The best way to reach an audience

Deep within, we want to reach an audience. We need to matter, to get noticed, and to make a difference in this world. Because consciousness wants to flow freely through us into the world of form, nothing is more natural.

When we try to shut down this impulse, or give up on our dreams, we slide into depression. This isn’t the way. To be alive is to reach and to strive, to shine our light, to spread our love and beauty far and wide.

As with anything, the problems begin when the ego takes over. The ego doesn’t care about spreading the light of consciousness—only about pride, image, status or wealth. Egoic ambition is ugly because it is mainly about being better than others. The ego is self-centered and adds nothing of value to this world. As with everything the ego does, even when it succeeds no true and lasting happiness is found.

In a world where we all have access to technology that allows us to instantly reach the world, we often feel depressed and worthless when we fail. Even those who get their 15 minutes of fame often will then sacrifice what matters most in life only to spend years trying to maintain a false identity.

Let’s go back to this present moment and go deeply within to the root of this need to reach an audience. The instinctual drive we feel is consciousness, perfect love, our true beauty wanting to flow freely. We will succeed because we will not let the ego get in way. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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What to do when I feel like giving up?

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So much of our doing is designed to get a result. We try so hard and fail. It’s easy to say don’t give up, but sometimes continuing with something no longer makes sense when it feels like a chore, a burden, a huge sacrifice.

Spirituality teaches us to act without expectations of a result; but it feels misguided to work without expecting a profit, pointless to create without expecting an audience, and strange to compete without expecting to win. According to the rules of the world, the result is the entire point. Let’s be honest: we do care about the result!

There’s a difference between inner success and outer success. To achieve inner success, no doing is required. We’re talking about a state of being that is always instantly accessible. Success within is entirely within our control. But mastering our inner state of being doesn’t necessarily translate to outer success. External results involve other people—people who do not appreciate you or share your views.

Outer success has to do with the games of this world—games that are usually rigged in someone else’s favor to begin with, games that keep getting more advanced and difficult to win. Getting anyone’s attention or impressing anyone these days is nearly impossible. Outer failure is, therefore, inevitable most the time. There are times when it makes perfect sense to give up on something. Most the time though, it’s better just to change the way we play the game.

Rather than choosing between 1) stubbornly continuing with a failing strategy, or 2) giving up, choose instead to innovate. If it doesn’t work this time, we try again and repeat—but only so long as the state of inner success can be maintained all the while. No pursuit of outer success is worth sacrificing our state of being. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.


How can I deal with jealousy in my relationship?

Jealousy makes us crazy. We know it, we try to control it, but sometimes it seems there’s nothing we can do. Must we live with jealousy or is there a better way?

The ego, because of its faith in separation, seeks special relationships that exclude all others. Children often make a best friend and then become jealous when that friend forms a close bond with another. Jealousy is also common in all kinds of adult relationships, but most extreme in the romantic or sexual relationship. Solve jealousy here and free yourself from all jealousy.

Jealousy is, quite simply, the inevitable emotional outcome of exclusivity. We come to think of a person as “ours”, then expect every need to be met by this one relationship, so we become terrified about losing the relationship. Now anything outside the relationship is not accepted and even violently punished.

In an exclusive relationship, there is a legitimate reason for jealousy—you know that the person believes in exclusivity, so is likely to end your relationship to start another. Faith in exclusivity is the root cause of heartbreak and misery.

Even if an exclusive relationship lasts, it becomes abusive—defined only by a desperate clinging and possessiveness. Here nobody’s very happy, there’s no trust, there’s no respect, constant resentment, and in truth the love that once existed has been replaced by loneliness and fear.

Forget exclusivity; commit to love. Love is accepting, generous, freeing, open and endless. When two people truly love each other, there is no need for any promise of exclusivity because nothing between you will be lost. Even if there is a need outside the relationship, it will not threaten the pure love within the relationship. Now there’s total freedom with nothing to fear.

Love excludes exclusivity. Here, jealousy is replaced by the pure happiness of total honesty, natural giving, and unconditional acceptance. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.     

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How can I learn to forgive?

