Posts categorized "Inspirational"

A choice to be free

There is one thing holding you back from freedom, and it is fear. More accurately, it is the belief that fear is justified.

You believe that you must conform to the demands of others. You think it inevitable that you are dependent upon a husband, a wife, a life partner, or a parent. You believe that to claim your freedom is to become vulnerable...to risk being left on your own, desperate, helpless, and lacking. This is the message of the world, and it is untrue. 

Freedom is the discovery of your true identity and a knowing of your invulnerability. I'm not talking about faith in your invulnerability; rather, a knowing that you are love, you are perfect, you already are everything and you already have everything. Freedom, therefore, requires a conscious awakening, an alignment with that which is real, a detachment from that which is material form and; thus, impermanent and unstable.

You are connected with people who say they love you or care about you...and, in return, they feel justified in controlling you. That isn't love or caring, it is slavery.

There is nothing wrong with you. You are already perfect. You are free to be what you are and to do what you want. The universe has already given you permission to exist in perfect peace and harmony, alone or with anyone you choose to be with, doing or saying whatever comes natural. If someone who you love is jealous or controlling, that is his ego and it is his problem. It is your job to teach him how to cure that jealousy, how to not become overwhelmed by it. If you continue to fear and respect his ego, you make his jealousy real. You enable him to suffer further. But if you love him, then lovingly tell him that you are free...just as he is...and then show him what love is.

Do not let a school tell you that you must get good grades or you will not have a successful life. Do not identity with a job or profession. You want to be successful, and a successful life requires a knowing of your true identity. Do not fear the loss of a friendship or a relationship. If you believe that you need someone else...that means you do not know your true identity. You do not believe in what you are and, therefore, have given away your freedom as though it is worth nothing. In truth, it is worth everything..

Without freedom, your life will never be successful. The universe cannot channel its abundance through you if you allow the egos around you to block the light. You cannot respond to your intuition if you hide it and allow others to attack it. You cannot find peace, love, or health if what you serve is ego. Your true nature is freedom, and this knowledge alone is powerful enough to destroy ego.

Only when you slip outside of ego, you can become free. Only in freedom can you begin to love. Now you will stop sneaking around, stop lying, stop fantasizing, and stop cheating. If you think dishonesty is a form of sensitivity, nothing could be further from the truth. You are, instead, serving an illusion that perpetuates ego-based ignorance and cruelty.

Claim your freedom and let go of all shame and guilt. Your life will be filled with energy. This energy, this love, is life's creative energy. It will flow from you to your partner, to your spouse, to your children, to your dog, and to everyone you come into contact with. Far from lacking; you have just become the source of abundance (rather than a shameful coward waiting for breadcrumbs to drop from the table). 

That fear you believe is real...it isn't real. That fear is the tool of those who are trying to control you. A slave cannot be slightly more free. If you allow yourself to be a little bit of a slave, then you are a slave. Freedom is honesty, it is a knowing of what you truly are, an awareness that there is nothing wrong with you. Be love. You are not your thoughts, you are the observer of thoughts. In life and even in death, your soul is eternal and invulnerable. This knowing is freedom.

Claim your freedom now, and refuse to slip back into fear. This requires a daily spiritual practice and meditation. Try it, and you will find out that there is nothing to fear.

Fear


Straight people also need to come out of the closet!

I was watching Queer Eye on Netflix last night (episode 4 To Gay or Not Too Gay) and realized...we need a way for straight people to come out of the closet too!

Coming out isn't just about sex or sexuality. Maybe it isn't even about being gay.  Coming out is about being brave enough to be who you truly are.  It's about not caring what people think.  Coming out is about saying, "Hey Mom, hey Dad, this is who I am...I'm just gonna be me from now on...I'm gonna do things my way...I would like you to please try to accept me for who I am." 

Coming out is about claiming freedom from the expectations of others. It is about designing your own life, doing things your way, loving who you want to love, following your own career path, maybe dropping out of college or going on a trip around the world, maybe choosing minimalism, exploring spirituality, alternative lifestyles, being who you truly and authentically are. How tragic it is that this most important ritual is only something homosexuals get to do!

Fuck that. It's time for everyone to come out of the closet. It's time to break from from social expectations, sexual norms, traditional male/female roles...it's time for you to be flamboyantly you

Come out to the world. Stop living according to the expectations of others and start being true to your own intuition. What do you really think about monogamy? How do you feel about marriage? Parenting roles and expectations? Gender roles? Professional stereotypes? Cultural traditions? Political issues? Social issues? Why not openly state your truth and then begin to live it? Why not find your authentic voice, even if your friends and family don't get it?

