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Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. (Eckhart Tolle)

Addiction is an attempt to escape pain and suffering through something or someone. Rather than dealing with the pain, addiction covers it up.

For a while, it works. But eventually the euphoria wears off and what emerges is an even greater pain.

This is obvious enough when we look at substance abuse, but this is also true with many romantic relationships. A new relationship may seem like the answer to your problems or the end of your suffering.

When the euphoria if a new relationship wears off, the pain reemerges. You then direct it toward your partner for supposedly failing to make you happy. In truth, nothing and no one external can make you happy or can end your suffering — at least not for long. You have been worshipping false idols.

If there is a problem in your life causing pain or suffering, then it must be accepted and dealt with. Look at it directly. Go within. Meditate. Talk about it. Solve it. This cannot be done within the ego’s thought system. All solutions flow from the humility of love and all knowledge flows from the divine.

Now you can enjoy relationships and, if you choose, you may even enjoy some of the things most people get addicted to. Now that peace is your normal state, there is nothing you need to escape from. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Love is the anti-ego

According to the book “Games Ego Plays” by Kevin Fitzmaurice, the ego is like a never-ending board game. This is a role-playing game to determine who’s right. The voice in your head is you and your opponents are everyone else. Your attitude toward your opponent is either suspicious (at best) or vicious (at worst).

To play the game, you shift between six possible positions: victim, defender, jailer, judge, offender, prosecutor. To begin the game, one player must attack and the other must respond defensively. For example, a wife may prosecute a husband by making the accusation “You never play with the children.” At first the husband attempts to defend himself, but she isn’t convinced. Eventually, he may try to take the role of prosecutor and respond, “You won’t let me, you always control everything!” Nice move. Now, if she defends herself, her position collapses until she makes another move. These types of ego games often last a lifetime.

If you can get another player to agree about who the judge is, you may be able to agree on guilt. You might convince the other player to let you play jailor and deal out the punishment. If you do not agree on who the judge is, there are ways to justify your behavior. You might assume the role of offender and feel justified in getting away with something. Or perhaps your best move is to take the role of victim, which justifies all sorts of insanity.

This game sounds like fun, but the problem is that the players don’t know it’s a game. Since they can’t imagine a reality beyond the game, they don’t know how to stop. But there is a way to stop playing.

Love is the anti-ego. In love, you end the game when you stop defending yourself. When attacked, you might calmly respond “is that so?” Refuse to assume any of the six positions. Be humble. Trust people. Be accepting and forgiving. Make yourself vulnerable.

Nobody has ever won anything real by playing the ego board game. It is only a game. Real life is what happens when you stop playing and realize you already had everything before you started playing. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  

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The ego does not know what a real question is. (A Course in Miracles)

Most questions are not real questions. They are framed so that only one right answer is possible. Answer differently and you will be ignored or attacked.

The answers to the following questions are clear and obvious: What is the point of it all? Why do bad things happen to good people? How can I learn to love myself? How can I learn to forgive? Will I ever be able to trust? Why am I overthinking everything? Why am I constantly ill? Why do I keep making the same mistakes?

The ego wants the answer to be “who knows” or “poor you” or “it isn’t fair” or “someday”. Respond to any of these questions with an honest, truthful, simple answer and the ego will either ignore you, attack you, or back away by calling the question “hypothetical”.

These questions are simple and the answers are obvious. But to accept the answer is to live from beyond the ego. This, the ego cannot accept, so the voice in your head tells you to back away. If you still think that voice is you, then you comply. You suffer for a bit longer. Maybe for the rest of your life.

If you really do want to love yourself, to forgive, to trust, to let the past go, to move on, then ask real questions and say yes to the answers. Everything you say you want is yours, but not from within the ego. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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The ego is capable of suspiciousness at best, and viciousness at worst. That is its range. (A Course in Miracles)

Taking the ego seriously is the cause of all your problems. The ego is a thought system. If the full range of this thought system only varies between suspiciousness and viciousness, then where is there any possibility for love? Joy? Peace? Certainty and trust? Freedom?  

You know that voice in your head beating you up all the time, causing problems, making you emotional, fearful, willing to run off or to attack? That’s not you, that’s your ego. It merely disguises itself as you by using your voice. Also, when other people act this way, that’s not them. That’s their ego tricking them. All egos share the same dysfunctional and insane thought system. Love is the anti-ego.

“The ego is particularly likely to attack you when you react lovingly, because it has evaluated you as unloving and you are going against its judgment. The ego will attack your motives as soon as they become clearly out of accord with its perception of you. This is when it will shift abruptly from suspiciousness to viciousness. Yet it is surely pointless to attack in return.”

“You cannot evaluate an insane belief system from within it. Its range precludes this. You can only go beyond it. Look back from a point where sanity exists and see the contrast.”

To attempt to change anything about your life from within the ego is pointless, impossible, and absolutely will not work. If you want anything about you or your life to change, you must be willing to undo the ego. The ego is undone when you become vulnerable, trusting, loving, accepting, open and giving. Now that voice in your head is telling you all the reasons why you can’t do this. Are you going to let it win again? How long do you want this suffering to last?

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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The future is what you make of the present.

“Eternity is one time. Its only dimension being always.” -A Course in Miracles

Eternity is the ongoing present moment. Time, which is nothing more than a useful and practical tool for coordinating the dream of life, is based only on the movement of our planet. Time is relative to our experience of life on earth, but ultimately unreal in the universal sense. To understand this changes some things.

