Posts categorized "Love"

Darkness is lack of light, as sin is lack of love. (A Course in Miracles)

Darkness cannot exist in the presence of light. Sin cannot exist in the presence of love. Sin is where love is not. Anything done in love is without sin. Furthermore, what some call sin is only error. The error is to act without love.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

By Abscondo

Something inside us feels unworthy of having too much fun. (Don Miguel Ruiz)

The world has taught you through an endless series of rewards and punishments. You have been domesticated, indoctrinated, trained by those who would attempt to control you for their own agendas. The promise of reward and threat of punishment has taught to pretend and to lie. Now you feel guilty, shameful, and inadequate for even having fun. You tell yourself that you don’t deserve to feel good; that first you should get something done or accomplish something great.

The world has taught its lessons well. That voice in your head sounds like your voice, but its words are only echoes of what you have been taught. See how the rewards promised haven’t made you happy. See how the threats and punishments have scared you, but they have never meant anything. Today you lose faith in fear.

You were born as perfect love, limitless joy, endless peace. Nothing can change this. For a long time, you believed it was lost somewhere in your past. Now you are awakening and rediscovering who you are. The right path is to follow that place inside that wants to feel good and wants to have fun. This is the energy of life guiding you. Trust it.

Your first priority today and every day is to feel good. If you’re tired, go lie down or meditate. If you feel stuck in a routine, do something different. Go for a walk in the woods. Meet someone new. Create something. Play, experiment, tell the truth, sing, dance, have sex, do whatever excites you with anyone who you want to do it with.

We all have work and we all have responsibilities, but the priority is to have fun and feel good. Live from that place and everything you do will be effortless and effective. You may even find the power to inspire others, lead others, and stand out from the crowd.

Today you can let go of the guilt, the shame, the to-do list of things that don’t matter. Forgive yourself and don’t take seriously the opinions of others. You know who you are and you don’t need permission to be it. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

Something inside feels unworthy of having too much fun.

By Abscondo

Real love doesn't make you suffer. (Eckhart Tolle)

Seeking love, joy and peace outside of yourself leads one to experience a roller-coaster of up and down emotions. One day, your lover may bring you flowers and do everything right. You feel happy and “in love”. The next day, you find him chatting online with an attractive woman. Now you feel heartbroken, as though your love has never existed. You tell yourself it was all a lie. You begin to distrust and resent your partner. You demand that he does something to restore your love. This is not love.

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That which is real is unchanging. True love is therefore unconditional because it would be impossible for any situation or event to threaten it.

To find this kind of love, you must begin with self-love. Real love can only be found within your being. By allowing your inner-stillness to emerge, you discover your true identity. You recognize that love is not something you seek; rather something you are. You then begin to experience love, joy and peace from the center of the wheel. There are no more good days and bad days. Love emerges as your state of being. It emanates out from you without concern for conditions. You feel good essentially all the time.

Even after you have found this state, your ego may occasionally try to take over. When this happens, you simply return to your meditation and your daily spiritual practice. We continue tomorrow and the day after that.

Real love doesn’t make you suffer. How could it? It doesn’t suddenly turn into hate, nor does real joy turn to pain.

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

Paper art by Zuzana Jurekova.

By Abscondo

All emotion comes from the loss of awareness of who you are beyond name and form.

As Eckhart Tolle points out, “Observing our emotions is as important as observing our thoughts.” The mind can lie to you, but your emotions always tell the truth. Not the truth about who you are of course, just the truth about your present state of being.

Your natural state of being is love, bliss, inspiration, happiness and health. These are not emotions, this is the natural state that arises when you have discovered who you are beyond the ego. Emotions may seem as differentiated as sadness, longing, frustration, anxiety and anger. But if you look deeper, you see that all emotions emanate from the same place. There is only one emotion. While there is no perfect word to describe this core emotion, “fear” or simply “suffering” come close.

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The two basic states of being are love and fear. You fall away from love and into fear when your mind forgets your true identity. You forget that you are spirit, you are soul, you are consciousness, you are essence, you are love. These and many more words all describe the same thing. Whatever you may choose to call it, your true identity exists in the invisible realm where all truth exists. Why is truth invisible? Because only form is visible. Form is matter. Matter changes, and truth cannot change or else it isn’t truth. Therefore, form cannot be truth. Who you truly are is in the nothingness, the unobservable, the non-material.

