao is the same thing as consciousness or God; the unchanging source of all life and the return destination after death. Consciousness is in the nothingness — the eternal realm that cannot be grasped, perceived, threatened or changed. 

Nothingness can be easily experienced by gazing into the night sky, by contemplating the empty space in a room, or simply by looking within. 99.999999% of the universe is this — the realm of everything that matters.

Matter, in a relative sense, doesn’t matter. In material form there is chaos, change, decay, and confusion. We come into this world as spirit made flesh and we maintain this eternal identity. Spirit is eternal and flesh is temporary. To know our spirit identity is salvation, enlightenment, awakening.

Everything that matters most exists in this realm beyond our physical senses: love, health, wisdom, peace, excitement, and feeling good. To experience this as our ongoing state, we need only awaken to consciousness.

Choose lasting happiness through the power of perfect honesty. Read The Switch.

He who stands on tip-toe, doesn’t stand firm.

He who rushes ahead doesn’t go far.

He who tries to shine dims his own light.

He who defines himself can’t know who he really is.

He who has power over others can’t empower himself.

He who clings to his work will create nothing that endures.

If you want to accord with the Tao, just do your job then let go.

-          Tao Te Ching 24

True greatness seems absent of ambition. Ambition is the ego clinging to a result; while greatness is of spirit. The ego waits for salvation in time, while spirit is already perfect. Ego seeks gratification through the validation of others, spirit is already complete on a level that is beyond validation.

The mind is all about will-power, self-discipline, goal-setting, and beating yourself up for not always achieving what you set out to achieve.  But true success is what happens, absent of ambition, when we are humble, vulnerable and aligned with the thought system of perfect love. To live and create in love is to let ambition go, safe in the knowledge that you don’t need it.

Love, the energy of consciousness that carries with it complete knowledge, is always the answer and needs no validation. What is ambition for when there is nothing more to aspire to beyond love and perfect love is effortless?

Choose lasting happiness through the power of perfect honesty. Read The Switch.

The world isn’t here to make you happy; rather, to make you conscious.

When problems arise, our minds tell us that they ought not be happening. Plans fail, then we feel unjustly trapped within a life that we ought not have. Love relationships fail to deliver salvation, so we feel as though we are with the wrong partner.

If life isn’t easy, it is by design. Challenges push us toward awakening. The failure, the suffering, it is there to push us further. If a bit of suffering doesn’t inspire growth, we are given more. Cling to ego and the suffering escalates even more.

To go beyond suffering is to experience a holy instant — an awakening to the eternal present moment, an acceptance of all that is, a decision to trade all fear for complete faith in perfect love. Awakening first happens in an instant and then, by then establishing a daily spiritual practice, can last forever.

The world shows us everything consciousness is not so that, through contrast, we can know what it is. Consciousness wants to come into this world through us — carrying with it the divine knowledge and lasting bliss of perfect love. Our challenges are not problems at all; rather, only powerful reminders to go deeply into consciousness.


Choose lasting happiness through the power of perfect honesty. Read The Switch.

Be willing to judge the ego’s thought system with perfect honesty.

If you are perfectly honest with yourself, you know exactly what you want. Basically, you want to be happy. You want to feel good and have fun. You want to love and to be loved. You want positive new experiences. You want health, joy and peace.  

If you are perfectly honest with yourself, you will admit that the normal way of thinking and behaving will never deliver what you deeply want and need. Even so, the unobserved mind (or ego) thinks that it is supreme; even as it spins out of control trying to figure everything out, impotently tries to control situations and people, and judges everything as either good or bad. It also wants to identify as superior to others; as if being more right or better is the path to happiness.  

The unobserved stream of thought is exhausting and the cause of illness and suffering. The ego robs us of bodily energy as it blinds us to reality. Here there is constant thinking but no knowing, endless seeking but no finding. If you believe that your mind, alone can figure out how to get what you most deeply want, then no amount of self-help reading, life coaching or therapy will do you any good. Revoke the ego's authority. What you want is beyond its range.  

Normal people have been taught, since grade school, to trust the rational mind as the guiding compass. While this outdated idea is well-intentioned, in practice we end up sacrificing everything at the altar of ego. What is sacrifice but absurd idea of giving up what you want to get it back at some point in the future? 

That voice in the head, if it were a roommate, is someone who you would have thrown out long ago. But, because the voice sounds like yours, most people think that everything it says is true (even when those internal arguments and counterarguments blow in the wind).  

To observe thought is to rest in your true identity as consciousness, then to smile at the roommate in the head without taking it seriously. Thoughts do serve a purpose, but only after the decision is made to place faith in honesty and truth. You are perfect consciousness made flesh, eternally perfect, and only the undoing of ego is required to remember.


Choose lasting happiness through the power of perfect honesty. Read The Switch.

Unconditional acceptance and limitless space for total honesty – can relationships be this simple?

