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If you perceive both good and evil, then you are perceiving both the false and the true. (A Course in Miracles)

“If you believe in both truth and illusion, you cannot tell which is true.” Truth is that which is both unchanging and the same within each of us. Live here fully, in all your being and all your doing. Illusion, on the other hand, is that which is projected from the unconscious or egoic mind. It is the dream of form. Accept it, do not fight, but never for a moment believe that any of it means anything.

“Opposites do not exist.” The unconscious mind is constantly telling you what is good or bad, but you do not know with any degree of certainty what is good or bad. Better to say yes to all of reality, knowing that whatever is happening is supposed to be happening. Accept your bliss as well as your challenges as simply what is. No labeling. Unconditional acceptance is the condition for total knowledge and perfect peace.

“This is the condition of knowledge.” Knowledge is beyond the labeling of good and bad. Knowledge is calmly accepting everything in peace and responding in love. Meditate to find gratitude for your blessings and the unemotional calm to respond to challenges directly. Challenges are there only to push you back into the depths of knowledge, to test your faith, to strengthen your presence so that your light can shine more brightly. All that is done in love is perfect. Doing only this is complete knowledge.

“Only reality is true, but do you believe it?” Reality is formless, eternal, within you and all around. It is love, consciousness, being, inspiration, intuition, presence, stillness. Have faith only in this and let go of the idols of form.

All quotes from A Course in Miracles. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


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Sin is where love is not. (A Course in Miracles)

The Biblical word “sin” originated from a Greek word ἁμαρτία, which means “failure, being in error, missing the mark, especially in spear throwing.”

An act done in love is without sin. That said, the same act done without love is sin. Sin has nothing to do with what a person does, only to do with how it is done. What is in your heart? What are your intentions? Are you loving and serving your brothers and sisters or are you trying to manipulate and exploit?

Embrace love in everything you do and you will no longer miss the mark. True love cannot and does not harm. It really is that simple. Learn what true love is, what it does, and simply choose to become it. Be love and do whatever inspires you. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


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Redemption is possible only by sharing it. (A Course in Miracles)

All strategies to isolate yourself are failed strategies of a suffering egoic mind.

The ego seeks refuge in separation as a response to the suffering it generates — which it projects as the fault of the other. But isolation creates even more egoic suffering in the form of boredom and mind self-chatter. It no wonder why you see so many Instagram posts about “boundaries” and “toxic people”. This is a person who first seeks isolation, then reaches out to the world to talk about it.

To be alive and happy is to participate fully in life. But what about dealing with challenging people?

"What is a good man but a bad man's teacher? What is a bad man but a good man's job? If you don't understand this, you will get lost, no matter how clever you are. It is the great secret." - Tao Te Ching

Engage fully in life and do not isolate yourself. Open yourself to others completely, but in love not ego. In love, or presence, or consciousness, no human interaction can be painful. Nothing is taken personally. You don’t care about judgments. Attack isn’t real. Nothing negative touches you; rather, healing flows from you. 

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


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Love or ego?

Fate smiles upon you. Your heart beats uncontrollably. Perfect chemistry. Total bliss. You fall madly in love. That love is the most real thing you’ve ever felt. In the beginning, the feelings are so intense that even ego can’t stand in the way.

That love you feel for each other is truly powerful, real, and will never fade.

Then you become a couple. Love is no longer your top priority. The ego has more important priorities. Now you’re “doing life” together. Your egos argue, control each other, attack, blame and use guilt to manipulate. Then the resentment. After years of accumulated damage, the relationship may even become abusive. Given enough time, you will have sacrificed and destroyed a loving relationship for your faith in ego.

Yet, deep down, that love you feel for each other is truly powerful, real, and will never fade.

Eventually, the situation becomes so toxic and abusive that even the ego can’t stand it. Now the ego has another solution. True to the ego’s belief system of separation, you decide to break-up. You cut all contact and communication. The idea is to erase everything about the relationship – the good, the bad, all of it.

It doesn’t work because that love you feel for each other is truly powerful, real, and will never fade.

