People who have not yet transcended ego find it very difficult to forgive. Even after a heartfelt apology, the response is often, “I’m working on forgiving you” or worse yet “you still haven’t apologized properly for what you’ve done.” Other times, they simply consider a person unforgivable. What exactly does this person mean by “forgiveness”?
The unobserved, egoic mind uses forgiveness as a means for domination and control. What this person wants in an apology is that the “guilty party” give up all personal freedom and concede everything. Anything short of this is considered an unacceptable and inappropriate apology.
To the ego, everything anyone does is only reduced to a question of “what about me?” or “what do I get?”. The ego has no ability to empathize with, respect or accept someone else’s life journey. Instead, everything must be controlled and manipulated.
Of course, it is impossible for anyone to completely concede control over their life to such a confused person. What ends up happening instead is a fearful concession, then more deception.
But a person who has awakened to the dimension beyond the ego forgives instantly. We see no sin; rather, only error to be corrected in love. We offer unconditional acceptance and respond in love. We are also free to love and will not concede to being controlled or dominated by other people’s egos.
This is one of the reasons why it is so impossible for a spiritually awakened person to coexist alongside a person who has not yet awakened. If you refuse to be completely controlled by an ego, you will be considered unforgivable and immediately discarded. Sadly, you never meant any harm. You only wanted your freedom to be love and to give love on your terms.
We continue tomorrow and each day after that.