The ego does not know what a real question is. (A Course in Miracles)
If you are afraid to look, you cannot see. If you are afraid to do, you cannot know.

Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. (Eckhart Tolle)

Addiction is an attempt to escape pain and suffering through something or someone. Rather than dealing with the pain, addiction is an attempt to cover it up. For a while, it seems to work. Eventually, the euphoria wears off and what emerges is an even greater pain. This point is obvious enough when we look at substance abuse, but can also apply to romantic relationships.

A new relationship may seem like the answer to your problems or the end of your suffering. The euphoria of any new relationship will wear off. If the underlying pain or suffering is not dealt with directly, it eventually reemerges. You then direct it toward your partner for supposedly failing to make you happy. In truth, nothing and no one external can make you happy or can end your suffering—at least not for long.

If there is a problem in your life causing pain or suffering, then it must be accepted and looked at directly. Go within. Meditate. Talk about it. See the reality of the circumstance. This cannot be done within the ego’s thought system. All solutions flow from the deep humility of love. All knowledge flows from consciousness.

Only after healing can you enjoy relationships. If you choose to do so, you may also enjoy some of the things that other people get addicted to. Now that peace is your normal state, there is nothing you need to escape from and nothing you do becomes an addiction.

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