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Be impeccable with your word. (Don Miguel Ruiz)

Your word—your ability to express ideas using language—is the most powerful tool you possess. How often do properly use this power to say what you mean? Being impeccable with your word has nothing to do with holding back; rather, always stating your truth with care and integrity.

Too often, we hold back from expressing our truths because we are trying to fit-in. Worse yet, we try to make a point indirectly by shaming, blaming, playing victim, judging others and then hoping the other will learn what we are trying to teach. Instead of just saying what we mean, we play games, we say we don’t care when we do, we go along to get along. Worst of all, we lie.

Your words are so important, yet the impact of what you say is often difficult to see. If you tell a child that he has no musical talent, the child barely reacts at first. But, if he agrees with you, those words change him forever. You may have said something without much thought, but he will carry this for life. We have to choose our words carefully, mean exactly what we say, and always be honest.  

It isnt the number of likes

It is said that truth hurts, but this isn’t exactly so. If your truth is loving and carefully explained, you can usually avoid upsetting anyone. Even if your truths do hurt someone’s feelings, you are not responsible. It’s on the other person to practice acceptance. It isn’t your job to protect others from their own negative reactions—that’s on them. Be you and accept everything that comes.

Truth doesn’t hurt; dishonesty does. When you lie, you create an enormous gap of separation between you and the other. You feel alone, you withdraw, you pull back. This distance between people is the cause of so much agony. Truth does the opposite. Truth dissolves barriers, bringing people together by allowing them to be themselves. Truth and honesty provide the space needed in a relationship to discuss real topics, to work through things, to influence each other, to grow.

Be real. Say what you mean; but learn to do so from a loving place that is beyond the ego. That’s what we’re going to learn together. We will continue tomorrow, and each day after that.

Be impeccable with your word.

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz

 

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You cannot have an argument with a fully conscious person. (Eckhart Tolle)

Arguments arise when we identify with a mental position. Someone attacks that position, then we defend it as though we are fighting for our survival. The drama that ensues is only the ego fighting for its survival.

Pride is the belief that our mental positions are superior to others. A mental position can be about anything at all—beliefs, opinions, values, life stories, symbols of success or accomplishments—but the stuff of the mind can never be who you are. If you have identified with a mental position, and you feel frustrated or threatened when some contradicts it, this is only because you have attempted to build your foundation (your identity) upon unstable, hollow ground.

To be conscious is to awaken to the dimension beyond the mind. Here there is no way to claim superiority because specialness and difference does not exist. In the dimension of conscious awareness—a state of being in which you are able to calmly and unemotionally observe the mind while fully honoring the present moment—there is nothing to argue, nothing to defend, nothing to be offended about, and nothing that could possibly be threatened.

“Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Herein lies the peace of God.” -A Course in Miracles

If there is drama in your life, you are attempting to value and defend that which is unreal. But find out what is real and unreal, and you awaken to the good which has no opposite. From this perspective, you can look upon it all without judgment and with full acceptance.

“When you live in complete acceptance of what is, that is the end of all drama in your life.” -Eckhart Tolle

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Miracles are only a decision to heal.

Miracles are not difficult. They happen whenever we choose to heal ourselves and our relationships with love.

To resist miracles, on the other hand, is difficult. This is a stubborn choice for pain over joy, specialness over union, illness over health, death over life, and illusion over truth. You would not make this insane choice, but your ego would.

The ego is the confused voice in the head arguing for a world designed to exploit us. Through the forced repetition of twisted logic, at some point in our lives we all become conditioned, domesticated, enslaved.

Then one day, when the suffering becomes too much and some light shines through our cracks, we so easily awaken from the bad dream to become aware of consciousness.

But continue to obey the ego—that voice in the head that sounds like yours—and delay miracles; which are already yours in love.

We continue in perfect love tomorrow and each day after that.

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The special ones are all asleep; surrounded by a world of loveliness they do not see. (A Course in Miracles)

Specialness is an imaginary hell of our own creation, made up of everything we give value to that is not real.

To prove our specialness, we attempt to form an identity rooted in externalities such as our accomplishments, our possessions, our beliefs, our looks, characteristics, or other details having to do with our life situation. While some of this is mildly interesting, the truth of our identity cannot be found in these notions of specialness (nor can any lasting satisfaction or enjoyment).

Rather than seeing the clear truth of what is real, specialness would have us identify with made-up illusions about our lives and then fight to the point of exhaustion to make them so. This is a fool’s errand, because there is nothing that can be done to make illusion real. We can sacrifice, we can fight, we can ride the ups and downs, we can give it all striving for what we think is important—but it isn’t important because no real victory is found here.

What is truly wonderful about us—our real potential—flows from being. Access this by knowing that identity is in consciousness. No meaning is attached to external form which has none. If we have accomplished something, or if there are special talents or beautiful personality traits that others enjoy in us, it is because we have remained centered in the knowledge of identity.

Rooted in the oneness and sameness of being, we can enjoy all the loveliness the world has to offer. Life flows nicely without much effort. Things tend to work out. The pace accelerates because we no longer resist. We feel perfectly complete and success fills our lives not because we had to reach for it; rather, because it flows from within.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  

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Will sex early in a relationship cause harm?

Today’s message seems impossible, but if you try it you will find that it is the easiest thing in the world. The message is this: awakening is impossible without sexual freedom. Transformation requires complete liberation and that includes sex.

