Do not try to look beyond yourself for truth. Truth is in you. (A Course in Miracles)

Happiness does not come in the form of money or possessions. Knowledge does not come from a university. Health does not come from a doctor. Authority has nothing to do with police or politicians.

Sure, money and possessions can add enjoyment to your life. University can sometimes lead to a better life situation. Access to health care when you need it is sometimes useful. Obeying the law is usually a good idea. Yet none of this has anything to do with truth.

We have become weak by the lessons of this world. The only teachings worth a damn are the kinds that give us permission to ignore all the manipulative voices of control, authority, and normalcy. We spend our lives trying to fit in, caring what people think, not saying what we mean or doing what we want. We sacrifice. We try to be normal. It is a game, and though we appear to get better at it in time, in time we also become more and more lost inside.

To become lost is to forget that you already have everything within. Lost, your fearful mind takes all your energy and all your awareness. Most people have become ill – barely noticing the vibrancy of life right before us in this eternal moment. Awaken to this holy instant where all miracles are already present.

Do not ever doubt what you know to be true. Go to this place every day and live from here. How do you know you are here? Because you feel good, you are inspired, and you know exactly what to do.

In presence, you become a source of love, creativity, beauty and inspiration. This is how you shine your light onto the world. Here total success and total abundance naturally flows from you – though that is never the goal. The goal is only to exist in perfect truth and to not let anyone make you doubt it, hide it, or take it away. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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“Love is not selective, just as the light of the sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God, but the love of ego.” (Eckhart Tolle)

Eckhart continues, “There may be one person who reflects your love back to you more clearly or more intensely than others, and if that person feels the same toward you, it can be said that you are in a love relationship with that person.” Nothing is more wonderful than finding true love. But when rules, demands or expectations enter the relationship, true love will fade. The relationship then becomes needy, dependent, egoic – proven through sacrifice and protected through exclusivity. You will become jealous, depressed, dishonest and you may cling to each other in duty and fear. Unfortunately, this is how most people do relationships.

Even in an addictive, egoic relationship, there may be moments when the mind gives up control and the ego subsides. Perhaps at the start of a relationship, or while witnessing the miracle of childbirth, or perhaps after making up after a terrible fight. Now true communication and oneness once again become possible. But if the ego has not been permanently and consciously removed from the relationship, things will quickly return to normal.

To experience an ongoing love relationship, simply focus on staying present with your partner. It's like an ongoing meditation. If thoughts about the relationship creep in, do not follow them. Let thoughts go. Make no assumptions or judgments. Do not think of past or future.
Thinking is useless in love; because the mind cannot figure out love; because love is of the soul. Love can only be experienced in the absence of thought. So just be open and vulnerable. Be yourself and stay present. Do not respond to the egoic voice in your head or to your partner’s ego. Smile at it with a “could be” or “is that so?” and let it go.

Love is not exclusive. You do not want to possess your partner or to be possessed. But, if you do fall into a true love relationship, you may find that neither of you has much need to stray. By staying present, in the now, it might just last forever. This is letting go – which certainly does not mean that you lose anyone. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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If you are afraid to look, you cannot see. If you are afraid to do, you cannot know.

To put something off or wait for the future is another way of not doing. To call a concept “abstract” or “theoretical” only means that you haven’t tried it.

Doing is knowing.

“Someday” means “never.” “Working on it” or “thinking about it” is another trick the ego plays to ensure its own survival at your expense.

That voice in your head is filled with a continuous stream of seemingly good reasons for not trying something new, not following your passions, not doing what excites you and not living your dreams. But the reasons not to do are always fear-based and always the confused and insane voice of ego.

Doing is knowing.

If something or someone interests you, inspires you, or excites you — then this is the deeper voice of universal intelligence insisting that you must do. To choose fear and paralysis instead is to choose ego — the source of all your problems and suffering.

After all these years, do you still think that the ego will find the way? Do you think that salvation is in the future and safety is found in a fearful present? How much longer until you decide to open your eyes and to awaken?

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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To receive love, simply call it by its proper name.