To become the observer of your mind, the observer of your emotions, the observer of your waking state, observer of your dreams, the observer of this beautiful and often challenging physical realm is to realize that who you truly are is elsewhere. You are not your thoughts, nor your feelings, nor your body, nor your name, nor your car, nor your home, nor your family, nor your bank account, nor your fame or status. There is nothing wrong with enjoying these things, but nothing from the realm of form is going to make you happy for long because it is fleeting. One day it will be gone. Your physical form too will be gone. If you attempt to possess, to cling to what is temporary, you will inevitably experience that one terrible emotion. You will exist in a state of crisis. Your life will be difficult. You will act as an enemy to yourself and others. The gift of life will have been wasted and you will have made a terrible error. It is an error that can be corrected and that is what we are here to do.

We are spirit. We are one. We are all connected. It doesn’t matter how we describe this or what we call it because words mean nothing. They are only pointers to a deeper truth. Look beyond the words to the deeper truth within. Yes, you are a body. Yes, this physical realm of form is real in some sense. But beyond this, what is life itself? What is that invisible consciousness within you? Who is the silent observer within you that has always been there?

We continue tomorrow and the day after that.

By Abscondo

Want to play the Ego Board Game?

A brilliant, yet obscure author called Kevin FitzMaurice recently published a book called Games Ego Plays. By describing the functioning of the ego as a board game, he has revealed a breakthrough new understanding the ego. The book, rather humorously, reads as an instruction manual for a board game. This Ego Board Game is played by individuals, governments, corporations, news services, movements, foundations, institutions, and groups of all types.

The game involves players switching among 6 different roles. You should read the book in its entirety, but for our immediate purposes I will summarize each of the roles that the ego plays (according to Kevin FitzMaurice). It is important to ask yourself whether you do any of these things. If so, you are projecting ego.

Everything that the ego is, and everything it does, is done from the same 6 positions or roles. The 6 positions of the Ego Game Board are as follows:

The egoBoardGame

1: Judge

The Judge decides who is in the Offender position and who belongs in the Victim position. The Judge decides whether to agree with the Defender or Prosecutor. If the Judge identifies a Victim, then he may turn the Victim over to the Jailer for punishment.

The ego reveals its Judge in statements like, “You shouldn’t have done that” or “You are guilty of hurting me”.

2: Jailer

The Jailer position of the Ego-Game Board enforces the consequences or punishments. The Jailer is given permission to jail the Offender whenever all parties agree with the Judge’s verdict. The ego reveals the Jailer in the form of a parent punishing a child for bad behavior, or in a spouse taking away the privacy of another spouse after an offense.

The Jailer’s role is to keep the Offender away from temptation, out of contact with Victims, and ideally provide a path to recovery. Most Jailers, however, aren’t great and can be overly cruel. They may even believe abuse is justified.

3: Prosecutor

Think of how an attorney tries to establish who the Offender is by proving who the Victim is. This is the Prosecutor, who uses language like, “How dare you…” or, “Do you think it is acceptable behavior to…”, or “You always lie to me, drink too much, flirt with people…”.

When a couple argues, it is typically an argument between the Prosecutor and the Defender who are frequently switching roles without ever agreeing on the Judge’s verdict. All form of argument and debate is meant to appeal to the Judge, who decides the winners and losers. But the Judge only has authority if both parties are willing to agree who the Judge is. If they do not agree on the Judge’s verdict, then the argument continues and can go on indefinitely.

It is also interesting to note that roles can be easily switched. The accused may either choose to play the role of Defender or he may switch to the Prosecutor role. Here is an example of a switch in roles,

Woman says: “How dare you get drunk again!”

Man responds: “I only drink because you are constantly yelling at me and shaming me.”

In this way, the man’s “move” on the game board is to try to assume the role of Victim and Prosecutor rather than that of Defender (which is where his wife wanted to put him). If the wife falls for it by defending herself as someone who doesn’t yell or shame, then she has assumed the role of Defender and the man’s move has been successful. If she ignores the accusation of “yelling at and shaming” him, then she maintains her role as Prosecutor and can carry-on being right.

Regardless of what either party does, neither will ever win any real victory. Sure, you can win the game. But it is just a game and has nothing to do with life. True victory can only be found when you stop playing the game and start living in Love.

