Will sex early in a relationship cause harm?
Today’s message seems impossible, but if you try it you will find that it is the easiest thing in the world. The message is this: awakening is impossible without sexual freedom. Transformation requires complete liberation and that includes sex.
We so easily talk of acceptance, then expect ourselves and others to resist the very energy that is the source of life itself—the starting point of creation.
To be conscious is to be free to live as you choose, to say what you are inspired to say, to do what you feel inspired to do. You can be both impeccable with your word and sexually free. This is how you create the perfect relationship with yourself and others. You cultivate a space in which you are free and so are your loved ones.
A marriage or love relationship that does not allow sexual expression and freedom to both partners is not love—it is an arrangement. You are trying to possess each other and control each other. What you really need to do is love each other, there is no substitute.
To forbid something of another is to end the possibility of honesty and closeness in the relationship. To set rules around something as unstoppable as sex energy is to ask your partner to lie to you. You are asking for emotional distance, resentment, and misery in the relationship. You will never experience spiritual awakening within the structures of this kind of relationship. This is the normal way of doing relationships; ego-based and suffocating.
Why is everyone so afraid of sex? If you feel inspired, sex is beautiful and fun. It pulls you into the present moment fully if only for a short while. The energy of sex allows you escape the world of the ego to exist in heaven with your lover. Chemicals are released. We are changed forever. A seed is planted, and love becomes possible. That love is shared between lovers, but it also spreads to everyone in your life.
Osho writes, “It is the sex energy itself that travels to and reaches the inner ocean of love. Love is the transformation of sex energy. The flowering of love is from the seed of sex.”
To accept yourself sexually is a massive breakthrough—the overcoming of your social conditioning, the beginning of your liberation. To accept another sexually is to be loving. Commitment to both honesty and sexual freedom will shake the foundations of your life, but in a way that ultimately allows the light to shine through. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.
Only the energy of sex can flower into love. But everyone, including mankind’s great thinkers, is against it. This opposition will not allow the seed to sprout, and the palace of love is destroyed at the foundation.
