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To receive love, simply call it by its proper name.

“In the presence of truth, there are no unbelievers and no sacrifices.” (A Course in Miracles)

Most people detest the word “God”. The word has been abused by so many religions, by so many unhealed healers, that the word has nearly lost all meaning. So each day I write these teachings, I try to eliminate the word “God”. But in doing so, perhaps the full lesson is not being taught.

We said before that love is only possible if we are willing to humble ourselves completely. A few years ago, when I began to study the mandatory course (A Course in Miracles), I had a hard time with its use of the word “God”. Yet, in these texts, I had never recognized such depth of truth. So I suspended disbelief and continued reading.

For me, the simple act of accepting the word “God” in a book was an act of deep humility. After my reluctant acceptance of the word “God”, truth became recognizable because my ego had gone dormant.

Perhaps we should not be afraid to use the word “God”. We might use it as a synonym for Love. Most of us probably agree that God is not the man in the sky. God is the unmanifested realm of nothingness – the void from which we came and to which we return. The energy that flows from God is Love.

If God is love, then love is God. It is the same thing. There is no difference. If you can use the word “love”, but cannot use the word “God”, you do not yet know what love is.

To use the word God is to humble yourself just enough so that Love flows into your life. In other words: to receive love, simply call it by its proper name. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Unconditional acceptance and limitless space for total honesty – can relationships be this simple?

Yes. Relationships are this simple. If you can do this, then you have completely removed ego from the relationship. Now it is a love relationship. Whatever happens now happens in love.

Give unconditional acceptance and limitless space for total honesty. Act as though you have been given the same from your partner. Explain what you are doing and be consistent. Do not negotiate or ask for permission. It is your divine right to live in truth. There's nothing wrong with you. The problem is that you have acted as though there is.

What happens next? Very quickly, you will either grow much closer together in loving bliss or you will calmly separate in love. Either way, now love is present in your life.

Love is the energy of life, but it is an energy that can flow only through relationships that are based on unconditional acceptance and total honesty about everything. Accept everything, hide nothing. Watch how love effortlessly takes care of the rest. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Love is the anti-ego

According to the book “Games Ego Plays” by Kevin Fitzmaurice, the ego is like a never-ending board game. This is a role-playing game to determine who’s right. The voice in your head is you and your opponents are everyone else. Your attitude toward your opponent is either suspicious (at best) or vicious (at worst).

To play the game, you shift between six possible positions: victim, defender, jailer, judge, offender, prosecutor. To begin the game, one player must attack and the other must respond defensively. For example, a wife may prosecute a husband by making the accusation “You never play with the children.” At first the husband attempts to defend himself, but she isn’t convinced. Eventually, he may try to take the role of prosecutor and respond, “You won’t let me, you always control everything!” Nice move. Now, if she defends herself, her position collapses until she makes another move. These types of ego games often last a lifetime.

If you can get another player to agree about who the judge is, you may be able to agree on guilt. You might convince the other player to let you play jailor and deal out the punishment. If you do not agree on who the judge is, there are ways to justify your behavior. You might assume the role of offender and feel justified in getting away with something. Or perhaps your best move is to take the role of victim, which justifies all sorts of insanity.

This game sounds like fun, but the problem is that the players don’t know it’s a game. Since they can’t imagine a reality beyond the game, they don’t know how to stop. But there is a way to stop playing.

Love is the anti-ego. In love, you end the game when you stop defending yourself. When attacked, you might calmly respond “is that so?” Refuse to assume any of the six positions. Be humble. Trust people. Be accepting and forgiving. Make yourself vulnerable.

Nobody has ever won anything real by playing the ego board game. It is only a game. Real life is what happens when you stop playing and realize you already had everything before you started playing. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  

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The ego is capable of suspiciousness at best, and viciousness at worst. That is its range. (A Course in Miracles)

Taking the ego seriously is the cause of all your problems. The ego is a thought system. If the full range of this thought system only varies between suspiciousness and viciousness, then where is there any possibility for love? Joy? Peace? Certainty and trust? Freedom?  

You know that voice in your head beating you up all the time, causing problems, making you emotional, fearful, willing to run off or to attack? That’s not you, that’s your ego. It merely disguises itself as you by using your voice. Also, when other people act this way, that’s not them. That’s their ego tricking them. All egos share the same dysfunctional and insane thought system. Love is the anti-ego.