4: Defender

To avoid ego games, don’t assume the role of Defender. FitzMaurice, in his work as a professional counselor, has routinely advised clients that, “In most circumstances it was not a good idea to defend, explain, or make excuses for their actions, because this would only initiate or continue a game.”

If you are attacked by a Prosecutor and refuse to play the Defender, then you are refusing to allow the Prosecutor the position being sought. Even when you are attacked, you can simply see that someone is trying to start an ego game with you. Respond to their pain, but do not start the game by attempting to defend yourself.

5: Offender

According to FitzMaurice, the Offender is the “mean, guilty person who has hurt some poor, helpless victim.” A great Offender attempts to turn the Victim into the Offender (see example of drunk man, above).

In the film American Beauty, Kevin Spacey’s character provides a great example of an Offender. In response to his wife assuming the roles of Jailer, Judge, Prosecutor, and Victim, he decides to stage a rebellion. He feels that his selfish, offending actions are justified because he sees himself as the Victim and is fed-up. The freedom he claims is not the freedom of Love; rather, the freedom to be an uncaring Offender.

Offensive behavior such as alcoholism, drug abuse, physical abuse, or cheating on a spouse is always the result of the Offender role. If you are living within the realm of the ego, you might believe that the offensive behavior is your path toward freedom. While you may achieve a certain degree of freedom, you will also cause a great deal of destruction.

As an Offender, you might believe that your actions are justified by the unfairness of your situation. The pleasure you get as an Offender is an intense form of ego-gratification—physical pleasure combined with the belief that your sin is justified.

6: Victim

The Victim is the person who uses a wrong as an excuse. The Victim acts helpless, weak, and hurt. A person stuck in the Victim role often chooses this identity for life. While a strong person may attempt to let go of the Victim role, a lazy or weak person seeks pleasure by attempting to get sympathy from friends and family and to generally be let off-the-hook. The problem is that, as with any of the roles, the pain and suffering will continue while you remain within the boundaries of the ego.

The ego game is a win-lose proposition. The winning positions are the Judge, Jailer and Prosecutor because they can assume “rightness”. The losing positions are Defender, Offender, and Victim because they are assumed to be either guilty or abused. In truth, the game does not produce a winner or loser because, for most people, the game never stops. It just draws you in further and eventually makes you crazy.

Interestingly, the ego game takes place between people but it also takes place as that voice inside our own monkey-minds. We have become so indoctrinated in the ways of the ego that the voice in our heads knows how to play all these roles. Most of us have become experts at turning this game against ourselves even when we don’t have anyone to play with.

This internal ego game is perhaps even more destructive than the ego games we play with others. The internal ego game is on-going, exhausting, and depressing. There can be no true happiness or fulfillment within the Ego-Game Board because there is no love. There is no heart, no soul, no empathy, no freedom, no justice, no giving, and no forgiveness. This ego game is often mistakenly referred to as “the real world” by miserable people. In truth, it is a game. There is nothing real about it.

For thousands of years, humans have been exploited and controlled in a grand ego game. From the youngest ages, we are conditioned to the ways of the ego by our schools, then in the workplace, also through our legal system, in church, in our appropriate-minded social interactions, and throughout every other part of society.

The ego game is so pervasive that it seems real—it seems like truth. I am here to tell you that it is all a lie. Love is truth and the ego is a lie. I have discovered the way to live outside of the ego. I have found that this is the only path toward happiness, fulfillment, success, bliss, and goodness. Love is the way. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

“Ego is about the roller-coaster ride of pride and shame or superiority and inferiority. Ego keeps you in a relationship with others' images rather than in a relationship with other human beings.”

Games Ego Plays by Kevin FitzMaurice

By Abscondo

Have you ever fallen into a moment of wonder? (Deepak Chopra)

You've already experienced many moments of transformation. Imagine a moment you had that was filled with pure beauty and inspiration. The secret is that it is possible to live there.

Transformation is the letting go of emotions like fear, anger, hatred, jealousy and pain so that they can be replaced with emotions of love, passion, peace and inspiration.

As Deepak Chopra writes, “If it weren’t for the enormous effort we put into denial, repression and doubt, life would be a constant revelation.” Awakening is simply the letting go of those habits which prevent the truth of who you are to come to the surface. The requirements are simple and easy: 1) the belief that transformation is possible and desirable, and 2) a daily practice of meditation and reading that requires only minimal time and effort.

