Posts categorized "Authentic Life"

In early childhood, you already had everything. You felt good, you were happy, friendship was easy, love was everywhere, and there was nothing to be afraid of. Then you were forced by authority to sacrifice all this so that you can work toward getting it back at some distant point in the future. Think about that.

Institutions have conditioned us into believing that the world can give us what we want, when all it does is convince us to sacrifice it. We are taught that we aren’t smart unless we get good grades, that we are not worthy of love unless we first become something or achieve something, that we are not beautiful unless we buy something. There are no guarantees. Do what you are told. Work toward it.

Here is the basic thought system we are taught: authority is there to help and to make sure you are taken care of. One day you will get a good job and will have a happy, comfortable life. When you are young, you even might imagine that work is more fun than school. You believe that, if you follow the rules, one day you will be free, feel safe, and that life will be meaningful and fun.

To achieve this, we are supposed to do just one thing: sacrifice everything. It will come. Just work harder. Just a bit longer. You’ll be there soon. At some point, when we realize that there is no reward for all this sacrifice, we either fall into self-loathing or we fully understand the lie that has been perpetrated on us, which is this:

Everything you are supposed to sacrifice to get what you deeply want—that’s exactly what takes you away from it.  

Everything you deeply want comes from within—not from the world. You know this is true because you already had everything when you were a very small child—before you sacrificed anything. Let us undo the conditioning now and remember what we are. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Stress helps nothing.

Something happens. We react in anger and attack. What purpose does this reaction serve? Has anything ever been taught or learned, or has any problem ever been solved in this way?

Even when nothing happens, we imagine a terrible thing that might happen. The constant stream of uncontrolled thought keeps us worried all day and up for hours at night. The heart starts beating in panic, we get exhausted, lose sleep, and ultimately develop diseases—and all because of this thing called stress.

What is stress but another word for insanity?

I used to believe that stress fired me up and gave me energy to get things done. Then I began meditating each day. A guided meditation suggested that you can get a lot more done in a calm, relaxed state. I didn’t believe this at first, but in time this proved to be true. The peace, calm, and restfulness I felt after a 15-minute mediation put me in a state where I could be very productive and effective for hours. Now I meditate as a way to reset when I want to do something well.

In a relaxed state, the quality of your work improves, you make better decisions without emotion, your relationships are more solid, and you don’t get tired as fast. Time isn’t the most critical success factor; your state of being and state of mind is.

Stress serves no positive purpose. It an insane reaction to belief in fear. It is also the cause of accidents, conflict, disease, exhaustion and failure. Stressed out, love cannot be felt and inspiration cannot shine through because you have allowed the ego to completely take over. Let’s stop believing that stress is okay. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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A person who is afraid of love does not know what love is.

People say they are afraid of love because they might get hurt. All fear of love is identification with ego and allegiance to it. It is only the ego that fears love, and only to protect itself.

A person afraid of love does want someone nearby—a partner to control, manipulate, and use for practical purposes. This person wants to be able to argue, attack, correct, punish, blame, shame and make wrong. Apologies and occasional acts of kindness are offered as a last resort—used only so that you stay around for the cycle of more drama, more attack, more diminishment and more misery.

This is what the world calls love. When someone claims to be afraid to love you, the fear is only that you won’t forever play your assigned role in their tragic drama. This, the normal state of marriage, is the ego’s playground. Here, true love is resisted and not desired because it would be the destruction of ego. This is known as "resentment".

To know love is to know that it gives you everything. When you have everything, then something different would be less. Identified with love, ego becomes unnecessary and wholly undesirable. True love is the total undoing of ego.

Only after ego has been undone are you able to love. As they say, love yourself first—which is only possible after the escape from ego. Now you can connect with other beautiful spirits in love. Now there is nothing to be afraid of because, through love, you are already perfect and complete. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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We are more than body and mind.

There is a dimension of our being that is beyond physical form and yet more real than anything observable. This is the self that cannot be seen, nor understood, nor possessed.

We can study our biology—observing the heart beat and measuring mind activity—yet will this ever help us understand what exactly is life? Where is life? Is it a thing that can be physically seen? Held? Observed? Understood by the mind? Where does it come from? Why does some matter possess this thing called life and other matter does not?

We can observe everything that life does, but it is impossible to observe what life is. We are alive, and so the same can be said of us: we can observe everything that we do, but we cannot observe what we are.

This simple awareness of what we are frees us from what is unreal and changes everything. To know, each moment, what we are is to place the mind and body in service to complete truth and knowledge—the source of all consciousness, creation and power.

Now we move beyond words like “spiritual”, “God”, “soul”, or even “love”. These are only words that we use to point to this truth. Embrace the invisible realm beyond words as your true identity today, tomorrow and each moment of each day after that.   

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Truth is the opposite of what the ego has learned.

This statement contains two words that are an immediate turn-off for most people: “truth” & “ego”. There are two reasons for this: 1) the ego is threatened when it becomes aware of itself, and 2) the ego wants to invent its own truths—which are always limited to that which is impermanent and therefore cannot be true.

The ego’s basic doctrine is, “Seek but do not find.” The ego deceives you by promising happiness, then leads you down a path in which only short-term pleasure or satisfaction is possible. Following ego, you are led away from the place of truth where you were already perfectly happy and complete—and into the chaos of constant sacrifice aimed at delivering only short-term highs followed by painful and depressing lows.

From a very young age, you have been taught there is no other way. The real truth has been called naïve, impossible—and you have been convinced that there is no alternative to what the ego calls “normal”. In a world dominated by ego, truth is always the opposite of normal.