Yes. Relationships are this simple. If you can do this, then you have completely removed ego from the relationship so that it is a love relationship. Whatever happens now happens in love.

Give unconditional acceptance and limitless space for total honesty. Act as though you have already been given the same from your partner. Explain what you are doing and be consistent. It is best not to even negotiate this or ask for permission. If you are truly loving, then it is your divine right to live in truth. Aligned with love, you can know with perfect certainty that here is nothing wrong with what you want, need, or desire.  

What happens next in this type of relationship? Very quickly, you will either grow much closer together in loving bliss or you will calmly separate in loving understanding. One path offers pure joy, the other is temporarily very painful. It is up to your partner to decide whether to join you in the state of bliss that is your eternal right, your identity. Whatever happens, love and truth ultimately become the foundation of your life. This, you do want. 

Love is the energy of life, but it is an energy that can only flow through relationships that are based on unconditional acceptance and total honesty about everything. The thought system of perfect love enables you to easily accept everything and hide nothing. If you can do this, then you have transcended ego. Whether you call it enlightenment, awakening, or salvation, what is required is a total escape from ego.

Any person who decides they want it can easily learn how to transform their life by reading my books, following the teachings on the Abscondo blog, or starting some other true spiritual practice that extends to the dimension within and goes beyond the form-based, egoic structures of conventional religion.


Choose lasting happiness through the power of perfect honesty. Read The Switch.

If you are afraid to look, you cannot see. If you are afraid to do, you cannot know.

To put something off or wait until the future is to reject. Someday really means never. To work on it or think about it is to say no.

The voice in the head is filled with a continuous stream of seemingly good reasons for not trying something new, not following our passions, not doing what excites us and not living our dreams. But the only real reason we fail to do what inspires us is always fear—the confused logic of ego. The ego’s mantra is “seek but do not find.” To follow this normal, seemingly rational and yet insane thought system is to suffer.

If something or someone interests you, inspires you, or excites you—then this is the universal intelligence of consciousness insisting that you go for it. To choose fear and paralysis instead is to withdraw, to experience that sinking feeling of depression rather than the joy of aligning yourself with the creative force of life.

Can it be that your happiness is just around the corner, but for now it makes more sense to remain paralyzed with fear? No.

Enjoy life now, even as you accept your life as it is and continue to do what you must. Just let some of the garbage go, so that there’s space in your life to do what excites you. There’s nothing wrong with who you are or what you want. Upon your authority over you, you have permission to do what you are meant to do. This is how you grow, learn, come alive, and shine your love and beauty into the world.


Choose lasting happiness through the power of perfect honesty. Read The Switch.

Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. (Eckhart Tolle)

Addiction is an attempt to escape pain and suffering through something or someone. Rather than dealing with the pain, addiction is an attempt to cover it up. For a while, it seems to work. Eventually, the euphoria wears off and what emerges is an even greater pain. This point is obvious enough when we look at substance abuse, but can also apply to romantic relationships.

A new relationship may seem like the answer to your problems or the end of your suffering. The euphoria of any new relationship will wear off. If the underlying pain or suffering is not dealt with directly, it eventually reemerges. You then direct it toward your partner for supposedly failing to make you happy. In truth, nothing and no one external can make you happy or can end your suffering—at least not for long.

If there is a problem in your life causing pain or suffering, then it must be accepted and looked at directly. Go within. Meditate. Talk about it. See the reality of the circumstance. This cannot be done within the ego’s thought system. All solutions flow from the deep humility of love. All knowledge flows from consciousness.

Only after healing can you enjoy relationships. If you choose to do so, you may also enjoy some of the things that other people get addicted to. Now that peace is your normal state, there is nothing you need to escape from and nothing you do becomes an addiction.


Choose lasting happiness through the power of perfect honesty. Read The Switch.

The ego does not know what a real question is. (A Course in Miracles)

Most questions are not real questions. They are framed so that only one right answer is possible. Answer differently and you will be ignored or attacked.

The answers to the following questions are clear and obvious: What is the point of it all? Why do bad things happen to good people? How can I learn to love myself? How can I learn to forgive? Will I ever be able to trust? Why am I overthinking everything? Why am I constantly ill? Why do I keep making the same mistakes?

The ego wants the answer to be “who knows” or “poor you” or “it isn’t fair” or “someday”. Respond to any of these questions with an honest, truthful, simple answer and the ego will either ignore you, attack you, or back away by calling the question “hypothetical”.

These questions are clear and the answers are obvious. But to accept the answer is to live from beyond the ego. This, the ego cannot accept, so the voice in your head tells you to back away. If you still think that voice is you, then you comply. You suffer for a bit longer (maybe for the rest of your life).

If you really do want to love yourself, to forgive, to trust, to let the past go, to move on, then ask real questions and accept the clear and obvious answers. Everything you most deeply want is yours, but not from within the tragic limitations of ego.


Choose lasting happiness through the power of perfect honesty. Read The Switch.