Posts categorized "Love"

Dealing with fear

You know fear. You also must know that your love for yourself and all beings is not continuously perfect. But perhaps you have also experienced, if only for a moment, the state of perfect love. Surely, fear did not exist there.  

The following quotes were taken from A Course in Miracles:

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“Whenever there is fear, it is because you have not made up your mind. You must somehow have chosen not to love, or the fear could not have arisen.” Fear is, therefore, an emotion that should inspire correction.

“As soon as you accept the remedy, you abolish the fear. This is how true healing occurs.” When you feel fear, find out where you have fallen short of perfect love and correct it.

“There are no idle thoughts. All thinking produces form on some level.” The mind is in a state of continuous creation, but a mind polluted with fear creates that which causes pain and suffering. This is known as miscreation.

“The fearful must miscreate because they misperceive creation.” Creation is the atonement, is life, is a miracle, is consciousness, is joy, is peace, is bliss, is perfect health, is abundance, is perfect love. Miscreations are obstacles to true creation.  

“The fundamental conflict of the world, then, is between creation and miscreation. All fear is implicit in the second, and all love in the first.”

“You do not guard your thoughts carefully enough. Thought and belief combine into a power surge that can literally move mountains.”

Love is always the way. Fear is always your correction. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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How to know if your partner is being honest

 

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If you want honesty in a relationship, offer unconditional acceptance. If your ability to accept is limited, then the ability for the other to tell you the truth will also be limited.

What is more important to you: 1) your rules and boundaries, or 2) honesty and closeness in the relationship? You can’t have it both ways.

By setting rules and expectations, or by attempting to control another person in any way, you are breaking the cycle of honesty and ending all possibility of truth—polluting your closest relationships with illusion and uncertainty.

If you cannot unconditionally accept your partner, spouse, or child, then your love is incomplete. You have no control over them. By attempting to control, you are only making them afraid of you. You cannot take anyone’s free will. But they love you, so they are patient with you and they also lie to you. They do so only to protect you from your own feelings.

If you have created such a web of illusions, the illusions will be exposed. It will feel as though your world is crumbling. You will begin to reject the person who you claim to love—to judge, blame, shame, and punish. You may panic and leave the relationship. None of this would be necessary if you had simply accepted the other from the start. If you have loved the person for who he or she truly is.

You aren’t required to live with a person or to do anything for that person beyond your willingness to give. But you do have to accept. That is the minimum requirement for a relationship of any kind (even your relationship with yourself). Love is acceptance, there is no other way. All love starts with self-love, so you can start by unconditionally accepting yourself. You are perfect, just as you are. Now extend this to your loved ones.

You want complete openness, closeness, trust, eternal love? This is the state of blissful coexistence, but it requires full acceptance without any limits. Be open-minded. Try something new. If it bothers you, talk about how you feel. This is how two souls grow closer. This is love. If you let this process happen naturally, there is no conflict or struggle. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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What is faith?

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“Faith” is one of those words (much like the word “God”) that has been so badly misused it has almost lost all meaning. No word is truth, but language is the best tool we have. When language is used properly, it can point to truth.

There are two basic types of words: “love words” and then the opposite, which are “fear words”. Faith is a love word and it means the same thing as awakening, awareness, consciousness, permanence, or freedom. True faith is a knowing awareness without doubt and an unshakable alignment with unconditional love. You know that you are spirit and not ego. This knowing is unchanging and cannot be threatened by external conditions.

The world tests us. Life is supposed to be hard so that we learn faith. Without faith, others cannot trust you. You cannot be depended upon because you can’t even rely on yourself. You attack, blame, and shame as if you were teaching something. You separate yourself from others and fall into depression. You lie, you cheat, you rationalize as you carelessly harm. These errors, this insanity is considered normal behavior because normal people do not have faith. Faith isn’t an abstract concept; rather, a state that is easily obtained when you escape ego.

When you know who you are in a way that is unchanging, you do not fall back to the errors of ego. You remain at the center of the wheel, calmly and quietly serving others, effortlessly channeling your energy to the expansion of creation. You have let go of fear because you are pure life—a ray of light. Now others can easily put their faith in you, they trust you, you are helpful, you can lead. Faith is success in life. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

Little faith is put in them whose faith is small.

-Tao Te Ching

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How to deal with your nagging inner-voice

Just watch what that voice has to say. You’ll be shocked at what you see.

