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Whenever you are with a brother, you are learning what you are because you are teaching what you are. (A Course in Miracles)

“He will respond either with pain, or with joy, depending upon which teacher you are following. He will be imprisoned or released according to your decision, and so will you. Never forget your responsibility to him, because it is your responsibility to yourself. The Kingdom cannot be found alone.”

Some people seek inner peace by labeling others as narcissists and sociopaths—then creating boundaries, attempting to rid themselves of what they call “toxic relationships”. Any time we judge or condemn a brother or sister using such labels, we are serving the ego and its belief in separation.

What are you teaching? That narcissistic and sociopathic behavior is real, that the other is condemned, wrong, flawed, sinful, hopeless? This is belief in separation, not the path to inner peace. Here you seek but do not find.

Happiness is not found in isolation and separation. This is the path toward loneliness and lack. If you desire abundance and freedom, respond your brothers and sisters in spirit. Learn to communicate, and to teach, on the level of feelings and needs.

Marshall Rosenberg says, “Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.” Or as stated in the Tao Te Ching, “What is a bad man but a good man’s student? What is a good man but a bad man’s teacher?”

To teach is to look past the error and to communicate on the level of the unmet need. Healing and growth is possible, but only if we learn to respond to each other like this: “I can see that you’re feeling angry. Is it because you have a need for more freedom, or more love, or more safety? I’d like to understand you better. Would you like to talk about this?”

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Break free

The word “freedom” scares some people, just like the word “God” turns off others. In truth, freedom means the same thing as consciousness, presence, enlightenment, and God. Freedom without atonement (another word), without inner peace, without awareness of your true self is impossible and means nothing. Today we look past the word and look more deeply at freedom.

If you are in a job where you are forced to be in a specific environment—where you must behave in a way that is inauthentic for 40 hours a week or more—it will be very difficult for you to experience a spiritual awakening. You need to be free to feel good, to meditate, to exercise, to go for a walk, to chase an idea, to start a new venture, to meet someone for a conversation, to read, write, or play music.

If you depend upon one employer for your income, you are not free. You are placing your faith not in your ability to create value through service and creation, not in the abundance of the universe that is possible if you are aligned with love, not in spirit, nor in yourself, nor in God. You have chosen to seek safety and protection from an employer, and for this you have sacrificed a great deal. This is a house without a foundation. Companies fail, they get acquired, and your job might be outsourced or automated. Your freedom is worth too much to exchange for this false sense of safety.

Work is always necessary, but the goal and purpose of work is maximum income in minimum time. Work is not about sitting in an office pretending, living in fear of losing your job. Employment is beneficial and useful for a time to help us gain skills. Beyond that, it becomes crippling. Peace, joy and happiness through enlightenment requires freedom.

You can take the first step toward breaking free by reading the “4-Hour Workweek” by Tim Ferriss. Learn to produce value in the way that you choose to, for the reasons you understand. Learn to serve many companies and many people. Earn income from multiple sources. The source of value and abundance in your life is the love within you. Love is giving, serving, creating. Learn to channel it wisely and earn maximum income.

Most of us find ourselves in a relationship or a job in which we are not entirely free. This is an essential part of life experience and a wonderful opportunity for growth. You can still find peace and joy by going to the present moment. But ultimately, we all dream of more—total abundance and the freedom to live in alignment with truth. This is what we are learning. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Rest does not come from sleeping, but from waking. (A Course in Miracles).

“The world is very tired because it is the idea of weariness.” The idea of the world is that our purpose is to sacrifice, to tolerate maximum suffering and discomfort because of rewards and punishments.

Schools keep little children in frustrated obedience for too long. Employers keep us at work even longer and pay us as little as possible. Governments make strict laws and tax us to the highest level we can stand. Relationships and marriages come with too many demands and expectations in return for too little bliss. We are asked to sacrifice, always sacrifice, and we have come to believe in this manipulation, this theft of our lives. We even call this “the real world”.

All this sacrifice is making us so tired that sleep doesn’t even help. We live for weekends or brief holidays and, just as the dark clouds part and any inspiration appears, we are sent back into the sacrifice. In a way this is done to us, in a way we do it to ourselves. Fuck this.

Tolerance for sacrifice is not the purpose of your life. Furthermore, you will never reach happiness through sacrifice (only more sacrifice). The only way to break free from this dreadful cycle is to remember your spiritual identity and simply begin to live in truth.

You are spirit, not the voice in your mind. Your first priority is to feel good now, not in the past or future. Love is everything, and through love comes perfect knowledge, freedom and abundance. You forgive yourself and others. You break free from this dreadful isolation, you stop competing, attacking, and being right. You connect, you accept others, you give, you create regardless of what anybody thinks. Now accept, without any judgment, the drastic changes coming your way. Now you have chosen the way of spirit and this requires no sacrifice. Rest in joy.

