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Parenting is a role, not an identity

Moms and dads can sometimes become so involved in our parental roles that it becomes an identity.  Parenting demands so much of our attention that it can sometimes feel like it is who we are.

Yet our children grow and change so quickly. Then one day, the role is no longer required at all. If someone’s identity has become that of mom or dad—or as a family as a unit that is always together—this identity eventually, painfully vanishes.

The truth is, parenting is a temporary role, not an identity. There are so many things that our kids need from us and our role constantly changes as they grow. But there is one thing that never changes: the love we share.   

By choosing to value the eternal love relationship with our children above all else, we can disidentify from the temporary parental role identity. We can enjoy each season of our children’s lives as a scene from our unique movie. We can let go, knowing our children are not really ours; rather, ours only to help and to love.

The only true and lasting identity is love. Align with this identity by learning what unconditional love is and does—and then by putting it into practice faithfully. We can love ourselves and everyone in our lives perfectly and completely.

Roles are necessary and interesting but belong in the background. Stand firm on that which is real, true, and eternal—perfect love.

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You cannot not teach

Everything you do and say, each moment of each day, is a lesson you are teaching to others. You cannot hide from teaching others because even the act of hiding is a lesson. Realizing that you cannot not teach, the question what lesson do you believe in enough to teach? Is it the same one that you are teaching?

When you conform—saying and doing what you do not really believe in for some supposed good reason—you are bearing false witness and teaching a lie. To represent anything which makes you depressed or robs you of joy is to harm others by setting a misleading example which leads them down the same miserable path.

But when you stand up for, speak about, and openly live what you know to be good, right, and true, then you are the light of the world. You know what to do by recognizing how you feel. Fear makes you feel ill. Do not believe the false lessons of fear and do not harm others by making it real. Attack robs everyone of joy. Do not use it. Do not cut yourself off. Never hide your truth. Never judge and always forgive. Teach the path of lasting joy—not of low energy and depression.

To make guilty is to teach shame. To attack in any form is to teach violence. To hide away is to teach loneliness. To lie is to teach that fiction can be made real. To manipulate is to teach that something real can be gained by taking from or harming others. To swear is to teach that crudeness and violence are superior to kindness and gentleness. When you drink or drug yourself to sickness, neglect your body, or indulge in so much sugar that you become sick and obese, what are you teaching? With all your power, is this what you want your life to represent and teach?

You have such great power because you are always teaching. Consider what would happen if you used this power to teach unconditional love, perfect honesty, perfect health, and perfect joy. The choice is yours. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  


It’s so amazing what happens when you let go

To let go is to allow everything to be as it is, independent of you. To stop trying to control anything or anyone. To give up on everything that isn’t working. To forget about fixed plans, unrealistic dreams, obligations, and expectations.

You let go by allowing yourself the freedom to be as you are. To be complete honest. To say what you mean. To move according to what inspires you rather than according to what people think or say about you.

Letting go is a scary notion because you cannot know what is going to happen. The mind cannot grasp the totality of reality, so it cannot predict or envision a future beyond the decision to let go. You know that everything will change, but have no idea how. For this reason, letting go is always a leap of faith.

It is a leap of faith based on a deeper knowing—that reality and truth must be better than a clinging to falseness and illusion. That what naturally fits into your life must be better than what doesn’t. That there is a much deeper, bigger, more beautiful, and perfect reality to be revealed after the mind stops trying to figure it out.

It’s so amazing what happens when you let go. To say that it is beyond your wildest dreams and expectations is literally true. To give up the mind’s control and domination over your life is not only to unlock the prison door, but to effortlessly navigate the most beautiful reality outside. An adventurous journey taken in stillness. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


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Facebook is not secure. My account was hacked, hundreds of dollars were spent on advertising. Facebook offers no solution.

I need to warn users of Facebook never to link a credit card or PayPal account. Several years ago, I ran an advertisement on Facebook. Two months ago, I was suddenly logged out from Facebook and prompted to sign in. The problem is that my password was changed. I could not login. Furthermore, my email address was changed. I had no way of resetting the password.

