Too often, we are closed to people for the simple reason that we are afraid of getting ourselves into a situation we do not want to be in. We put up walls to avoid later having to admit how we feel or state our needs.

Even when we are open, we are too polite. We agree to things to please others. We try to impress by agreeing to things we don’t agree to. So we lose our freedom and suffocate. Then we burn bridges and retreat back into separation. Better to just state our needs openly.

When we learn to tell people how we feel and what we want, then we leave it to them to decide how to respond. The reaction may be negative. Fine, then the relationship dissolves because there is no fit. More likely, honesty will deepen bonds and bring true union...without sacrificing our freedom or getting us into situations we don’t want to be in.

Open completely to all, but only if you are prepared to be totally honest and accept the same in return. Now all our relationships become a spiritual practice.