The truth is that you do not need the ego. By identifying completely with consciousness, presence, love, God or whatever you want to call it—you cannot be threatened and have nothing to fear. Here, your knowledge is complete and there is no confusion. Your abilities are limitless, your happiness is constant, you are free and your life is abundant. You need only observe the ego and establish a daily practice that will help you undo it completely. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Let go of the past and begin every day at a higher level of love. (Don Miguel Ruiz)

The romantic realm is love’s playground. Here you learn to serve love, you teach love, you play, you grow and have fun. “Love is what makes you happy, and if you become the servant of love, and your partner becomes the servant of love, you can just imagine all the possibilities.”

To serve love is your highest ideal—your goal at home, at work, in every aspect of life. In the confused mind, there were times when you did not know this. You therefore must first forgive yourself and everyone else who does not know this. Forgiveness, or unconditional acceptance, is a powerful letting go of everything that is not love—a seeing of only love and a shrugging-off of all else.

“The day will come when you can be with your partner with no guilt and no blame, no anger and no sadness.” Let go of the past and forgive so that there is no resentment, you can be yourself, and you can have fun.

“You are there to serve your love to your lover, to be each other’s servant. In every kiss, in every touch, you feel you are each there to please the one you love, without expecting anything back.” In this type of relationship, “Sex becomes a complete surrendering, a dance, an art, a supreme expression of beauty.”

“It’s no longer a war of control; it’s about service.” We serve love today, tomorrow and each day after that.

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-Quotes from Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz

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Love isn’t something you can get. It is something you already have and can give.

Do you accept yourself fully? Can you let go of the condemnation, the shaming, the blaming done to you by yourself and others? Do you know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you? Today we fall in love with ourselves.

You have been taught self-hatred and shame by those who would use this to control you or to possess you—but you are not guilty. Because you have condemned yourself, you have extended attack, argument, complaint, and frustration. From this place of self-loathing, maybe you have abused yourself or mistreated others. This is not something you should feel guilty about—only something to be undone through self-love. Here, in the present moment, it can and will be easily undone through love.

To find love, you must fall in love with yourself. Rather than searching for love in the eyes of another, try lying on your back in bed staring at the ceiling. Here, you can begin to remove the blockages that prevent self-love.  

Love is not what the ego calls love. It is not a gift to be delivered to you by one true soulmate who will save you. Love is not to be found in seduction, nor in promises of commitment, nor in anything another person is supposed to do for you. That’s not love. Love isn’t something you can get. It is something you already have and can give.     

You are perfectly lovable and all the love you need is within you. Can you feel your heart begin to unblock? You are not guilty. We will free you from the guilt, the shame, the regret so that you can fall in love with yourself and then extend that love tomorrow and each day after that.

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Today I go beyond faith.

You might recognize the truth in these teachings even in a mind that is conflicted. When you get further along, you may even start to believe. What comes next?

To go even beyond belief is to spiritually awaken—to enter the kingdom of heaven, to know the peace of God, to become fully conscious. These words all mean the same thing—describing the purity of your soul when detached from ego. This is the real you—spirit that goes beyond faith and into being.

You cannot go beyond belief until you believe fully. To wholly believe means that chaos and consistency cannot coexist for long. They are mutually exclusive. Spirit becomes wholly real and ego dies.

“Unify the mind so that it can perceive without judgement.” This requires a daily practice of vigilance. Read, watch, or listen to something each morning that brings you into the realm of spirit. This is your defense against losing yourself in the dream of form and the conditioning of the world. Even the most wonderful book will have little long-term impact if you do not continue this practice daily.

Eventually, your spiritual practice becomes as effortless as true love. Love effortlessly extends outward simply because it cannot be contained. Being limitless, it does not stop. It creates forever, but not in time because your creation has always been. Eternity is yours now, tomorrow and each day after that.

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To gain, you must give, not bargain.

To bargain is to limit giving by being careful not to give more than is received. If mastered, perhaps a life of bargain is just enough to sustain us. But what would happen if, instead, you were to create for the world a gift far beyond the limitations of bargaining?

Think for a moment about history’s greatest inventors, the great novelists, the world-renowned musicians and beloved leaders. It is they who have manifested the technology and culture we know.

What separates these extraordinary creators from the rest of us is that they understood today’s lesson and lived it. If any of them had bargained upfront, their creations would have been insignificant. Instead, they unleashed something of such extraordinary value—something that produced such an overwhelming gain—that these individuals eventually became rich, famous, and beloved through generations.

The ego is always willing to strike a bargain, but nothing of real value can be gained through bargain. Bargaining means that there cannot be any increase in value, only an exchange of like for like.

Embrace your unlimited power to create. Just start somewhere and continue forever at a pace that feels right. The measure of what you create is not in time and cannot be negotiated upfront. Instead, it must be believed in fully, wholly without doubt, from the realm of spirit and love. Today we live from this place, where nothing can hold us back. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Ego and spirit are in fundamental disagreement about everything.

Disease is in fundamental disagreement with health. Separation is in fundamental disagreement with unity. Darkness is in fundamental disagreement with light. Sound is in fundamental disagreement with silence.

When something is in fundamental disagreement with something else, both cannot be true. When one is made real, the other instantly becomes unreal.

Just as darkness is lack of light, ego is lack of spirit. To live in spirit requires the complete undoing of ego. Ego is so fragile that it’s destruction requires only that we bring ego into the light.

Know only that you are not your thoughts; rather, the silent and still observer of your thoughts. Now you can observe your thoughts from the perspective of conscious presence. Observe the aliveness of the present moment and let go of the ideas of past and future. You are not the stories, illusions and dreams of the mind. We continue in spirit tomorrow and each day after that.

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