Sad because of the absence of your love? Try even more absence. Two people in love acting like strangers – this is the ego at its most insane.

Love is impossible within the ego. It will never work. If you want true and lasting love, learn what the ego is and how to escape it. Free from ego, you’ll find that you have spent your life sacrificing far too much to feed this terrible and unnecessary parasite. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


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In the absence of time, all your problems dissolve. (Eckhart Tolle)

“Be so utterly, so completely present, that no problem, no suffering, nothing that is not who you are in your essence can survive in you. Suffering needs time. It cannot survive in the now.” -Eckart Tolle

What, at this moment, is lacking? The vast majority of stress is living in the past or the future. Now – this breath, this step, this conversation, this task poses no inherent problems. Here nothing is lacking.

Problems are inventions of the mind. There’s nothing wrong with allowing the mind to sort through challenges and to deal with emotions, but this doesn’t need to be made the most real aspect of your life.

Let the moment be what is real. Notice the way it feels inside your body. Notice the birds flying in the distance. The dog barking. The humming of your computer. The texture of your carpet.

Here, if there is any problem, you can easily deal with it. If you are hungry, go have something to eat. Enjoy each step on your way to the kitchen. Focus all your attention on preparing your food. If you are tired, then lie down. Enjoy the stillness and the feeling of energy returning to your body. If there is a conflict to resolve, go have that conversation, but do it with presence. Notice the way your body feels as you calmly talk through the situation. Listen. Notice every detail, but don’t go to the past or future. Stay present, where there is nothing you can’t easily handle.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


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Your self does not need salvation, but your mind needs to learn what salvation is. (A Course in Miracles)

When the mind accepts what the self is, it immediately knows what salvation is. Salvation is the knowing that you are not your mind.

A sentence is comprised of parts. There is a subject, a predicate, and a verb. The subject has to do with identity – the “I”. If you imagine yourself as a sentence, then know that the subject is beyond the mind. The “I” is the observer, the pure consciousness, the awareness. Words, concepts, and doing does not apply here.

Now we move to the predicate, which tells something about the subject. This may include your traits, characteristics, passions or interests. Most people are confused because they believe the predicate is the subject. They think that their traits, life situation, or other characteristics is who they are. The predicate and verb is mind-stuff and has nothing to do with identity.

Your identity is of the nothingness, the formless and eternal – but your mind is of the light. Light is the source of all life. No life can exist without the nourishment of light. Without life, there is no doing. The mind belongs to the stars, while your spirit identity is in the space.

But light was created from the nothingness. The stars, the source of light, are form. But the stars were born out of nothingness — so the nothingness is, therefore, supreme, divine, eternal, unchanging truth.

The egoic mind thinks that it is only a single ray of light – cut off from the wholeness of light, separate from the universe. The spiritually awakened mind knows that it is one with the wholeness of light. It exists temporarily to function as part of a wholeness, to love, to serve, to inspire, to create beauty, to be a source of light and a reflection.

This truth is so simple and obvious; yet cannot be grasped by the thinking mind. Truth is known on the level of soul – on a level of infinite intelligence that is beyond the mind. But when the mind fully accepts that identity is elsewhere, it begins to serve its purpose. It functions optimally as the light. No more confusion. Complete knowledge. No unnecessary suffering. Just love, truth, beauty, and freedom. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


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To receive love, simply call it by its proper name.

“In the presence of truth, there are no unbelievers and no sacrifices.” (A Course in Miracles)

Most people detest the word “God”. The word has been abused by so many religions, by so many unhealed healers, that the word has nearly lost all meaning. So each day I write these teachings, I try to eliminate the word “God”. But in doing so, perhaps the full lesson is not being taught.

We said before that love is only possible if we are willing to humble ourselves completely. A few years ago, when I began to study the mandatory course (A Course in Miracles), I had a hard time with its use of the word “God”. Yet, in these texts, I had never recognized such depth of truth. So I suspended disbelief and continued reading.

For me, the simple act of accepting the word “God” in a book was an act of deep humility. After my reluctant acceptance of the word “God”, truth became recognizable because my ego had gone dormant.