If you continue living according to the expectations of others, that isn't freedom. Are you obeying the rules of your parents, or worse yet your husband or wife? Fuck that. Be true to who you are an what you know is true. Let the world adjust to fit you. Maybe you are afraid to express yourself creatively? Fuck that. Maybe you are tired of dressing a certain way, talking a certain way, making the same bullshit small-talk? Let it go.

Come out. Be proud. Be you. This is the most important of life's rituals, and it isn't something that should be reserved only for homosexuals. Now is the time for you to come out and be flamboyantly you. 

Here's my coming out: I'm openly spiritual. I believe that love is unconditional or it isn't love. I'm polyamorous and think monogamy for life is a terrible idea. I will not be limited by the guilt and shame put on me by others. I truly do not care about judgments or opinions. I believe the universe is abundant and there's no reason to fear. I'm bored to death by small-talk and refuse to engage. I believe that it is possible to completely escape ego. I will write and sing what I want to and do business the way I want to. I will live where I want to live and be myself no matter what. I will love completely and love for life. I will parent according to my deepest human truths. That's a start.

Actually, I have come out of the closet many times over the years...and each time I have faced exactly what a homosexual might face. I've lost people for sure...but that is exactly what needed to happen for me to move forward.

We all need to come out because it is the only way to be free...the only way to be you.

Queer eye


How to change your future

What do we mean when we say we "have a future" with someone?  Similarly, what are we dreaming about when we imagine a different or better future?

What we perceive as a new future is really nothing other than a new union--a new coming together of two souls.  That's why, when you meet a new romantic partner, you perceive a future together.  What you are actually perceiving, instead, is union in the present moment.  Similarly, when you get a new job, find a new business partner or customer--you feel as though you have a bright future.  This actually has nothing to do with the future at all; rather, has everything to do with the union you have created with a new person in the now.

No better or different future can be found by remaining in a state of isolation or separation.  Consider, for a moment, that the future you seek is actually to be found in the present-moment relationship you need.  Stop planning for the future and start learning to connect with others in the now.  Learn to connect with yourself, then open yourself to others in the present moment (which is all that exists and ever has existed).

There is nothing in the world more precious or powerful than two souls coming together harmoniously in union.


Do you recognize yourself in me?

Do you recognize yourself in me? I know that I am the same as you, at least in all the ways that matter.

You and I both want to feel good. We want love. We want to be free. We want to feel safe and protected. We want perfect health. Financial abundance. We want our lives to be meaningful. We want to feel desired and appreciated. We want to be understood. Is any of this not true?

We want to experience pleasure and beauty. We want to laugh. We want adventure. We want new experiences. We want to stop feeling tired. We want to stop worrying and to stop feeling guilt and shame. We want to sleep well at night. We want to wake up excited about the new day.

Everything mentioned so far is not only true about you but, beyond this, these are the most important things to you. So how can it be that you identify as different, separate, and isolated from others? If every human being wants these same things, then how can you not see yourself in me and be willing to easily connect with me?

If you dwell on the ways in which you are different, then you are identifying with those things which do not matter. By focusing on what does not matter, the things you truly want will never become your reality. You will resist, attack, and war with others on a superficial level that does not matter. Therefore, your true needs will never be met. You will continue only to want. That which is most important to you will never become your reality.

To want is not to get; rather, only to embrace a state of wanting. The most important shift that can occur in your life is the shift from “I want” to “I am”. Stop wanting to feel good, to experience love, to be free and, instead, change your thoughts to become health, freedom, inspiration, and love.

I am Final (transparent)

To focus on the ways in which we are different is to focus on that which does not matter. You don’t like the way I look? You don’t like my voice, my nationality, my gender, my political opinions, my profession, my sexuality, my fashion, my taste in music? So what? None of those things matter. It seems kind of silly to allow that which doesn’t matter to get in the way of what does. Let's just go straight to what does matter and live there.

Everything you truly want is here for you, now, in this present moment. Try it out by connecting with me on the basis of our commonality. 


World's best floatation tank therapy

If you would like to find peace with yourself while growing closer to God, come to Croatia. The water here is salty enough, and calm enough, that you can float on your back without any effort. Find a quiet part of the sea, swim out as far as you like, close your eyes and float for as long as you can. Feel yourself connecting with the coolness of the water, with the warmth of the blazing sun. After some time, you lose not just your balance--you lose any connection to time and space. You feel as if you are suspended, slowly spinning around. Now, open your eyes and realize that you are exactly where you were before, safe and sound. Feel your senses become more alert. See, hear, touch, and smell with uncommon clarity. 

Away from all that is artificial, one's thoughts naturally orient around what is real.  And just what is real? The water, the sun, the rocks, the trees, the crickets, the waves, the infinite details in between. Your thoughts become not so much thoughts, as observations. You are aligned with your source. Now read a little (but not too much), write a little (just until you feel tired of it), listen to some music (paying attention to every sound), engage in deep conversations about nothing, sleep, repeat.