“In the presence of truth, there are no unbelievers and no sacrifices.” (A Course in Miracles)

Most people detest the word “God”. The word has been abused by so many religions, by so many unhealed healers, that the word has nearly lost all meaning. So each day I write these teachings, I try to eliminate the word “God”. But in doing so, perhaps the full lesson is not being taught.

We said before that love is only possible if we are willing to humble ourselves completely. A few years ago, when I began to study the mandatory course (A Course in Miracles), I had a hard time with its use of the word “God”. Yet, in these texts, I had never recognized such depth of truth. So I suspended disbelief and continued reading.

For me, the simple act of accepting the word “God” in a book was an act of deep humility. After my reluctant acceptance of the word “God”, truth became recognizable because my ego had gone dormant.

Perhaps we should not be afraid to use the word “God”. We might use it as a synonym for Love. Most of us probably agree that God is not the man in the sky. God is the unmanifested realm of nothingness – the void from which we came and to which we return. The energy that flows from God is Love.

If God is love, then love is God. It is the same thing. There is no difference. If you can use the word “love”, but cannot use the word “God”, you do not yet know what love is.

To use the word God is to humble yourself just enough so that Love flows into your life. In other words: to receive love, simply call it by its proper name. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Unconditional acceptance and limitless space for total honesty – can relationships be this simple?

Yes. Relationships are this simple. If you can do this, then you have completely removed ego from the relationship. Now it is a love relationship. Whatever happens now happens in love.

Give unconditional acceptance and limitless space for total honesty. Act as though you have been given the same from your partner. Explain what you are doing and be consistent. Do not negotiate or ask for permission. It is your divine right to live in truth. There's nothing wrong with you. The problem is that you have acted as though there is.

What happens next? Very quickly, you will either grow much closer together in loving bliss or you will calmly separate in love. Either way, now love is present in your life.

Love is the energy of life, but it is an energy that can flow only through relationships that are based on unconditional acceptance and total honesty about everything. Accept everything, hide nothing. Watch how love effortlessly takes care of the rest. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. (Eckhart Tolle)

Addiction is an attempt to escape pain and suffering through something or someone. Rather than dealing with the pain, addiction covers it up.

For a while, it works. But eventually the euphoria wears off and what emerges is an even greater pain.

This is obvious enough when we look at substance abuse, but this is also true with many romantic relationships. A new relationship may seem like the answer to your problems or the end of your suffering.

When the euphoria if a new relationship wears off, the pain reemerges. You then direct it toward your partner for supposedly failing to make you happy. In truth, nothing and no one external can make you happy or can end your suffering — at least not for long. You have been worshipping false idols.

If there is a problem in your life causing pain or suffering, then it must be accepted and dealt with. Look at it directly. Go within. Meditate. Talk about it. Solve it. This cannot be done within the ego’s thought system. All solutions flow from the humility of love and all knowledge flows from the divine.

Now you can enjoy relationships and, if you choose, you may even enjoy some of the things most people get addicted to. Now that peace is your normal state, there is nothing you need to escape from. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Love is the anti-ego

According to the book “Games Ego Plays” by Kevin Fitzmaurice, the ego is like a never-ending board game. This is a role-playing game to determine who’s right. The voice in your head is you and your opponents are everyone else. Your attitude toward your opponent is either suspicious (at best) or vicious (at worst).

To play the game, you shift between six possible positions: victim, defender, jailer, judge, offender, prosecutor. To begin the game, one player must attack and the other must respond defensively. For example, a wife may prosecute a husband by making the accusation “You never play with the children.” At first the husband attempts to defend himself, but she isn’t convinced. Eventually, he may try to take the role of prosecutor and respond, “You won’t let me, you always control everything!” Nice move. Now, if she defends herself, her position collapses until she makes another move. These types of ego games often last a lifetime.

If you can get another player to agree about who the judge is, you may be able to agree on guilt. You might convince the other player to let you play jailor and deal out the punishment. If you do not agree on who the judge is, there are ways to justify your behavior. You might assume the role of offender and feel justified in getting away with something. Or perhaps your best move is to take the role of victim, which justifies all sorts of insanity.

This game sounds like fun, but the problem is that the players don’t know it’s a game. Since they can’t imagine a reality beyond the game, they don’t know how to stop. But there is a way to stop playing.

