To interpret error is to give it power, and having done this you will overlook truth. (A Course in Miracles)
Your function is not little; and it is only by finding your function and fulfilling it that you can escape from littleness. (A Course in Miracles)

Attacks directed at you are not about you; rather, about the unmet needs of the attacker.

The world teaches that attack is the way to get what we want. We have been taught to use attack, and many other forms of nastiness, to teach lessons and to correct the behaviors of others. So we attack with good intentions, though it is never perceived this way by the one being attacked.

To acknowledge this is to clearly see that attack does not work because the true meaning and intention of the communicator is not communicated. Instead, attack creates an emotional, negative escalation of counterattack, insult, anger, resentment and even rebellion—all making it nearly impossible to achieve the objective behind the attack.

The fact that anyone in this world still believes in attack, after a lifetime of personal experience which testifies to its utter ineffectiveness, is insane. Because we have not been taught another way, attack in this world remains the dominant method of communication. 

A Course in Miracles teaches us to see attack as a cry for help. Attack originates from an unmet need. We can, therefore, ignore the attack—for there is something more real behind it. We can ignore attack entirely and then communicate in a way that addresses the unmet need. Of course, the unmet need is always love. There is no real need within us that is not fulfilled in perfect love.

To end attack, to coexist with others in joy and harmony, simply learn to communicate in honesty, on the level of the unmet need. Extend this to your brothers and sisters and you will teach them to do the same with you. Love dissolves conflict by satisfying the unmet needs so that fear and attack no longer arise.

To learn the required skills, I recommend watching Marshall Rosenberg's lessons on non-violent communication on YouTube. 

Posted by Abscondo

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