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Care about people's approval and you will be their prisoner. (Tao Te Ching)

A core human need is to be admired, loved and respected. Thus, we seek approval and grasp at what cannot be possessed.

This drive toward socially-acceptable normalcy is the drive to become false and to bury the truths of the soul. Thus we are conditioned, trained, controlled, domesticated by nothing more than a few occasional words of approval. Behind the cheap praise there is no love and no respect.

Set yourself free from the social norms, the expectations, the ways of the world you were taught. There is nothing you can do to be truly loved, admired, or respected. But there is something you can be: yourself.

When you are content to be simply yourself, and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you. Tao Te Ching: A New English Version, 8

Be the light that you are and not the false reflections. We continue tomorrow and day after that.

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How to cope with stress

Stress is caused by being here but wanting to be there. Or being in the present but wanting to be in the future. It’s a split that tears you apart inside.

That terrible feeling of stress, frustration, and anxiety is your body telling you that something is wrong. You have forgotten that now is all there is, all there ever was, and all there ever will be. Most of all, you’ve stopped believing that you are freedom.

To be stressed is to believe that you need a different set of external circumstances before you can be happy. But if you are seeking liberation in external form, you will continue to seek for a lifetime—experiencing only brief, temporary relief from the agony. You’ll feel split, torn apart, like something is dreadfully wrong.

To create and live with such a split is insane. The fact that everyone else is doing it doesn’t make it any less insane.

When you feel that you have no power, like you are adrift on a stormy sea, this is the feeling of your soul screaming out for remembrance. The unease and sickness inside of you is a reminder that you have forgotten what is real. Your belief has shifted to external form, to ego, to the realm of the impermanent. You’ve forgotten that you have all the power—to leave the situation, to do something about it, or to fully surrender to it. Those are your options.

Remember that spirit cannot be threatened by any external situation or condition imposed upon you. You are the source of power because you are love and you are the energy of life. What is real about you cannot be threatened by anyone or anything. Remember this, go deeply into the fear, the stress, anxiety. Access the power of now and it will melt away. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Quotes from The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

 

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Love does not conquer all things, but it does set all things right. (A Course in Miracles)

To know love is to know that there is no need to conquer anything. What is there to conquer when you have already been given everything? In this way, it might be said that love conquers even the need to conquer.

Perfect love, like perfect knowledge, is instant, eternal, full and complete. Know any of it and you know its entirety. But try to grasp it or achieve it with the mind and remain wanting. To seek more of anything is to place your trust in the ego. Perfect abundance is yours, but it is accessible in a different way from what you have been taught. Go to this place—consciousness, presence, stillness, spirit, your essence identity—because perfect love, abundance, and freedom exists beyond all thought and form.

With the simple realization that it is enough just to be, then perfect knowledge, love, and creativity flows freely like a gushing stream that contains all the power of the universe. Try it and you will know. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Humans have just one superpower—the power to create.

“If we closely observe the activities of nature, we will find that there is only one process going on. And that process is one of continuous creation, of procreation, of creating new and different self-forms.” -Osho

We are life, and of course the same is true of us. We were given these minds and bodies for one purpose: the purpose of creating.

Let’s start with the sex drive. The need for sex is nothing other than the most basic urge to create. To resist sexual desire is to resist life. Why not accept and embrace it fully? How can we rise to the higher forms of creation if we cannot even embrace the most basic?

Moving beyond this most basic power, we have a superpower—creative powers far exceeding any known life form. We have hands to make things, minds to imagine what does not yet exist, and language powerful enough to make concepts felt and understood. We can write, speak, make music, develop technology, paint, draw, invent systems, entertain, inform…we are perfectly designed life forms and there’s almost nothing we can’t do.

So what do we do with this superpower? Here’s the thing: the mind is always creating and teaching. We have no choice. Even when you are completely uninspired; perhaps watching television, gossiping, or arguing—you are still creating. You may be creating negative stories in your mind, problems, or issues—but you are creating! Anything done in the egoic state is, of course, a miscreation. To remain in the ego is to fall beneath your calling and potential while creating misery for yourself and others.

