I'm an entrepreneur, writer, musician, digital nomad, and parent of two. This blog is about how the thought system of love and the intention to escape from ego ends suffering and despair.
My mission is to facilitate successful business and personal relationships. This requires a commitment to perfect honesty and acceptance rather than suspicion. I also help people learn to live without fear, stress, or anxiety regardless of what is happening. We can learn to really love ourselves and enjoy life even as we are more successful. We can live our truths, feel good all of the time, and become immune to illness. We need only learn the thought system of love rather than ego.
I was raised in small-town Wisconsin. In high school, I fell in love with and then married an exchange student from Slovakia. I attended the University of Colorado on a basketball scholarship—earning a bachelor’s degree in Marketing and an MBA in Technology Management. After university, my wife and I moved to Seattle where I held a few corporate jobs in enterprise software sales. Until age 30, the story of my life was rather typical. I followed the world’s lessons, did what was normal, and accomplished everything that is supposed to make us happy. But I was depressed.
Rather than trying to cope with and cling to a life I did not want, eventually I made a radical choice for freedom. I convinced my wife to escape the corporate grind and we moved to Slovakia—her home country and a place I had fallen in love with. In Europe, I explored my freedom. I worked according to my own schedule, traveled, and became inspired to make music and write. However, my marriage was becoming toxic as we both failed to create a relationship that might fulfill both her needs and mine.
Eventually, I found the courage to stand firm in loving openness about who I am. Whenever you tell the truth, that which is false in your life is removed. The end of a 22-year marriage is an extremely painful, ugly process. It was at that time that a friend suggested I needed to learn self-love. She recommended I read Don Miguel Ruiz, which I immediately did. Eventually, I became a student of A Course in Miracles, Eckhart Tolle, the Tao Te Ching and many other spiritual texts. In a very short time, I had learned self-love, escaped my ego, and had spiritually awakened. I had ended the feeling of suffering and despair and found what I had spent a lifetime seeking.
My spiritual awakening was first a discovery of unconditional self-love and self-forgiveness, and then a practice of unconditional love that extends to everyone. I wrote about what I had learned called Belove: How to End Pain by Escaping Your Ego.
I am now in a committed, 7-year long relationship based on unconditional love. We have no rules, only the intention to love, to always forgive, and to always accept each other. We have found that, in this type of relationship, there is never anything to argue about. There is no jealousy or conflict even as we are both open about everything. Even as we go through the typical challenges of life and raising our young son, each day feels effortless, blissful, and happy.
I believe people are going about relationships in a way that makes true love and sustained happiness impossible. We try our best to share what we have found so that others may also heal. In 2018, I made the DIY documentary called Treetops to share the reality of one summer in our humble life. In 2019, I wrote another eBook called The Switch: How to Find Happiness and End Crisis by Telling the Truth (click for free download).
I also recorded six albums under the name Abscondo (enjoy my original songs wherever you normally listen to music).
Still living in Europe, for the past decade I’ve enjoyed running a sales agency that serves tech companies around the world, using these same principles to create high-value, executive-level relationships.
The primary meaning of life is something we can all do right now: we can forgive ourselves and one another. We can unconditionally love ourselves and one another. When we accomplish this, the result is always perfect and ongoing joy, bliss, and abundance. Unnecessary suffering ends, crisis is averted, and life becomes a total success.
The purpose of spiritual awakening isn’t external success; yet all external manifestations start from within by merely knowing that you are love. To align with love, it is necessary to undo the ego’s thought system. This is the key to ultimate success and the lesson I will do my best to continue to teach for the remainder of my life.
The reason for my daily practice of creating and teaching is this: as the old way of life begins to vanish, I feel a calling to share what I have been fortunate to have found. The miracle is love. I claim no credit for anything and in no way see myself as special or superior to any of my brothers and sisters. I offer what I create for free because to give is the same act as to receive.
If you trust me as a friend and a brother, then together I know we can walk the awakened path of unconditional love, total honesty, and presence.