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What stops most people from forgiving is the belief that non-forgiveness teaches a lesson to an offender who needs correction. But if we look more deeply into the thought process of non-forgiveness, we uncover a whole set of questionable assumptions.

Perhaps there is an assumption that the offense was intended to hurt you, that the offender got some sort of sick pleasure from hurting you, that he meant to disrespect you and all the good people like you, that if you forgive then she will have gotten away with it.

While these types of storylines often play on repeat in the ego-mind, there is a deeper truth that is being overlooked: the offense was probably never about you, not aimed at you, nor intended to hurt you. What appears to manifest as an offense is often only another person trying to deal with his or her stuff.

In far too many cases, the perceived offense is only an exercise in personal freedom which doesn’t even cause any actual harm to anyone. Even if some harm was done, and you feel compelled to correct the behavior, then know that correction will never happen through non-forgiveness. Non-forgiveness always takes the form of withdrawal, attack, shame, blame, punishment—all nasty mechanisms of the ego-mind that always makes things worse. The ego’s solution only teaches that nastiness is real, causes new offenses in response, and corrects nothing. How do we know this to be true? From our own experiences, of course.

To forgive is to offer understanding, acceptance, and complete honesty. You might then lovingly state your needs and feelings—but do so without blaming, labeling, threatening or punishing. To forgive is also to provide a judgement-free space for the so-called offender to share some perspectives. Be a good listener and ask questions that help bring understanding and clarity to the situation. In the end, this is only about two people working through a challenge.

Forgiveness removes the darkness of ego from the equation so you can solve problems in the light of love. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.        


Fight fire with fire and we’ll burn everything down.

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"Sin is where love is not." -A Course in Miracles

Anything done in perfect love cannot be sin or it would not have been done. On the other hand, anything done without love (even if perfectly normal) might be called sin—but only so if we define sin as missing the mark or error.

There are no sinners in this world, only spiritual beings who have mistakenly learned to block the perfect love within. A person who has lost faith in love is a person who unknowingly has placed all faith in the ego. The ego is, of course, the mind which has been conditioned by the lessons of the world.

The ego voice in the head is fearful, attacking, violent, selfish, and insane. Each time we act upon the insane thoughts and emotional impulses of ego, we error. The correction to error is always the remembrance of perfect love (which always undoes ego).

Errors of ego in others cannot be corrected by the ego in us. If we attempt to punish, reward, shame, blame or attack in any form; we teach only that the ego’s insane thought system is real. This reinforces the origin of the “sin” we claim to be correcting.

Fight fire with fire and we’ll burn everything down. But respond to error with perfect love and it is instantly corrected. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.      


The joy of being

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This lesson is, of course, the opposite of what the world has taught. We spend our lives certain that happiness does come through form. Without ever questioning this assumption, we plan, we chase, we sacrifice, and we channel all our energy into the pursuit of happiness through form.

Yet no matter what we do or experience externally, the joy we seek never quite arrives. Still never questioning the assumption, we then move on and seek fulfillment in yet another form (only to fail again). Most people spend their entire lives this way, never finding that joy of being and, ironically, never questioning the very external pursuit, itself.

Its nice when life gets a bit more enjoyable, a bit easier or more exciting. But unless you first find the source of joy within, even outer success will not be enjoyed. On the other hand, it can be extremely difficult when life brings challenges or even tragedy (which it invariably does on a regular basis). But, if you have found the source of joy within, enjoyment will remain no matter what is going on externally.

That joy is perfect love, which emanates from you and flows from within. Love is the fearless, exhilarating, inspired energy of life. Love is what you are when you are unblocked. So we must undo the blockages. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.   


We are limited by form; and yet, there is a dimension within us begging to go beyond it.

In the dimension of form, we are limited. These bodies offer only on particular view of the universe. We must constantly find a source of food, water, and shelter from the elements even to sustain this limited reality.

Stars are no different. To stay alive, a star needs to burn hydrogen for 99.99 of its existence. When the hydrogen eventually runs out, the star switches to burning helium for a little while and then lives for a bit longer still by fusing carbon into neon. When all fuel is eventually exhausted, the star begins to die. It explodes into a supernova and then retreats into a black hole.