To know spirit is to let your powers inspire you just as they inspire us all. You are extraordinary. Embrace your power to create and know what it is for. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Love can only be born out of emptiness. Only a void is capable of merging with another void.

To find love, we attempt to present our best selves. We make ourselves more attractive, seek a higher status, and show off. In so doing, we are seeking love in the realm of the ego—the realm of form.

But love is not form. Love is invisible nothingness and emptiness. When you think of the universe, you realize that all the blackness, the “nothingness” of space is merged together as one. There are no walls separating nothingness. But the stars, the planets, the “things” that exist in the universe are alone and cannot be merged. Two forms cannot merge; but they can be connected by nothingness just as two people can be connected in love.

Love has nothing to do with the physical, the tangible, or the measurable. No photo can show it. No poem can fully explain it. No physical act can perfect it. Even as jealous couples foolishly try to hold onto it, Love cannot be controlled or possessed because it is not a thing.

Seek love in the realm of form and you will never find it. To know love is to know spirit. When two souls merge in a space of no thought, no past, no future, no plans, no “I” and “you”—that is true love. Love is the transcendence of the ego and the remembrance of how to exist in spirit. This kind of love is as simple as breathing, yet still incredibly rare in this world because we have been taught lies.

If this is the love you desire, you must first love yourself. If you are trying to get love from another, you are seeking love where it does not exist—in the realm of form. Remember that you are the nothingness, which is eternal, unchanging, and cannot be threatened. This is the realm in which everything you seek exists. Here love is infinite, we are perfect and complete, and all jealousy and possessiveness erode because non-matter cannot be threatened. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Quote by From Sex to Super-Consciousness by Osho

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Where can I find protection?

This persistent feeling of vulnerability is the consequence of separation. For the thousands of years since the fall—by this I mean the original separation, the rise of the ego and all of civilization that has followed—we have been driven mad by the dreadful fear that flows from what seems to be unavoidable impermanence and vulnerability.   

If there were a different way—a way to feel completely safe and protected—would we not choose it? There is a choice and it is between the two opposing masters of ego and spirit. These separate thought systems and states of being cannot understand each other. By choosing one, the other is instantly thrown away. One brings peace and joy. The other brings chaos and disaster. What is the purpose of what you have chosen? What is it for?

The ego does seek protection in the form of safety, knowledge, abundance and love. But this the ego cannot deliver. True protection must be lasting and the realm of the ego is temporary, changing, and unstable. The only result of egoic doing is vulnerability, which may be the source of all fear and suffering.

Spirit is eternal and delivers permanent protection. Awaken to spirit and your soul is freed from fear because you are no longer vulnerable to anything of this world. You are aligned with true power and full knowledge, which comes to you in the energy of love. This is a light that never dims and cannot be threatened. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.    

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If you had a choice, would you choose suffering or joy? (Eckhart Tolle)

If you think about recent history, turn on the news, or even watch a popular movie, you instantly realize that the world is in a state of madness and insanity. It would seem perfectly natural to react with negative feelings such as fear and outrage. But, as Eckhart Tolle explains in The Power of Now, “Sanity is there underneath the madness. Healing and redemption are available right now.”

How can this be? We are taught to seek change by fighting the system or trying to change others. Experience tells us that this is impossible. Thus, we learn to give-up and give-in to suffering, despair, and complaint. Uninspired, we live as if we have no power and no influence.

Yet, “If you really knew deeply that everything is okay, which of course is true, then would you have those negative feelings in the first place?” Madness cannot be cured by negativity. Violence cannot be ended through attack. To heal ourselves is the only power we have; yet this is the only power great enough to heal the whole world. We need only access the power of now.

Now, look not at your life situation or the state of the world. Look only at your actual present moment in this time and place. Start with full acceptance of what is in your reality, here and now. Breathe. Are there any problems now? Learn to live from this place. If your present moment is not okay, you have three options: leave, change it, or accept it. Whatever the outcome of your decision, accept it. Have patience, follow your intuition, have faith.

Learn to live from a place beneath the insanity. Until then, nobody is going to take away your right to suffer. If this is what you want, you are free to suffer. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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The ego judges only in terms of threat or non-threat to itself. (A Course in Miracles).

