How do I decide whether to forgive?
Refusal to forgive is the decision to hold onto a grievance. It is a choice to let a thought pattern feed negativity into your body; thus generating negative emotions and stress in you.
To forgive, on the other hand, is to decide that you would rather feel good—so you practice unconditional acceptance of external events and situations that you cannot change anyway.
Would you rather chase the ego gratification of being right, even if this means giving so much power to a perceived injustice that you cause great harm to your inner state of being? Or would you rather use love-vision to see past the error and offer the hand of true correction?
For those who are willing to stand up to the ego parasite, the choice to forgive is easy. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.