Posts categorized "Authentic Life"

You cannot love your partner one moment and attack the next.

If your relationship has frequent ups and downs, it is likely that you and your partner are suffering from dependency. True love is free from attack or argument and absent of blame, judgment, and guilt. Love does not struggle and knows no right or wrong.

All throughout life, the ego attempts to make itself real within us by clinging to external sense of identity. The ego’s urge is to finally be happy and complete through the identification with status, accomplishments, or possessions. It wants to be respected, listened to, and cared about. This never quite works. There is a hole in your soul, which you believe can be filled by finding your soul mate.

Then you meet someone and fall in love. Now there is a new center to your universe. For a time, you think you’ve found it – the key to permanent happiness. The problem is that your sense of identity is still external; dependent upon another person. To make it real, you need that person to behave according to your rules. You also need to project an image out to the world as the perfect couple or family. This never quite works either.

In private, you frequently fight as though you are the worst of enemies. You make up, feel better, forgive a bit, then attempt to move on. But it keeps happening again and again. The world sees a perfect couple, but the hole inside remains.

There is no peace or happiness to be found in external form of any kind. Love, peace, and joy are only to be found within. Become dependent upon form and you will continue to suffer. It may seem to work for a while, but it cannot last.

True love can exist in a romantic relationship, but it as rare as two enlightened people. The good news is that there are more of us every day. So we continue tomorrow and each day after that.      

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Acceptance

"This is the miracle: behind every condition, person, or situation that appears "bad" or "evil" lies concealed a deeper good. That deeper good reveals itself to you —both within and without — through inner acceptance of what is.”

Bringing a “yes” to everything does not mean letting people do whatever they want to do to you. Acceptance also does not mean backing down or bottling-up emotions.

Sometimes the loving response is a “no”. Accept even this. Sometimes an honest, open, even emotional reaction is required. Accept this too. Accept everything that is, even your own reactions and emotions as neither good nor bad, neither right nor wrong.

Acceptance is a knowing that is beyond good or bad and not dependent upon any evaluation or outcome. Through unconditional acceptance, you live from intuition, you react in love, you perceive people and events without judgments, labels, or evaluations. 

There is no power in non-acceptance. Here there is only suffering and conflict. Acceptance takes us beyond the illusions of perception to consciousness—where everything of value originates and knowledge is complete. The power you have to change anything is activated when you bring a “yes” to what is.

We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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I love you for the truth in you. (A Course in Miracles)

Alone we want, we pray, we ask the universe, then we wait for an answer which never seems to come. A Course in Miracles tells us, “There are many answers you have already received but have not yet heard.” Today prayers are answered.

“You can no more pray for yourself alone than you can find joy for yourself alone.” You can ask of spirit only by giving to spirit. You can give to spirit only where you recognize spirit. Recognize that your brothers and sisters are sacred—one with you in spirit—and receive abundance.

See beyond the problematic egos to the truth of our one consciousness. Recognize spirit in everyone and recognize the source of all value. Give to that source and receive directly in proportion to what you give.

The only way to manifest is to give to spirit. When you do give to spirit, you can set a price according to your judgment of worth. You set the value on what you receive and price it according to the value that you give. To receive more, give more and set a higher price.

It is impossible to get much for little. That which is gotten without giving is not valued and is therefore not truly received. True giving is love. True receiving requires true giving. All abundance is, therefore, found in love.

“This is not going beyond yourself, but toward yourself.” We continue to connect in loving service to one another tomorrow and each day after that.

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“You cannot distort reality and know what it is—and if you do distort reality, you will experience anxiety, depression, and ultimately panic because you are trying to make yourself unreal.

When you feel these things, do not look beyond yourself for truth. For truth can only be within you.” A Course in Miracles

Anxiety, depression, panic—all forms of fear that emerge from any mind that believes it is separate. Separate from God, separate from other minds, separate from nature, separate from the universe. In truth, you are the oneness.

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All suffering, all problems, all struggles, all negative emotions flow from this one problem.

To undo this problem is to undo unnecessary suffering—ending your problems and returning you to your natural state of joy. This is awakening to consciousness, being, stillness. You are pure consciousness, observing this eternal present moment, feeling the joy of love. The confused, separated mind has been blocking this truth.

You have temporarily inherited a mind and body—which is unstable and will ultimately be taken from you. But you, as consciousness or spirit, are eternal truth. The body is a learning instrument for a mind that is service to spirit—which is you, which is love, which is a part of God. Faith is simply knowing this. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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To believe that you must achieve the impossible to be happy is the cause of unhappiness.

Happiness is not what happens after you achieve the impossible; rather, it is the natural state of being available to anyone who stops believing that you must first achieve the impossible.

Were you not born perfectly happy and complete? Did you not often experience a perfect state of joy as a child?