-The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer

Sometimes you get so frustrated it feels like you don’t know what you’re going to do with yourself. Look a little deeper into this statement and you might ask: who is the “I” and who is the “myself” that I am referring to? Are there two of me? Might one of these entities be the real me?

This realization is a crack in the ego. Now you realize that you are a silent awareness who is able to watch the voice in your head. You are no longer tricked to believe that the voice is you. Michael Singer calls this voice “your roommate”.

Your goal today is simple: try to observe the voice. You might find that it never shuts up. You’ll also find that it probably isn’t very nice. It is quite abusive to you, saying things to you that nobody would dare say out loud. You probably can’t even brush your teeth, take a shower, or make breakfast without the voice saying something nasty. Try not to let it ruin your mood because it isn’t real.

Many people believe that they have not yet awakened because they are unable to completely shut out the voice. I don’t know whether it is possible to completely shut out the voice for long periods of time, as I have not been very successful at this. Instead, I simply observe my ego thoughts. If my voice wants to speak up, I try to be accepting and don’t resist. But I never take my roommate seriously. I merely watch and smile at it.

Can you identify as the observer and not the voice? Have you learned not to let the voice affect your emotions? At a minimum, surely you have learned not to respond to the voice with action. This is wisdom. This is enlightenment. You are already there.

Life is supposed to be hard, but now in your awakened state you have learned not to allow your roommate to cause problems for you. Life is easier than it used to be. Slower, filled with grace, with moments of beautiful presence. Your relationships are loving. You achieve more with less resistance. This is success. This is the way. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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How to heal myself

Nothing can be created from beyond the mind. Illness, disease, and dysfunction arise from the mind and only appear to be of the body because this is the realm where physical observation is possible.

Only the mind can create, because spirit has already been created and the body is a learning device for the mind.

The body is merely a “learning device”, much as the world is also a field for learning. Creation cannot take place in the body, nor can it occur on the level of spirit. Spirit has already been created, whole and perfect. Nothing can threaten spirit and nothing can be added to it. Therefore:

Inducing the mind to give-up its mis-creations is the only application of creative ability that is truly meaningful.

Release the mind from fear to unleash the perfection of spirit. Fear—and any action arising from fear—is error. This is what must be corrected. The opposite of fear is love. Love—and any action arising from love—is the source of all miracles. Healing is therefore not a miracle; rather, it is the result of the miracle which has already occurred. The miracle is a mind absent of fear.

Whenever you are afraid, you are deceived.

Only when you are rid of fear are you are awakened. A mind without fear creates freedom, abundance, beauty and bliss. There are no sinners; only the fearful. Fear is merely an error and it is correctable. When the correction happens, the mind is a wonderful tool of creation. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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The world is about to be awakened.

When we stop believing in the lies, unreality ends. We don’t need to fight nor defend against anything external. We each started as perfect and complete the moment we were born.

I am. You are. We are. All authority comes from within our already perfect and fully-complete selves.

Others falsely claim authority over you and you believe it. We live in a world that manipulates and controls us through punishments, rewards, and an ongoing stream of false promises and terrifying threats. We have learned well to distrust each other and to deny our authority over ourselves. Long ago, we have fallen. For the thousands of years since, humanity has been enslaved—but enslaved by nothing more than lies. Now we look within and we remember who we are.

More people than ever since the dawn of history are awakening. This is the consciousness revolution. Its truth and power comes from within. Truth requires no debate because it is self-evident. Now we have faith—which is nothing other than belief in self.

If something is true, it cannot be threatened or changed. Therefore, nothing can eliminate the truth that is inside your perfect, fully-complete self. Together we will find it and we will live there in faith.

The world is about to be awakened. When we stop believing in the lies, unreality ends. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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How can I find acceptance and inner peace?

Something happens to you. Then the voice in your head judges the event as good or bad. You like it or can’t deal with it. It goes to your head or you seek escape. Your emotions take over and your head begins to spin with insane thoughts.

This is how your ego tricks you into believing that it is real, that the ego is your identity, that you must believe in it and obey it. When something happens that attacks your ego, you then consider it bad. When something boosts the ego, you then consider it good. As a result, your life is a roller-coaster of ups and downs (mostly downs). You believe you will be happy someday, when you have everything you desire. But the ego’s mantra is “seek but do not find.” No ego has ever attained lasting happiness.