“You are the light of the world with me. Awaken and be glad.” We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Quotes from A Course in Miracles

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How to cope with stress

Stress is caused by being here but wanting to be there. Or being in the present but wanting to be in the future. It’s a split that tears you apart inside.

That terrible feeling of stress, frustration, and anxiety is your body telling you that something is wrong. You have forgotten that now is all there is, all there ever was, and all there ever will be. Most of all, you’ve stopped believing that you are freedom.

To be stressed is to believe that you need a different set of external circumstances before you can be happy. But if you are seeking liberation in external form, you will continue to seek for a lifetime—experiencing only brief, temporary relief from the agony. You’ll feel split, torn apart, like something is dreadfully wrong.

To create and live with such a split is insane. The fact that everyone else is doing it doesn’t make it any less insane.

When you feel that you have no power, like you are adrift on a stormy sea, this is the feeling of your soul screaming out for remembrance. The unease and sickness inside of you is a reminder that you have forgotten what is real. Your belief has shifted to external form, to ego, to the realm of the impermanent. You’ve forgotten that you have all the power—to leave the situation, to do something about it, or to fully surrender to it. Those are your options.

Remember that spirit cannot be threatened by any external situation or condition imposed upon you. You are the source of power because you are love and you are the energy of life. What is real about you cannot be threatened by anyone or anything. Remember this, go deeply into the fear, the stress, anxiety. Access the power of now and it will melt away. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Quotes from The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

 

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What is faith?

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“Faith” is one of those words (much like the word “God”) that has been so badly misused it has almost lost all meaning. No word is truth, but language is the best tool we have. When language is used properly, it can point to truth.

There are two basic types of words: “love words” and then the opposite, which are “fear words”. Faith is a love word and it means the same thing as awakening, awareness, consciousness, permanence, or freedom. True faith is a knowing awareness without doubt and an unshakable alignment with unconditional love. You know that you are spirit and not ego. This knowing is unchanging and cannot be threatened by external conditions.

The world tests us. Life is supposed to be hard so that we learn faith. Without faith, others cannot trust you. You cannot be depended upon because you can’t even rely on yourself. You attack, blame, and shame as if you were teaching something. You separate yourself from others and fall into depression. You lie, you cheat, you rationalize as you carelessly harm. These errors, this insanity is considered normal behavior because normal people do not have faith. Faith isn’t an abstract concept; rather, a state that is easily obtained when you escape ego.

When you know who you are in a way that is unchanging, you do not fall back to the errors of ego. You remain at the center of the wheel, calmly and quietly serving others, effortlessly channeling your energy to the expansion of creation. You have let go of fear because you are pure life—a ray of light. Now others can easily put their faith in you, they trust you, you are helpful, you can lead. Faith is success in life. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

Little faith is put in them whose faith is small.

-Tao Te Ching

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How to never lose at anything.

You cannot lose at a game you refuse to play. Only by playing does a game seem real.

To believe in competition is to believe that receiving comes through taking, that you are separate and on your own. To believe this is to limit your vision.

Competition is a fool’s game designed for the ego. By escaping the ego and identifying with spirit, you simply forget that competition is a thing. From the enlightened perspective, there is no better than or lesser than. Comparison between people is meaningless when we are already perfect and complete.

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What matters is what you are here to do. Do that well. Serve others, don’t try to defeat them. Give to others and receive gratefully in return. Do what you do best and do it to the best of your abilities. Teach others to do the same.

Giving and receiving is the same act. Create value in this eternal present moment and receive it here in return. Have faith, have patience. Time is irrelevant here. This is the path toward abundance in both the material world and on the level of the soul. Everything you truly value is found in joining with another, while competition brings poverty by pulling us apart.

Because he is no competitor, no one in the world can compete with him. (Tao Te Ching)

Become like a fool who is blind to the idea of competition—as though competition never existed. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

 

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How to heal myself

Nothing can be created from beyond the mind. Illness, disease, and dysfunction arise from the mind and only appear to be of the body because this is the realm where physical observation is possible.

Only the mind can create, because spirit has already been created and the body is a learning device for the mind.

The body is merely a “learning device”, much as the world is also a field for learning. Creation cannot take place in the body, nor can it occur on the level of spirit. Spirit has already been created, whole and perfect. Nothing can threaten spirit and nothing can be added to it. Therefore:

Inducing the mind to give-up its mis-creations is the only application of creative ability that is truly meaningful.

Release the mind from fear to unleash the perfection of spirit. Fear—and any action arising from fear—is error. This is what must be corrected. The opposite of fear is love. Love—and any action arising from love—is the source of all miracles. Healing is therefore not a miracle; rather, it is the result of the miracle which has already occurred. The miracle is a mind absent of fear.

Whenever you are afraid, you are deceived.

