To find love, we attempt to present our best selves. We make ourselves more attractive, seek a higher status, and show off. In so doing, we are seeking love in the realm of the ego—the realm of form.
But love is not of form. Love is invisible nothingness and emptiness. When you think of the universe, you realize that all the blackness, the “nothingness” of space is merged together as one. There are no walls separating nothingness. But the stars, the planets, the “things” that exist in the universe are alone and cannot be merged. Two forms cannot merge; but they can be connected by nothingness just as two people can be connected in love.
Love has nothing to do with the physical, the tangible, or the measurable. No photo can show it. No poem can fully explain it. No physical act can perfect it. Even as jealous couples foolishly try to hold onto it, love cannot be controlled or possessed because it is not a thing.
Seek love in the realm of form and you will never find it. To know love is to know spirit. When two souls merge in a space of no thought, no past, no future, no plans, no “I” and “you”—that is true love. Love is the transcendence of the ego and the remembrance of how to exist in spirit. This kind of love is as simple as breathing, yet still incredibly rare in this world because we have been taught something other.
If this is the love you desire, you must first love yourself. If you are trying to get love from another, you are seeking love where it does not exist—in the realm of form. Remember that you are the nothingness, which is eternal, unchanging, and cannot be threatened. This is the realm in which everything you seek exists. Here love is infinite, we are perfect and complete, and all jealousy and possessiveness erode because non-matter cannot be threatened. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.