Perhaps we should not be afraid to use the word “God”. We might use it as a synonym for Love. Most of us probably agree that God is not the man in the sky. God is the unmanifested realm of nothingness – the void from which we came and to which we return. The energy that flows from God is Love.

If God is love, then love is God. It is the same thing. There is no difference. If you can use the word “love”, but cannot use the word “God”, you do not yet know what love is.

To use the word God is to humble yourself just enough so that Love flows into your life. In other words: to receive love, simply call it by its proper name. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


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Unconditional acceptance and limitless space for total honesty – can relationships be this simple?

Yes. Relationships are this simple. If you can do this, then you have completely removed ego from the relationship. Now it is a love relationship. Whatever happens now happens in love.

Give unconditional acceptance and limitless space for total honesty. Act as though you have been given the same from your partner. Explain what you are doing and be consistent. Do not negotiate or ask for permission. It is your divine right to live in truth. There's nothing wrong with you. The problem is that you have acted as though there is.

What happens next? Very quickly, you will either grow much closer together in loving bliss or you will calmly separate in love. Either way, now love is present in your life.

Love is the energy of life, but it is an energy that can flow only through relationships that are based on unconditional acceptance and total honesty about everything. Accept everything, hide nothing. Watch how love effortlessly takes care of the rest. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


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Love is the anti-ego

According to the book “Games Ego Plays” by Kevin Fitzmaurice, the ego is like a never-ending board game. This is a role-playing game to determine who’s right. The voice in your head is you and your opponents are everyone else. Your attitude toward your opponent is either suspicious (at best) or vicious (at worst).

To play the game, you shift between six possible positions: victim, defender, jailer, judge, offender, prosecutor. To begin the game, one player must attack and the other must respond defensively. For example, a wife may prosecute a husband by making the accusation “You never play with the children.” At first the husband attempts to defend himself, but she isn’t convinced. Eventually, he may try to take the role of prosecutor and respond, “You won’t let me, you always control everything!” Nice move. Now, if she defends herself, her position collapses until she makes another move. These types of ego games often last a lifetime.

If you can get another player to agree about who the judge is, you may be able to agree on guilt. You might convince the other player to let you play jailor and deal out the punishment. If you do not agree on who the judge is, there are ways to justify your behavior. You might assume the role of offender and feel justified in getting away with something. Or perhaps your best move is to take the role of victim, which justifies all sorts of insanity.

This game sounds like fun, but the problem is that the players don’t know it’s a game. Since they can’t imagine a reality beyond the game, they don’t know how to stop. But there is a way to stop playing.

Love is the anti-ego. In love, you end the game when you stop defending yourself. When attacked, you might calmly respond “is that so?” Refuse to assume any of the six positions. Be humble. Trust people. Be accepting and forgiving. Make yourself vulnerable.

Nobody has ever won anything real by playing the ego board game. It is only a game. Real life is what happens when you stop playing and realize you already had everything before you started playing. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  


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The ego does not know what a real question is. (A Course in Miracles)

Most questions are not real questions. They are framed so that only one right answer is possible. Answer differently and you will be ignored or attacked.

The answers to the following questions are clear and obvious: What is the point of it all? Why do bad things happen to good people? How can I learn to love myself? How can I learn to forgive? Will I ever be able to trust? Why am I overthinking everything? Why am I constantly ill? Why do I keep making the same mistakes?

The ego wants the answer to be “who knows” or “poor you” or “it isn’t fair” or “someday”. Respond to any of these questions with an honest, truthful, simple answer and the ego will either ignore you, attack you, or back away by calling the question “hypothetical”.

These questions are simple and the answers are obvious. But to accept the answer is to live from beyond the ego. This, the ego cannot accept, so the voice in your head tells you to back away. If you still think that voice is you, then you comply. You suffer for a bit longer. Maybe for the rest of your life.

If you really do want to love yourself, to forgive, to trust, to let the past go, to move on, then ask real questions and say yes to the answers. Everything you say you want is yours, but not from within the ego. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


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