Read or listen to The Book of Secrets: Unlocking the Hidden Dimensions of Your Life by Deepak Chopra

More quotes from the book:

As proud children of science and reason, we have made ourselves the orphan of wisdom.

You are a book of secrets waiting to be opened.

Today, notice the beauty around you for just a moment. We continue tomorrow, and each day after that.

Deepak

By Abscondo

This works better than Adderall & Ritalin

Users of Adderall and Ritalin claim that the drug takes them to a focused, Zen-like state. High-performers are tempted to use the drug to get an edge over the competition. But there is something that works even better to take you to that Zen-like state. This is the pure stuff. It is called Zen.

This works better than adderall  Ritalin

Not only does Zen come without side-effects, it offers the following benefits over both drugs and placebo:

  • The perfect combination of never-ending calmness, focus, and energy.
  • Improved ability to love others—which may cause increased health, happiness, and abundance.
  • Your work is focused only on what matters and problems get solved without effort. You are effortlessly able to channel a higher intelligence than your own.
  • Improved relationships with other people. Zero conflict and an endless state of calm.
  • Plenty of free time because your focus is effortless shifted to what matters most.
  • No burn-out, no sleepless nights, no fear, no coming down.

If you think this is an exaggeration, try it for yourself. It works on adults and kids too. When you begin to meditate, you will find that you can get more done when in a calm state. By remaining at the center of the wheel, you can solve problems because you aren’t afraid of your problems. Basically, you stop doing those stupid, emotional things that undermine your relationships and cause problems in your life.

Zen is just another word for transformation, enlightenment, salvation, consciousness, or awakening. As is written in the Tao Te Ching, “There are names but not nature in words.” In other words, there are different names for the same thing.

It doesn’t matter what you call it, but true Zen can’t be found in a drug or in therapy. It requires meditation, not medication. It doesn’t matter what kind of meditation you do—it can even be guided meditation (those recordings of a calm voice guiding you through it). Give meditation a few weeks. At first, you won’t know if it is working and you may not notice any changes. But, in time, your whole state of being changes—especially when combined with a daily learning practice. We will continue tomorrow and in the days after that.

Be still while you work

And keep full control

Over all.

-Tao Te Ching, Lao Tsu

Image taken from the Netflix documentary that inspired this post called “Take Your Pills”

By Abscondo

Everything that comes from love is a miracle. (A Course in Miracles)

To imagine a loveless miracle is to misunderstand both miracles and love.

What do you imagine when you think of miracles? Perhaps physical healing? The miracle of life? Winning the lottery?

It would be impossible for a person to heal while in a state of fear. Love is the opposite of fear, the antidote to all suffering and the source of all healing. Child birth is only a miracle if the child is brought into a world where love and beauty is possible. And if a great fortune is given to a person who does not know self-love, that fortune will likely only fund self-destructive behavior and lead to misery.

Love is the source of all miracles, or as A Course in Miracles beautifully states:

The real miracle is the love that inspires them. Miracles are everyone’s right, but purification is necessary first.

Purification is the escape the ego. That is what we are learning here. We continue tomorrow.

Everything that comes from love is a miracle. A course in Miracles : Combined Volume

Paper art by Zuzana Jurekova

6. Love

By Abscondo

Doing is knowing. (Osho)

The purpose of existing as a human being on this planet is to know through doing. By doing, we acquire knowledge. A person who has not experienced something simply does not know what that thing is.

If something excites you, do it. If there is something you think about all the time—something that intrigues you or even scares you—then that is something you must start doing now. Are you afraid? Fear prevents you from living fully by stopping you from doing.

Do you want to know what love is? Fall in love. Do you want to know what it feels like to perform on stage? Do it. Do you have some big idea that might change the world? Get started and do not look back. You may not succeed, but what matters is that you will come away with the knowledge of what that thing is (and is not).

Reading about something is not enough. Talking about, debating, and writing about something brings you no further to true knowledge. Do, become, experience whatever it is that excites you. 

Doing is knowing.

The Book of Secrets: 112 Meditations to Discover the Mystery Within by Osho

More quotes from the book:

Only a blind man can easily describe the light.

The moment you enter love, you enter a different person. That is called rebirth.

DoingIsKnowing

By Abscondo