Love is the anti-ego. In love, you end the game when you stop defending yourself. When attacked, you might calmly respond “is that so?” Refuse to assume any of the six positions. Be humble. Trust people. Be accepting and forgiving. Make yourself vulnerable.

Nobody has ever won anything real by playing the ego board game. It is only a game. Real life is what happens when you stop playing and realize you already had everything before you started playing. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  

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The ego does not know what a real question is. (A Course in Miracles)

Most questions are not real questions. They are framed so that only one right answer is possible. Answer differently and you will be ignored or attacked.

The answers to the following questions are clear and obvious: What is the point of it all? Why do bad things happen to good people? How can I learn to love myself? How can I learn to forgive? Will I ever be able to trust? Why am I overthinking everything? Why am I constantly ill? Why do I keep making the same mistakes?

The ego wants the answer to be “who knows” or “poor you” or “it isn’t fair” or “someday”. Respond to any of these questions with an honest, truthful, simple answer and the ego will either ignore you, attack you, or back away by calling the question “hypothetical”.

These questions are simple and the answers are obvious. But to accept the answer is to live from beyond the ego. This, the ego cannot accept, so the voice in your head tells you to back away. If you still think that voice is you, then you comply. You suffer for a bit longer. Maybe for the rest of your life.

If you really do want to love yourself, to forgive, to trust, to let the past go, to move on, then ask real questions and say yes to the answers. Everything you say you want is yours, but not from within the ego. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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The ego is capable of suspiciousness at best, and viciousness at worst. That is its range. (A Course in Miracles)

Taking the ego seriously is the cause of all your problems. The ego is a thought system. If the full range of this thought system only varies between suspiciousness and viciousness, then where is there any possibility for love? Joy? Peace? Certainty and trust? Freedom?  

You know that voice in your head beating you up all the time, causing problems, making you emotional, fearful, willing to run off or to attack? That’s not you, that’s your ego. It merely disguises itself as you by using your voice. Also, when other people act this way, that’s not them. That’s their ego tricking them. All egos share the same dysfunctional and insane thought system. Love is the anti-ego.

“The ego is particularly likely to attack you when you react lovingly, because it has evaluated you as unloving and you are going against its judgment. The ego will attack your motives as soon as they become clearly out of accord with its perception of you. This is when it will shift abruptly from suspiciousness to viciousness. Yet it is surely pointless to attack in return.”

“You cannot evaluate an insane belief system from within it. Its range precludes this. You can only go beyond it. Look back from a point where sanity exists and see the contrast.”

To attempt to change anything about your life from within the ego is pointless, impossible, and absolutely will not work. If you want anything about you or your life to change, you must be willing to undo the ego. The ego is undone when you become vulnerable, trusting, loving, accepting, open and giving. Now that voice in your head is telling you all the reasons why you can’t do this. Are you going to let it win again? How long do you want this suffering to last?

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The future is what you make of the present.

“Eternity is one time. Its only dimension being always.” -A Course in Miracles

Eternity is the ongoing present moment. Time, which is nothing more than a useful and practical tool for coordinating the dream of life, is based only on the movement of our planet. Time is relative to our experience of life on earth, but ultimately unreal in the universal sense. To understand this changes some things.

To believe in time is to become impatient and scared of the future. We live as though we are limited by the past and we wait for miracles in the future. In time, we isolate ourselves from others and live entirely in our minds. We wait – and by waiting for anything in the future, we make it unattainable. The future is never.

“You cannot perform a miracle for yourself, because miracles are a way of giving acceptance and receiving it. In time, the giving comes first, though they are simultaneous in eternity where they cannot be separated.”

A miracle is what happens when you let the past go and realize that the future is what you make of the present. In the oneness and safety of the eternal now, you become vulnerable and open. You awaken to everything that comes across your field of awareness: the colors, the textures, the sounds, the feelings, the words, the other souls, the smiles. Fall in love with the present moment, which is life.

Now you are humble and the ego is dormant. You are fearless, unafraid to love and to accept others. You give everything in faith and receive everything in gratitude. When you don’t receive, you accept even this. The miracle has already occurred. It is love, which brings enduring beauty, truth, freedom and joy to this eternal now.

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