We so easily talk of acceptance, then expect ourselves and others to resist the very energy that is the source of life itself—the starting point of creation.  

Defenses are but foolish guardians ofMad illusions.

To be conscious is to be free to live as you choose, to say what you are inspired to say, to do what you feel inspired to do. You can be both impeccable with your word and sexually free. This is how you create the perfect relationship with yourself and others. You cultivate a space in which you are free and so are your loved ones.

A marriage or love relationship that does not allow sexual expression and freedom to both partners is not love—it is an arrangement. You are trying to possess each other and control each other. What you really need to do is love each other, there is no substitute.

To forbid something of another is to end the possibility of honesty and closeness in the relationship. To set rules around something as unstoppable as sex energy is to ask your partner to lie to you. You are asking for emotional distance, resentment, and misery in the relationship. You will never experience spiritual awakening within the structures of this kind of relationship. This is the normal way of doing relationships; ego-based and suffocating.

Why is everyone so afraid of sex? If you feel inspired, sex is beautiful and fun. It pulls you into the present moment fully if only for a short while. The energy of sex allows you escape the world of the ego to exist in heaven with your lover. Chemicals are released. We are changed forever. A seed is planted, and love becomes possible. That love is shared between lovers, but it also spreads to everyone in your life.

Osho writes, “It is the sex energy itself that travels to and reaches the inner ocean of love. Love is the transformation of sex energy. The flowering of love is from the seed of sex.”

To accept yourself sexually is a massive breakthrough—the overcoming of your social conditioning, the beginning of your liberation. To accept another sexually is to be loving. Commitment to both honesty and sexual freedom will shake the foundations of your life, but in a way that ultimately allows the light to shine through. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

Only the energy of sex can flower into love. But everyone, including mankind’s great thinkers, is against it. This opposition will not allow the seed to sprout, and the palace of love is destroyed at the foundation.

Osho

 

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Emotion is the reaction of your body to your mind. (Eckhart Tolle)

Physical suffering (i.e. pain, illness, and disease) is caused by too much negative emotion building up in the body. When a person is overwhelmed by negative emotions such as anger, hatred, fear or jealousy, then vital energy is diverted from the normal functioning of the body. In this state, the physiology of your body changes, your heart beats faster, adrenaline is released, you lose sleep, and your body starts to malfunction. If this is your normal state, then disease is likely.

But is it possible to change your emotions, to change the way you feel? Can this really be the antidote to suffering? Yes, of course. The first step toward solving a problem is becoming aware of the problem. There are several levels of awareness:

Level 1: Physical awareness—you are aware of your overall state of health, whether you are in pain, whether you are tired, etc. If you are aware of yourself only on this first level of awareness, then you are unaware that your physical state is your body's reaction to your emotional state. You don’t believe there is anything you can do in your inner realm to improve your physical state.

Level 2: Emotional awareness—you are constantly aware of whether you are in a positive emotional state (excited, blissful, happy, inspired) or negative (fearful, angry, jealous). If you are aware of yourself on both the physical and emotional level, then you will be able to dissolve negative emotions; thus preventing physical illness. However, you remain stressed or unhappy much of the time because you are letting your ego run your mind and are unaware of what causes your emotions.

Level 3: Mind awareness—in this state you are fully aware of your thoughts most of the time. If you are mind-aware, then you have some ability to control emotions because you can try to change your thoughts. Awareness on this level will allow you to live in a more positive state and maintain good physical health. However, you may sometimes fail to control your negative thoughts or fears because you are unaware of your true identity.

Level 4: Essence awareness—in this highest state of being you are conscious, enlightened, awakened. You are aware that you are not your thoughts, and you occasionally exist in the blissful realm of no thought. In this state, negative emotion is no longer present in your being and neither is pain, disease or illness. You cut it off at the top so that your body can remain in its natural, perfect state. You are aligned with a higher intelligence and your life flows beautifully without much effort.

 

Emotion

 

Essence awareness is only possible when you have mastered the other levels. Mastering any level requires full acceptance of what is. Accept everything about your pain, your emotional state, your crazy thoughts, everything going on within you. Accept everything in your life as it is, even if it is painful at first. Now, watch your problems begin to dissolve as you increase awareness one level at a time.

Transformation is the process whereby you first become aware of yourself on the physical level, then the emotional, then the mental. Finally, you discover your true identity, your true essence. When this journey is complete, you become pure love and you are a source of light to the world. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

Emotion is a reflection of the mind in the body.

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

Image by Darren Kall

 

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Abscondo Podcast #67: Giving and Receiving

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Abscondo Podcast 67

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There’s no difference between giving and receiving.

Give fully in work to receive enough money. Give fully as a parent to receive the gift of wonderful children. Give fully in sex and romance to receive ecstasy. Give fully in kindness to receive kindness.

But giving is not enough. Now we learn to receive just as fully as we give.

By fully receiving each precious gift we are given by the people in our lives, we remove the false perception that there is any difference between giving and receiving. Without someone to receive, giving is impossible and nothing happens.

Giving and receiving are not two separate things. What we are describing is a single act that takes place between two people in the present moment. When two people become open and willing to engage fully in this act, then life can flourish, happiness can flow, energy and abundance is unleashed, and you become engaged in a virtuous cycle of value creation that expands the universe.

So now we remove all sense of sacrifice. We give fully—but only what we deeply desire to give. We receive fully—and feel no shame in enjoying the depths of each gift. This is enjoying life. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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