Posts categorized "Personal Development"

Some suffering is necessary

Escape from the ego—the full alignment with love—is the end of unnecessary suffering. Still, some necessary suffering occasionally arises.

Anyone who has ever been a parent, for example, knows that total peace isn’t always an option. Natural forces are at play and some suffering is required.

Life brings challenges. You lose someone. Your income falls short. You hurt someone. You are fundamentally disrespected and forced to stand up for yourself.

The situation feels overwhelming, yet inaction and withdrawal are not an option. Now is the time to respond in bravery and truth. Now your faith, your spirit, your body and mind are put to the test. Your heart races along with your thoughts. Peace feels beyond your grasp.

Suffering is a temporary state pushing you toward change and growth. Maybe your state of being needs fundamental change. Maybe you need to force change in a relationship, a situation, or maybe you truly do have to let someone go.

Good suffering is the kind that ultimately pulls you toward deeper love, spiritual growth, greater awareness and inner peace. Like a terrible thunderstorm, it is natural, necessary, but temporary. Weather the storm. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Alone we can do nothing. But together, our minds fuse into something whose power is far beyond the power of its separate parts. (A Course in Miracles)

You have free will. You can, therefore, choose to act as if you were alone. Nobody is going to stop you from creating the illusion of separation—an error that renders you powerless, miserable and vulnerable.

The light of love cannot penetrate a mind grasping at illusions of darkness. First, a crack must appear in the illusion—a single doubt about the nature of our essence, our truth, our identity—a simple realization that we are the same in all the ways that matter. The same = one.

We are one. Children. Parents. Friends. Brothers and sisters. Lovers. Life partners. Denial of our sameness, our oneness, is denial of your power.

You are not a single ray of light, separated from other rays. We, together, are the light. To know this is enough to instantly manifest perfect love, abundance, and total freedom. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Success in life requires only that we see beyond the game board.

Yesterday we looked at the grand illusion, this game we have been taught to call “The Real World”. Let’s take a break from the game for a moment.

Notice this present moment, the sounds, everything happening right now. Go into your inner-body and feel the energy. Contemplate the miracle of your life—how you have arisen from nothing and have been given unlimited power to love and to create.

Now, when you look at your brothers and sisters, you see them not as competitors in the game; rather, as souls identical to yours. Our position on the game board is not what matters. At our core, our identity is the same because our fundamental needs are all the same. This is our oneness, our union, our yoga.

Beyond the illusion, you are not alone. Furthermore, you are not lacking. There is nothing you can win in the game to fulfill your most fundamental needs for love, security, abundance, feeling good, peace, happiness. These aren’t things you can get; rather, this is what you are. All success flows from knowing this. Without knowing this, you seek more of everything even as no real success is possible.

Success in life is remembering the endless love within. Know what you are and extend it to others—seeing only the realm where we are all one. Now you cannot maintain the illusion of separation, isolation, or lack. Fear dissolves because you know what is real and that it cannot be threatened.

To see spirit in your brothers and sisters is to see them beyond the game they call The Real World. Play the game and have fun, but do so in the eternal present moment—here where you are perfect and complete. Don’t take it so seriously, and don’t forget to take frequent breaks to see beyond the game board. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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What they call “The Real World” is only a game.

The object of the game is to acquire more of everything by taking it from your opponents. To win, you must outsmart others, get what they have, demonstrate your overall superiority, and be right.

Score is kept by acquiring more material success, earning an important title, appearing more attractive, traveling to more exotic destinations, marrying a more successful and attractive partner, raising higher-performing kids, and living in an impressive house in the right neighborhood. The reward promised to you for winning this game is this: happiness. But to win, you must sacrifice all.

This game might be fun if it were played as a game, but we have been taught to call this game The Real World. This is not the real world, only an elaborate game—an illusion. Institutions have even been setup to support the illusion that the game is real (media, courts, banks, schools, governments, prisons, etc.). Not only is the game unreal, nobody has ever won the ultimate reward promised. Happiness is what happens when we stop playing the game; but if we believe the game is real, we never stop.

While fun at times, no game can deliver true fulfillment, meaning, peace or happiness. No illusion can replace that which is real. Do not sacrifice that which is real to play a game. You will lose not just the game, but yourself.

Tomorrow we learn to succeed at life, not win at a meaningless game. You will still be able to play this game they call The Real World if you are still having fun, but it is no longer the purpose of your life—nor the source of anything that ultimately matters. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Whenever you are with a brother, you are learning what you are because you are teaching what you are. (A Course in Miracles)

“He will respond either with pain, or with joy, depending upon which teacher you are following. He will be imprisoned or released according to your decision, and so will you. Never forget your responsibility to him, because it is your responsibility to yourself. The Kingdom cannot be found alone.”

Some people seek inner peace by labeling others as narcissists and sociopaths—then creating boundaries, attempting to rid themselves of what they call “toxic relationships”. Any time we judge or condemn a brother or sister using such labels, we are serving the ego and its belief in separation.

What are you teaching? That narcissistic and sociopathic behavior is real, that the other is condemned, wrong, flawed, sinful, hopeless? This is belief in separation, not the path to inner peace. Here you seek but do not find.

Happiness is not found in isolation and separation. This is the path toward loneliness and lack. If you desire abundance and freedom, respond your brothers and sisters in spirit. Learn to communicate, and to teach, on the level of feelings and needs.

Marshall Rosenberg says, “Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.” Or as stated in the Tao Te Ching, “What is a bad man but a good man’s student? What is a good man but a bad man’s teacher?”

To teach is to look past the error and to communicate on the level of the unmet need. Healing and growth is possible, but only if we learn to respond to each other like this: “I can see that you’re feeling angry. Is it because you have a need for more freedom, or more love, or more safety? I’d like to understand you better. Would you like to talk about this?”