By giving your ego control, you are assuring yourself of ongoing suffering and misery—which is only temporarily relieved by moments of escape inevitably bound to collapse. This is what the ego does. To find what you seek, it is necessary to escape the ego entirely. This is the only path toward happiness, true success, abundance, love and inner peace.

Instant and eternal happiness is found in inner freedom from external conditions. This is inner peace. Freedom from external conditions. Whatever happens in the world, whatever happens to you, it doesn’t touch you. You know who you truly are and you cannot be threatened. From this viewpoint, your life flows differently.

Now you accept, then act. Now you have made the present moment your friend and ally, not your enemy. Whatever is happening is happening. It is supposed to be happening because it is happening. You can learn to accept it without judgement or negative thoughts—which lead to fear and ego-dominance.

By escaping the ego, you are untouched and are living in a state of inner peace. Now, you can easily understand the reality of what is happening and react to it. Not because it matters all that much what the outcome is, but because the purpose of your life is to spread love, peace, and consciousness. By responding from this place, this is what you do as effortlessly as breathing. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

It is as it is.

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

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How to learn to open up and learn to trust

“Love is the experience of unity. Love is the ecstasy when the walls between two people crumble down, when two lives meet, when two lives unite.” – Osho

You want perfect love in your life, so allow the possibility of perfect love in your life. Simply drop your barriers to the other. How many couples resent each other, withhold truths from each other, keep thoughts and desires hidden? This is not love, this is life without freedom and it is worse than being alone.

Love is the unguarded unleashing of everything you are, combined with full acceptance of the other. The energy of love flows when two people create a space in which everything is possible and in which everything is accepted.

If you want boundaries in your relationships, then you do not want love. If there is anything about yourself that you are unwilling to share, then you are unwilling to experience the joy and bliss of love. If there is anything about your lover that you cannot accept, then you are saying “no thanks” to his or her love.

If you are afraid to trust, then you value aloneness over love. If you are closed off to the possibility of sex, you are refusing the seed of love and choosing the misery of separation over the bliss that is within reach. You don’t have to do anything with a person unless you are inspired with irresistible passion, but if you want love in your life then you do have to be open to the possibility of acting on passion.

You will not find love because you look hot, have a huge bank account, or drive the perfect car. Projecting image will isolate you. You will become untouchable and, therefore, untouched on the level of the soul. Forget the makeup, put down the sunglasses, smile, say hi to someone, talk about your true feelings and drop the agenda. Give others the space to do the same. Love has now entered your life and it isn’t difficult. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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What is sin?

Darkness cannot exist in the presence of light. Sin cannot exist in the presence of love. Sin is where love is not. Anything done in love is without sin. Furthermore, what some call sin is only error. The error is to act without love.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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How to have more fun

The world has taught you through an endless series of rewards and punishments. You have been domesticated, indoctrinated, trained by those who would attempt to control you for their own agendas. The promise of reward and threat of punishment has taught to pretend and to lie. Now you feel guilty, shameful, and inadequate for even having fun. You tell yourself that you don’t deserve to feel good; that first you should get something done or accomplish something great.

The world has taught its lessons well. That voice in your head sounds like your voice, but its words are only echoes of what you have been taught. See how the rewards promised haven’t made you happy. See how the threats and punishments have scared you, but they have never meant anything. Today you lose faith in fear.

You were born as perfect love, limitless joy, endless peace. Nothing can change this. For a long time, you believed it was lost somewhere in your past. Now you are awakening and rediscovering who you are. The right path is to follow that place inside that wants to feel good and wants to have fun. This is the energy of life guiding you. Trust it.

Your first priority today and every day is to feel good. If you’re tired, go lie down or meditate. If you feel stuck in a routine, do something different. Go for a walk in the woods. Meet someone new. Create something. Play, experiment, tell the truth, sing, dance, have sex, do whatever excites you with anyone who you want to do it with.

We all have work and we all have responsibilities, but the priority is to have fun and feel good. Live from that place and everything you do will be effortless and effective. You may even find the power to inspire others, lead others, and stand out from the crowd.

Today you can let go of the guilt, the shame, the to-do list of things that don’t matter. Forgive yourself and don’t take seriously the opinions of others. You know who you are and you don’t need permission to be it. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

Something inside feels unworthy of having too much fun.

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