“The ego is particularly likely to attack you when you react lovingly, because it has evaluated you as unloving and you are going against its judgment. The ego will attack your motives as soon as they become clearly out of accord with its perception of you. This is when it will shift abruptly from suspiciousness to viciousness. Yet it is surely pointless to attack in return.”

“You cannot evaluate an insane belief system from within it. Its range precludes this. You can only go beyond it. Look back from a point where sanity exists and see the contrast.”

To attempt to change anything about your life from within the ego is pointless, impossible, and absolutely will not work. If you want anything about you or your life to change, you must be willing to undo the ego. The ego is undone when you become vulnerable, trusting, loving, accepting, open and giving. Now that voice in your head is telling you all the reasons why you can’t do this. Are you going to let it win again? How long do you want this suffering to last?

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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The future is what you make of the present.

“Eternity is one time. Its only dimension being always.” -A Course in Miracles

Eternity is the ongoing present moment. Time, which is nothing more than a useful and practical tool for coordinating the dream of life, is based only on the movement of our planet. Time is relative to our experience of life on earth, but ultimately unreal in the universal sense. To understand this changes some things.

To believe in time is to become impatient and scared of the future. We live as though we are limited by the past and we wait for miracles in the future. In time, we isolate ourselves from others and live entirely in our minds. We wait – and by waiting for anything in the future, we make it unattainable. The future is never.

“You cannot perform a miracle for yourself, because miracles are a way of giving acceptance and receiving it. In time, the giving comes first, though they are simultaneous in eternity where they cannot be separated.”

A miracle is what happens when you let the past go and realize that the future is what you make of the present. In the oneness and safety of the eternal now, you become vulnerable and open. You awaken to everything that comes across your field of awareness: the colors, the textures, the sounds, the feelings, the words, the other souls, the smiles. Fall in love with the present moment, which is life.

Now you are humble and the ego is dormant. You are fearless, unafraid to love and to accept others. You give everything in faith and receive everything in gratitude. When you don’t receive, you accept even this. The miracle has already occurred. It is love, which brings enduring beauty, truth, freedom and joy to this eternal now.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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It may seem trivial to look at life from a more philosophical perspective. But without clarity and understanding, life is impossible.

You are awakening, which is the most beautiful thing that can happen to any of us. It is the ultimate purpose of our time here on earth in this physical form. You are seeing that it is all really just a dream.

The difference between waking dream and sleeping dreams is that, in sleep, your mind controls everything. Awake, life is a dream that is shared between many minds.

Life is a temporary dream. We escape the waking dream each night when we sleep. We end the dream when we die.

The way we perceive with these senses is unreal in an ultimate sense. It is relative. Only humans experience this particular dream. Other life forms experience the dream of life based upon how their senses work.

Ultimately, you are not the dream. You are the observer of the dream. Consciousness. Which is the same thing as God. Which is what you are. A mind in service of truth, consciousness, is free and perfect. A mind that does not yet know this is lost, suffering terribly.

If you don’t know or agree yet, you will. Faith is allowing yourself to get there. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Reality is safety. (A Course in Miracles)

You cannot remain safe and secure by protecting yourself from reality. But what do we mean by “reality”?

When you come back from vacation, you often say “back to reality.” But the crazy life we come back to is probably less real than the reality of lying in the sun on the beach in stillness. When we think of reality, we imagine the opposite of safety – something harsh, challenging, dangerous. That’s why we try to protect our children from reality. But what we call “reality” is not reality.

Everything in this world is upside-down. When we say something is “unreal”, we mean that it is somehow supreme or even better than reality. Yet when we think of reality, we imagine the harshest, most extreme conditions, the worst politicians, the wars, the hardship and despair. Yes, this is all happening in the physical world, but it is all a miscreation of the collective ego. Let’s call it “insanity”, not “reality”.

We cling to illusion because we call insanity reality. Reality, itself, is eternal peace and joy – nothing to be afraid of. By misusing the word as a synonym for “insanity”, we become afraid. So we attempt to construct an artificial world that is safe. But nothing real can be found in darkness; only in the light of truth.