To believe in time is to become impatient and scared of the future. We live as though we are limited by the past and we wait for miracles in the future. In time, we isolate ourselves from others and live entirely in our minds. We wait – and by waiting for anything in the future, we make it unattainable. The future is never.

“You cannot perform a miracle for yourself, because miracles are a way of giving acceptance and receiving it. In time, the giving comes first, though they are simultaneous in eternity where they cannot be separated.”

A miracle is what happens when you let the past go and realize that the future is what you make of the present. In the oneness and safety of the eternal now, you become vulnerable and open. You awaken to everything that comes across your field of awareness: the colors, the textures, the sounds, the feelings, the words, the other souls, the smiles. Fall in love with the present moment, which is life.

Now you are humble and the ego is dormant. You are fearless, unafraid to love and to accept others. You give everything in faith and receive everything in gratitude. When you don’t receive, you accept even this. The miracle has already occurred. It is love, which brings enduring beauty, truth, freedom and joy to this eternal now.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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It may seem trivial to look at life from a more philosophical perspective. But without clarity and understanding, life is impossible.

You are awakening, which is the most beautiful thing that can happen to any of us. It is the ultimate purpose of our time here on earth in this physical form. You are seeing that it is all really just a dream.

The difference between waking dream and sleeping dreams is that, in sleep, your mind controls everything. Awake, life is a dream that is shared between many minds.

Life is a temporary dream. We escape the waking dream each night when we sleep. We end the dream when we die.

The way we perceive with these senses is unreal in an ultimate sense. It is relative. Only humans experience this particular dream. Other life forms experience the dream of life based upon how their senses work.

Ultimately, you are not the dream. You are the observer of the dream. Consciousness. Which is the same thing as God. Which is what you are. A mind in service of truth, consciousness, is free and perfect. A mind that does not yet know this is lost, suffering terribly.

If you don’t know or agree yet, you will. Faith is allowing yourself to get there. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Beware of the unhealed healer

If you are seeking help or healing from a guru, priest, therapist, life coach or medical practitioner — know only that healing cannot be of the ego.

We look for healers who are officially certified by institutions and therefore “credible”. In truth, centralized institutions are political — based on rules, rewards, punishment and status. All institutions are self-serving and egoic. They teach us to trust them and doubt ourselves. This is the opposite of teaching and the cause of suffering.

Then there are the countless gurus, spiritual leaders, life coaches and others. Watch carefully. Are they projecting image? Do their teachings involve judgment or do they preach unconditional love? What is their understanding of ego? Are they making a lot of money? Are they teaching you to become self-sufficient or to keep coming back for more? What do you know about their private lives?

The world is filled with fake experts and the vast majority of advice is exactly wrong. There is only one path to healing, though it can be described in many ways. Healing is the undoing of ego, which is awakening, discovering consciousness, salvation, making peace with God, or aligning with love.

Healing can only happen in the absence of ego. Perfect bliss, peace, joy and health is extremely unusual in today’s world. To reach this state, you must be willing to go beyond what the world considers normal. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Ambition makes you look pretty ugly. (Thom Yorke)

Ambition is the desperate longing for a result. A willingness to sacrifice the present moment for a future goal. 

Ambition justifies the sacrifice of everything and everyone. This is ego in its full grandiosity. Shouting for attention, needing to be better than others, seeking salvation in specialness and exclusion.

The world sometimes rewards ambition, but even then the ego is never satisfied. Success leads only to ugly pride and arrogance, followed by desperate clinging and fear of loss.

Ambitious, we become hollow, boring, unoriginal, and nothing we say or do means anything to anyone. Ambitious miscreations often result in human suffering and destruction. This is the path to inner failure even when there is an appearance of outer success.

True success is humble service to others. Success is bringing people together and making them feel better. 

Thus, there is only one true ambition: the ambition to love everyone and everything. 

Love is the goal and it can be achieved now. Love instantly brings the inner success of joy and bliss, followed by an outer success that endures. 

Love is our true aspiration. Reach for a humility so pure that is absent of ego. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Love only happens when you humble yourself completely.

If you’ve ever been truly in love, it was because you had humbled yourself to such an extent that you had no ego. You laid yourself at the feet of your lover — offering irrational, exuberant, unconditional acceptance. You broke all your rules. 

If you’ve never found true love, it is only because you’ve never humbled yourself. 

True love can only exist between two people who have escape their egos. If your relationship allows ego to survive, then there cannot be true love in that relationship. 

You might think that to destroy the ego sounds drastic — even violent or abusive. This is not so, because this is not about ego destruction in the other. This is about you.

To shatter the ego is the most merciful act, the most loving act, the most beautiful thing that could happen to any person because the result is perfect love. Remarkably, this is a gift you can only give yourself. 

This is what is meant when they say that first you have to learn to love yourself. Now you have learned. Love is the full escape from ego, which is what we will continue to learn about tomorrow and each day after that.

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As long as you believe that fear is possible, you will not create. (A Course in Miracles)

Nothing can be learned or created in a state of panic. Fear is the opposite of life: paralysis and death.

Life flows. Life grows. Life creates. The energy of life is love, which is the opposite of fear. A mind cannot be aligned with both love and fear. One must be made real the other unreal.

To fear is to perceive with ego. To choose ego is to suffer. The insanity, violence, and suffering of this world is all the miscreation of ego.

With full allegiance to love, we function just as we were created to function. Move beyond fear, beyond illness, beyond struggle by simply choosing to fall in love with everything. End all resistance to love and let go of all that is unreal.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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