It is always difficult to see in advance, but looking back, I see it clearly. Everything that happened in my life which first appeared as disaster was, in reality, good.
Things happen in life which seem dreadful at first. Obvious failures. Embarrassments. Financial struggles. Losing a job or customer. Getting sick. Breakups. Divorce. Losing access to a child. Even more dreadful things, or so it would seem.
The ego always tries to understand, to control, to analyze, to solve, to avoid, to figure out. The ego’s goal is to extend your past sense of identity to the future—to ensure that you remain comfortable in thought-continuity and that nothing changes. When something happens in the present to threaten this objective, the ego panics. You become fearful and feel hopeless.
But faced with any reality, you eventually adapt. You face it. You accept it. You move on from your new, changed position. Better yet, you bring unconditional love, acceptance, forgiveness, and present moment awareness to the challenge. You trust in reality—allowing it to be as it is.
Then, one day long after the required changes have occurred, you remember the old situation in relation to your current state. You realize the changes were necessary and good. Everyone and everything is better now.
Good always prevails because reality is good. What we experience as suffering or crisis is only truth emerging from what was previously false. We can learn to observe the mind. Smile at our thoughts even in the face of disaster, knowing the deeper truth—which can never be understood in advance.