There is something within us—likely within all form—that relentlessly begs to reach beyond all limitation. This is, of course, the dimension of consciousness pulling us toward the vast oneness. The soul wants to expand into the entire universe, and so feels trapped within the limits of form.

Herein lies the struggle of life. To be alive is to feel a primal desire both to be comfortable within this form while at the same time extending our being into all eternity. This impossibility is the source of our frustration, our anxiety, our hopes and our fears.

Without these conflicting drives, the march of evolution would cease and this beautiful dance of consciousness learning through form would end—thus removing the very purpose of life.

Let us be grateful for this short time we have. This frustrating existence can be and should be no other way. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.       

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The world was created by dreamers who didn't know they were dreaming

As Eckhart Tolle teaches, “There’s the dream, and there’s the dreamer of the dream.” Which is most real; the dream or the dreamer? Why does the answer to such a question even matter?

Faith in materialism is the belief that the dream is what is real. Here, happiness depends upon what happens in the world around us. This, to the materialist, is exactly what seems to happen. There is just one caveat: the happiness being sought in the dream never quite materializes.

Spiritual faith, on the other hand, is the knowledge that the dreamer is primary. The world did not make us; rather, we made the world. Form is created by consciousness, not the other way around. If the material world appears to take the shape of a nightmare, it is because the dreamer has been unconscious—unaware of his identity, ignorant of his supremacy and power.

The world is fearful and insane because it has been created by dreamers who do not know they are dreaming. To awaken is to instantly establish a new order of truth in this world. The dreamer then becomes aware that she is the creator of reality and, therefore, no longer seeks salvation in the realm of form. Instead, she let’s truth and beauty flow unhindered into the world of form—creating a beautiful conscious dream that flows from us and not the other way around.    

“The dreamer is consciousness itself—who you are. To awaken within the dream is our purpose now.” -A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Non-resistance is key to the greatest power in the universe. (Eckhart Tolle)

Today we look at the thought system of resistance and compare it to non-resistance. Does it really matter, deep down, how we react to what is going on? Does it change anything?

To resist what is happening—either by struggling against it or hiding in fear—is to place all faith in the absolute reality of form. This is faith in materialism. Here, everything that is happening around us and to us becomes what we believe is real. Therefore, all our consciousness (attention) is focused only on stuff. In resistance, the impermanent world around us is given absolute superiority over spirit.

Materialism brings with it a constant sense of fear, as well as the experience of ups and downs. As Eckhart Tolle points out; in resistance, we are unhappy for one of two reasons: 1) either because we don’t get what we want or 2) because we do. Here there can be no lasting salvation.

Non-resistance, on the other hand, allows spirit to flow freely into the world of form. Now faith is in the formless dimension (the soul, spirit, consciousness, love, the present moment), so we are no longer primarily concerned with the happenings of the world. Now, no matter what is going on, the light of your love (consciousness) is allowed to keep flowing. You become unstoppable.

All power is to be found in the formless dimension. As A Course in Miracles teaches, “Nothing real can be threatened, nothing unreal exists.” All form is constantly changing; while the formless is still, eternal, unchanging truth. Align with the formless and access the dimension within you that is one with all the power in the universe. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Change is now

Cognitive dissonance is the mental stress or discomfort experienced by someone who tries to hold two opposing views—someone who chooses to live in a way that actions contradict beliefs. This you do not want because it causes stress, wears you down, and pushes you into a dark realm of secrecy.

To seek change in the future is to choose the suffering of cognitive dissonance now. If you know something is good, right, or true now—and if you are committed to honesty and transparency—then you must align your reality with what you know to be true.

Rather than resisting change, just open your heart and mind to absorb it. Hide nothing, so that this eternal now becomes the field upon which all ideas, situations, relationships and realities effortlessly unfold. Here knowledge is no longer delayed, and confusion is no longer part of your life, because everything in your life is instantly integrated and experienced.

To delay change is to delay growth, to delay improvement, to resist knowledge by making experience impossible. And for what? To suffer in an ongoing state of cognitive dissonance? Change can be effortless, but only if it is now. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  

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