The ego interprets everything it sees for the purpose of itself. So what is the egoic self and what does it want?
The way we have been describing ego, one might imagine some terrible parasite. You might think I’m suggesting that an egoic person is one who is “possessed”. My response would be; yes, that’s exactly what the ego is. The Bible uses the ancient metaphor of a serpent or the devil. Most Christians haven’t realized that being saved is just another term for escaping the ego. These Christians are attempting to interpret The Bible through the ego; therefore, nothing is interpreted correctly.
Eckhart Tolle sometimes calls ego the pain body. Indeed, to be possessed by this parasite is a source of pain and suffering. The ego, like any creature, must feed. Every so often, it gets hungry for more pain, more drama, more suffering. It gets so hungry that it is no longer satisfied by just torturing you. It must feed by attacking another. The simplest solution for the ego is to attack the very people we claim to love. The ego turns families into an emotional, toxic wasteland—the perfect environment for the ego to thrive.
We fight, yell, throw stuff, and then in the end proclaim, “I’m sorry, I don’t know what came over me.” The answer is clear: you were possessed by ego and it needed to feed. Now it got what it needed and can remain under control for a little while. But it will happen again and again until you learn to lay ego aside for good.
To live in the egoic state is normal in this world. It is also the cause of all suffering in this world. Choose love, honesty, acceptance, and forgiveness and the ego within you will die. Also, the ego cannot survive if you become fully aware of the present moment and learn to live in this state.
Most people believe that you need some ego. I have found that it is possible to escape ego entirely and that nothing of value is missing in this exchange of guilt for joy, viciousness for love, pain for peace. “Delay does not matter in eternity, but it is tragic in time.” We continue tomorrow and each day after that.