One would think that there would be a way to communicate this hacking to Facebook to reset my account. What one finds out in such a situation is that there is no way to contact anyone at Facebook. I spent many hours attempting to either gain access to the account or report the problem. In the end, I am 100% sure that Facebook offers no solution.

I found out much later that whoever hacked into my account--I have good reason to believe it is a Facebook employee--spent $600 of my money to run ads. I have no way to recover this money. PayPal won't do anything about it, nor will Facebook. In the end, I had to close a credit card and submit an issue to PayPal just to block future transactions, but I am still concerned that a very bad person still has access to my Facebook identity and that there is nothing I can do about it.

Lacking any other options, I actually used the process of reporting myself as a deceased person just to get the attention of a human being (if there are any) at Facebook. Lacking a death certificate, what I got back is only a link to the same broken non-solution that fails again and again.

Do not use Facebook, especially for advertising or in any way linking your financial information. This has been the worst experience of fraud, both by the sad person who stole from me and the company who fully enabled it and doesn't care at all. This is a sick company that is robbing us, selling us advertising that never seems to deliver sales, censoring free speech with false "fact-checking" assertions, and could care less about hacking incidents, theft, and fraud. 

When identification with mental positions is out of the way, true communication begins. (Eckhart Tolle)

There is nothing wrong with mental positions. We spend our lives observing the world. Naturally, the mind draws conclusions and has preferences. The problems arise when we try to form an identity for ourselves based upon those mental positions.

When the mind forms a position, it tries to convince you that you are that position, and you are right. You may even begin to feel superior to others who do not agree. Now there can be no true communication. Rather than listening and connecting, you focus on differences and on defending your position. If anyone challenges your position, you feel personally attacked. This is the ego.

Normal conversations in this world are a messy attempt to project mental positions; attempting to persuade others to agree with or understand you. This almost never happens. Instead, there is only ongoing debate that ends in frustration, rudeness, or anger.

To be free from ego is to avoid defending mental positions. It is enough to state your position when asked and to listen to those of others without judgment. This is how you turn relationships into a spiritual practice. Aligned with unconditional love, you can calmly and unemotionally observe your thoughts. When the mental positions of others no longer feed negative emotions, you know you are free from ego. 

True communication is beyond questions of identity. You are love and love is not a mental position. You are connected to others on the level of the soul, spirit, consciousness—where we are all the same and where we are one. True communication flows only from this dimension. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


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You can escape from the ego. And must.

All the inspirational messages and teachings in the world will do you no good if you continue to believe that escape from the ego is impossible or undesirable. If this is what you believe, you are wasting your time here. If you have already awakened from the egoic state and have experienced salvation, please leave a comment as testimony. Following is mine.

To the ego, the bold claim of escaping this ego is interpreted as an expression of ego—some grandiose attempt to declare oneself special or better than others. Nothing is further from the truth. Specialness is an idea that can only be invented by the ego. Having awakened, I am not at all special. I, as a separate identity, am nothing and do not even exist. This mind and body are only humble instruments acting in alignment with unconditional love, truth, service, and creation.

The ego will try to convince you that it is normal, human nature, and necessary. Of course. If you were to believe otherwise, ego would be gone in an instant and for all eternity. The ego is another word for insanity and sickness. A mind that has decided against ego experiences no suffering, no confusion, no stress, causes no illness in the body, and experiences no problems.

I am not talking about sacrificing everything you want, agreeing to some unnatural set of rules, or limiting yourself in any way. Quite the opposite, all limitations—and everything you do not want—are all caused by the ego. Let it go, and when you do…

“God offers you the continuity of eternity in exchange. When you choose to make this exchange, you will simultaneously exchange guilt for joy, viciousness for love, and pain for peace.” – A Course in Miracles

Live this stuff. Do not hold back. It is all or nothing and there is no exception. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.