The basis of the ego’s insanity is its selfish dedication to self-preservation—even if this comes with great effort and pain. Any form of diminishment is a threat to the ego. Being wrong, insulted, perceived as inferior, not getting what it wants, or losing any contest may result in an embarrassing childlike tantrum. At some point, we’ve all been there. “What came over me?” you may ask days later. It was the ego merely doing what it does.

On a more serious level, loss of a job, a relationship, fame, physical beauty or wealth will likely result in a state of depression. In this state, the ego becomes so fearful and hopeless that a person may make the error of abusing drugs or alcohol to numb the pain or, in the most extreme cases, even suicide to attempt to end it.

There is only one way to end the pain and suffering caused by the ego. Ironically, the only escape is what the ego fears most—the death and destruction of it by the real you. This ultimate diminishment of the ego is the awakened consciousness flowing through you—brought with the simple realization that you are not your ego and that the ego need not be.

To live in the egoic state is normal in this world, but as A Course in Miracles states, this need not be. Where you look to find yourself is up to you. Let your ego kick and scream for a while as it dies this slow death, but all nightmares end when we awaken. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  

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Love will enter immediate into any mind that truly wants it. (A Course in Miracles)

“But you must want it truly. This kind of wanting is wholly without the ego’s drive to get.”

To want love truly is simply to know what love is. Love is the life energy of your spirit, your soul. You’ve heard the phrase “God is love”? There’s no reason to use the word “God”. Through the centuries, egos have abused the word to the point that the word has almost lost its meaning. To understand the true meaning, simply turn the phrase around: Love is God. Love is the energy, the feeling of God. You do know the feeling of love; therefore, you know God.

Because you know what love is, you also know that it is inside of you. Because love is within your spirit, it is your true identity. To know this is to stop looking for love outside of yourself.

To experience perfect love, there is nothing you need to get from anyone. To remember this truth is to shift your life so fundamentally that other beautiful souls will show up and will be attracted to you. You will experience perfect love both alone and with others. Love wants to be shared. As soon as you find it within you, it will flow from you in the form of giving and creating. It will also attract other souls who are doing the same. This is relationship bliss.

There is no difference between love, God, and what you are. Know this and your knowledge is complete. This is everything: abundance, power, beauty, awakening, salvation, liberation, and consciousness.

You will not arrive at this truth through the perception of ego. Ego seeks but never finds. The ego’s goal is self-preservation, and truth is the death of the ego. It is impossible to change your life while remaining within the ego. The ego is the cause of all problems and it must be left behind completely if anything is going to change. If you are ever going to succeed at love and life, it is through spirit. You need only want it truly. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Is acceptance and forgiveness a form of weakness?

As Eckhart Tolle explains, “Be at least as interested in what goes on inside you as what happens outside. If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place. Primary reality is within. Secondary reality without.”

What kinds of thoughts is your mind thinking? What do you feel? Direct your attention into the body. Is there any tension? Once you detect some unease, “See in what way you are avoiding, resisting, or denying life by denying the now.”

Are you resisting your job? Resenting a person who is close to you? Unable to forgive? Fear losing something you believe defines you? Unwilling to do what you are expected to do? Simply feel and accept the emotion. Is this an energy you would choose to have inside you? Maybe what you feel is justified or true, but nonetheless you are resisting what is. By resisting, you are creating negativity within yourself and harming yourself. You have a choice.

You are free, and liberation starts by looking inward, at your inner state. This can only be done with an intense awareness of the now. Liberate your inner world, then begin to change the situation on the outside. From presence, you begin to act in love and harmony. You speak your beautiful truth, you serve others wisely and effectively, you help, you listen. But you cannot do any of this while resisting what is.

Acceptance clears the path to liberation, which leads to inspiration, which leads to the possibility of real change. Acceptance is not a form of weakness, it is the source of power and strength. But even if you cannot change the outside, so what? “Nothing real can be threatened. When this is your state of being, how can you not succeed? You have succeeded already.” We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Quotes taken from The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle   

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