Only when you are rid of fear are you are awakened. A mind without fear creates freedom, abundance, beauty and bliss. There are no sinners; only the fearful. Fear is merely an error and it is correctable. When the correction happens, the mind is a wonderful tool of creation. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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My new book now out on Kindle

Belove reveals a truth that is the antidote to suffering. When you align your thoughts and behavior with this truth, you will rise to your highest level of success. Your life will be filled with meaning. Your relationships will be blissful. You will feel great. You will live without fear. Your life will be a legend.

The highest form of truth is love. We all know what love is, but few know how to live within its energy and how to unleash its power by escaping the ego. Ego is the opposite of love. Ego is what holds us back from being love. It offers nothing. Love offers everything. This book reveals the sickness of ego and the power of love to transform your life.

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Self-love with Don Miguel Ruiz

Sometimes a cup of tea with the right person can change your life. A few weeks ago, I met with an acquaintance who I hadn't seen for some time. The conversation became very personal and something I said must have inspired her to recommend a book called The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz.

Too often, I have ignored recommendations in conversation. Rather, I pretend that it is possible to remember a name or a title at some point of the future (it usually ends up forgotten). Maybe it was the way she spoke of this book that convinced me, but for whatever reason I wrote it down.

My friend told me how he writes about self-love, that we can't actually look to others or rely on others to love us or make us happy. The place to look for love is within ourselves. To be honest, I didn't believe this premise. Self-love is not something I had ever given any thought to. But I also recognized that I had become too needy about love and have been constantly in-need of attention coming from others. Not only has this led to ridiculous, addictive behaviors like checking messages every 10 minutes, it has also resulted in my tolerating what has oftentimes been an unhealthy relationship with my partner.

The next day, I started researching Don Miguel Ruiz and found out that his most well-known work is called The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom. The premise of the work is that we all make "agreements" with ourselves (sometimes referred to as narratives or mental models). Many of these agreements come from "the world". These are beliefs and ways of doing things that have come from thousands of years of history and have been passed down by billions of ancestors. The author uses the concept of "the world's agreements" and "hell" interchangeably, and I tend to agree. In other words, if we accept the world's way of doing things and allow ourselves to be "domesticated" to live in accordance with the ways of the world, we are sure to live a personal hell. 

It is up to you whether you want to create a life of happiness or misery, and this depends on the agreements you make with yourself. If you tell yourself that you deserve abuse, you will accept abuse from others. If you define your worth through the opinions of others, you will be disappointed and led astray. 

Indeed, it is the stories we tell ourselves that hold us back from achieving happiness, freedom, success, and love. We can replace those unhealthy agreements with positive ones, and the author takes us through exactly what those positive agreements should be.

The Four Agreements changed my life and helped me through a challenging time. So, just over one week later, I decided to read the book my friend originally recommended, Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship. I have come to believe that this is a must-read for anybody in a relationship or anybody who wants to be in a relationship (in other words, everyone).

He writes “the real mission you have in life is to make yourself happy, and in order to be happy, you have to look at what you believe, the way you judge yourself, the way you victimize yourself”. When we take on guilt and fail to forgive ourselves, there is the potential that others may abuse us. We allow this abuse only because we tell ourselves that we deserve it.

I have done things in the past for which I had not yet forgiven myself. Yet, paradoxically, I have always known that I have done these things not to harm anyone; rather, for the simple reason that I am who I am. I have not always behaved in accordance with the world's rules. I have lived according to my truths, my agreements with myself, my feelings, and my nature. Over the years, I have been convinced to accept the belief that my actions have hurt the person who I love. As a result, I have been unable to forgive myself for this until now and I have allowed myself to be abused because of it.

What I realized now is, as the author writes, "I don't need to hear your cursing all the time. It's not that I am better than you; it's because I love beauty. I love to laugh. I love to have fun; I love to love. It's not that I am selfish, I just don't need a big victim near me. It doesn't mean that I don't love you, but I cannot take responsibility for your dream. If you are in a relationship with me, it will be so hard for your Parasite, because I will not react to your garbage at all." This, as the author points out, is not selfishness. It is self-love. 

This book has changed my life. Before reading Don Miguel Ruiz, I was controlled by fear, driven by guilt, and felt that I deserved garbage in my life for doing nothing other than being who I am. As I have come to forgive myself and accept myself, I am opening myself up to relationships that are built on generosity, freedom, and love.

"If you cannot love your partner the way she is, someone else can love her just as she is. Don't waste your time, and don't waste your partner's time. This is respect."

Forgiveness of the self, forgiveness of the other, and self-love; this is the path toward happiness and love. The love we crave cannot be expected to come from someone else, it must come from within. With self-love and an attitude of acceptance and forgiveness, we can create the most beautiful, healthy, nurturing relationships based on mutual respect and freedom.

Pay attention to recommendations. Read this book. 

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