Reality, by definition, must be forever true and unchanging. True love is, therefore, reality. The ways in which every human being is the same, every life form is the same – that’s reality. Oneness, consciousness, spirit – this is reality.

We embrace reality each day as we meditate, as we read spiritual teachings, as we align with the healing power of nature, and as we connect with each other in love. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  

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Reality cannot threaten anything but illusions. (A Course in Miracles)

The process of awakening requires no sacrifice. “The only source of fear in this process is what you think you will lose.” – A Course in Miracles

Spirit will never ask you to sacrifice anything. It will, however, expose your illusions. To awaken is to open your eyes. What is real will be in your field of vision. What was imagined will vanish in an instant.

Awakening as the still observer of the mind will fundamentally change your life. Dysfunction and suffering will be repelled from you. Sometimes this takes the form of losing contact with a friend or family member. Even a spouse may choose to leave you. If you do experience loss after awakening, it is only the necessary loss of illusion.

Now you are a perfect expression of love and acceptance. You have also claimed your freedom to be. Those around you, who may remain in the egoic state, will not like how you have changed. Their ego is not getting what it wants. It may be shocking for you to discover that, after all, you were not loved for who you are; rather, kept around merely to play your role and to serve your purpose.

When illusion is exposed, nothing can be lost but what was unreal and messed-up all along. Only the truth remains. True love endures. The value you create and the way you serve other people continue to be honored and valued. The beautiful being that you are will finally be accepted and appreciated – but only by those who are also awakening.

Your job is not to shut people out, not to cut people off as you awaken; rather, to be perfect love and then accept whatever happens. If some adjustments to your life situation need to be made, then those adjustments are inevitable and necessary. You won’t have to do anything, just let it happen. After these challenges, you will become free to fulfill the purpose of your life as you exist in perfect love, peace, freedom and abundance.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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The world teaches the opposite of truth.

If you want to know the truth about something, know that it is always the opposite of what so-called authority tells us it is.

Success is not the result of a good education.

Reducing fat and calorie intake will not lead to weight loss.
The health care system will not heal you and will only make you ill.

The news media presents the opposite of what’s really going on and it’s irrelevant to your life anyway.

Love is the opposite of what we are shown in the movies.

God is the opposite of what we are told about in Church.

Sex is the opposite of what it looks like in porn.

Music is the opposite of what we hear on the radio.

Beauty is the opposite of what we are shown in the beauty magazines.

History is the opposite of the version we are taught in school.

Wealth is the opposite of the advice given to us by the banks.

Science is the opposite of truth.

The truth is within you. Find it, trust it, and share it. This is the shift to decentralization. This consciousness revolution is about people claiming truth, coming alive, connecting together, and living in honesty and acceptance. You are allowed to ignore the self-serving, manipulative and lying voices of authority. You can live in loving truth without fear — but only after escaping the ego.

We continue toward freedom tomorrow and each day after that.

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You cannot love your partner one moment and attack the next.

If your relationship has frequent ups and downs, it is likely that you and your partner are suffering from dependency. True love is free from attack or argument and absent of blame, judgment, and guilt. Love does not struggle and knows no right or wrong.

All throughout life, the ego attempts to make itself real within us by clinging to external sense of identity. The ego’s urge is to finally be happy and complete through the identification with status, accomplishments, or possessions. It wants to be respected, listened to, and cared about. This never quite works. There is a hole in your soul, which you believe can be filled by finding your soul mate.

Then you meet someone and fall in love. Now there is a new center to your universe. For a time, you think you’ve found it – the key to permanent happiness. The problem is that your sense of identity is still external; dependent upon another person. To make it real, you need that person to behave according to your rules. You also need to project an image out to the world as the perfect couple or family. This never quite works either.

In private, you frequently fight as though you are the worst of enemies. You make up, feel better, forgive a bit, then attempt to move on. But it keeps happening again and again. The world sees a perfect couple, but the hole inside remains.

There is no peace or happiness to be found in external form of any kind. Love, peace, and joy are only to be found within. Become dependent upon form and you will continue to suffer. It may seem to work for a while, but it cannot last.

True love can exist in a romantic relationship, but it as rare as two enlightened people. The good news is that there are more of us every day. So we continue tomorrow and each day after that.      

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