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. (A Course in Miracles)

“As you see him, you will see yourself. As you treat him, you will treat yourself. As you think of him, you will think of yourself. In him, you will find yourself or lose yourself.”

All judgment or rejection of others is a form of projection. Yes, you see something in the other which makes you uncomfortable. Know also that it would be impossible to perceive anything in the other that does not also exist within yourself.

Projection is the ego’s attempt to rid yourself of that which you do not accept about yourself. By making guilty the other, then separating yourself from that person, you attempt to rid yourself of that which bothers your ego about yourself.

Projection never works. Through projection, you are merely making real that which you attempt to reject. That disgust you feel for the other is a feeling that you continue to have within. That judgment you attempt to throw upon others is a judgment you continue to carry. As you shame, blame, judge, argue, and punish—you are bringing to life suffering within. As your ego takes control—feeding on the nastiness you project—the other person is unlikely to care much about your out-of-control thoughts.

Now we turn to spirit to look beyond the traits, the judgements, the differences. We see beyond the words, thoughts and behaviors—seeing only needs. When your brother or sister speaks, acts out, engages in behavior you don’t like, or even attacks you in some way—look beyond this to the needs.

See the needs and communicate with everyone on that level. This is the loving response. Now, all differences will dissolve, conflict will disappear from your life, and there is no longer a reason to maintain boundaries because your relationships will function as naturally as breathing. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Nothing that is real is ever lost. (Eckhart Tolle)

“The ultimate purpose of the world lies not in the world, but in transcendence of the world.” –The Power of Now

Nothing in this world is real because everything in this world is ultimately lost. All situations, all structures, all forms eventually change. Peace is found in permanence, but everything in the material world constantly changes. In life, there are no destinations. Life situations change, individual life forms die, empires collapse, species become extinct, stars eventually expand into red giants.

To find real happiness, meaning, and fulfillment, we stop seeking it in this world. That which is real is unchanging, eternal, infinite, and already present. Truth is that which is, always has been, always will be, and cannot be threatened. Awaken to this truth to be reborn and to allow that which is false to die. “Death is, therefore, only a death of the false self.”

“The end of illusion, that’s all death is. It is painful only as long as you cling to illusion.” Fear and suffering are only real as long as we believe that there is something real to be found in external form. All meaning is found within, in the nothingness that is the body of God that is your spirit. The purpose of this life is to extend spirit, to share, to create, to see your brothers and sisters only in spirit. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Being is known through sharing. (A Course in Miracles)

Born into this world from the eternal void of nothingness, you arrive as perfect love, abundance, and joy. Your fundamental needs are met within because this is your identity. There is nothing you need to sacrifice or to seek externally to be complete.

So is it not enough, therefore, to just keep to yourself? Why make yourself vulnerable to other people? Isn’t it possible to maintain inner-peace by maintaining outer-boundaries?

No, because doing is knowing. Yes, the source of your being—your “I am-ness”—is within. But the purpose of this dream of life is to make your being known (not to hide). Knowing requires sharing.

It is the ego who cowers in separation—believing that a heart can be broken, that safety can be threatened, that truth can be attacked, and that something real can be taken away. But the ego’s mantra is “seek but do not find.” Nothing can be known through separation but confusion.

Spirit knows that it is invulnerable. Therefore, there is no risk in sharing, giving, loving all. Spirit does not see attack as real, is not afraid of what might happen, and cares nothing of the judgment of egos—just creating, giving, loving from the center of the wheel.

Now we escape the ego, set spirit free in all dimensions of life, and experience a complete knowing. Our choice is love or fear; at all times, in all situations, with everyone. It is impossible to serve two masters. If anything is holding you back from freely sharing love, you are continuing to serve ego—the source of suffering in this world.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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God is the nothingness from which all things come.

Before the universe exploded from nothingness into a big bang of expansion, there was only nothing. Then there was both nothing and something. All the while, nothingness was never threatened, never altered, never harmed or destroyed even by this primordial explosion.

Nothingness is the source, the creator of all things. Where was a baby before it was conceived, but in the vast nothingness—the unmanifested. All life arises from nothingness.

If we do not know God, it is because we do not know nothingness. We have not yet recognized that all form as ultimately meaningless, unstable, impermanent. Now with this knowledge, form loses its grip, fear dissolves, and our God-essence within is given the freedom to love and to create.

Religion will not teach you that God is in the nothingness. Instead, the Church claims that God is in its own restrictive structures and rituals. But it is impossible for any entity or institution to grasp at or possess nothingness. God is the vast empty space within us, around us, and the eternal and infinite void that gives birth to all things. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Everybody pays attention to the things in space, but who pays attention to space, itself? (Eckhart Tolle)

“Nothing can exist without no thing.” The Power of Now

The universe contains billions or trillions of stars and even more planets, but between all these things is nothingness. The vast majority of the universe is nothingness, yet science is only concerned with the small fragment of reality comprised of things. Even your body is mostly empty space because inside every atom is empty space.

When you withdraw attention from things, you withdraw yourself from the constant stream of thought. Notice the silence, the stillness, the nothingness. Here, you enter the realm of the unmanifested, pure consciousness, being.

Consider the room you are in right now. The floor, walls, and ceiling define the boundary; but the room is just empty space. It is in the nothingness, in the stillness, in the silence you become aware of your true identity. Your fundamental needs originate from this invisible realm—here where you experience love, where you feel, where you connect with inspiration and intuition.

But don’t try to grasp it or you lose it. The concept of “no thing” cannot be understood by the mind as an object. It must be experienced beyond the mind, by you, the being. Today we consider the nothingness—the only realm that is eternally true because it is the only realm that cannot be threatened, destroyed, or changed. Herein lies your soul, your eternal self, your safety. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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