It is more than enough to know who you are, be what you are, and simply do your best every day. There is never a need to do more than your best—your best will always do.

The most important step required to do your best is to first awaken to your best self. This is not about doing; rather, the undoing of illusion.

Most people have it all backwards. It isn’t about first doing the impossible and then deserving happiness. It is about first allowing yourself to be happy and then easily doing what everyone else considers impossible. This is what we have been doing, and we continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Whatever is true is never lost.

Yesterday we discussed how loss can only be the loss of illusion. Truth is always beyond physical form. It cannot exist in the material realm because all matter is unstable.

The truth of your relationship with a loved one is this: what is real between you will never be lost. You may separate or divorce a spouse—yet your love for each other remains. Despite the mind’s failed attempts to “move on”, you remain connected in that love always. The mind has no power over love.

If you are afraid to express that love, perhaps because you are with jealous new partners, then that is an error that will cause you suffering. Better to lovingly express yourself fully about who and how you love. This teaches acceptance and creates the most beautiful relationships.

Maybe you lost your home due to financial struggles. While you may no longer hold to the key to that structure, the positive feelings you created while living in that place remain. You can carry those feelings to the next place, even if it may be smaller. You can celebrate the way you live, the way you do things, noticing beauty even in simplicity.

Even if old age, physical decay or a disability limits the kinds of experiences you once enjoyed, you might experience that same sense of excitement in new interests such as writing, creating, reading, or otherwise exploring something new.  

Everything that matters is beyond the five senses: love, feelings, inspiration, excitement, human connection, fun. This is the realm of spirit. Align with spirit and live at the center of the wheel—where there is no real loss and you cannot be threatened. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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True intelligence is beyond the mind.

True intelligence cannot originate from the mind. It also cannot be grasped or held by the mind.

The best our minds can do is to let go. We can surrender, accept that we cannot control reality. Concede that there is a level of complexity to reality that is infinitely beyond the limitations of our perception.

Now we stop judging situations as good or bad. We stop trying to manipulate people to make us happy. We let go of our strategies for happiness. We accept the past and no longer seek salvation in the future.

Now we use the mind for only what it was designed to do well. We let true intelligence, which is within us and all around us, be the guiding force—which it was all along despite our impotent resistance. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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It doesn’t matter how much you get done if what are doing isn’t your best.

You are at your best when doing one thing at a time with all your attention. This isn’t possible unless you have trained your mind, through meditation and a spiritual practice, to let go of thoughts.

Don’t do anything unless you are first present. Notice your surroundings, the details, the colors, the textures. Pay attention to the sounds. Accept everything that is. Resist nothing. Notice the energy within the inner-body. The stillness and silence.

Now calmly go about whatever it is you are doing: your work, parenting, making dinner, driving your car, reading a book, talking with your spouse. Approach it calmly from this place of stillness or “no thought”. Now any thought that you do generate will be about what you are actually doing.

Move through your day like this—with frequent breaks and 1-3 meditations. Try this for a few weeks and notice that there is no stress. You are no longer afraid to check your email or answer your phone. You resist nothing. Nothing that happens on the level of forms matters in an absolute sense. You have wisdom and knowing. You are able to calmly respond to whatever happens. Life gets easy because you have mastered it. This is the only way to master life.

Through awareness of being, your quality of doing is maximized. The value you provide everyone improves. People enjoy your presence and involvement. Abundance begins to flow into your life. You are trusted and respected—not because you demanded it, but because you deserve it simply by being exactly what you are. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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What holds you back is your belief that opportunity is limited. You are waiting for someone to offer you abundance, but they don’t even know what you are interested in doing or what you do best.

Become free. You decide what you can do best that is most valuable to the most people. Work out how you are going to do it. Set a price. Find the best way to approach people to let them know how you can help them.

Now keep going. It may take a few months before your first signs of success, a few years before total success. Don’t rush. Just keep going. No more panic. No more living according to everyone else’s expectations.
Now you are creating value on your terms and people are paying you generously for it. No excuses. This isn’t difficult. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Your sense of "I am" is your awareness of the now

I am is a recognition of being. It isn’t something that can be grasped or understood by the mind. The mind asks, “I am? What’s your point?”

Your mind has been trained by this world to believe that it is you and you are it. Therefore, anything outside the mind—anything imperceptible by the mind as a “thing” or “mind object” is considered uninteresting to you. Let us consider some of these “uninteresting” topics.

Becoming aware of being—either by going into the present moment, noticing your inner body, or channeling love—is not something the mind has any time for. Here there is not enough drama, nothing to debate or argue about, and nothing changes. I am is a knowing, a wisdom, a creative power and a perfect love that is beyond the mind’s comprehension.

It’s a good thing we are not our minds, because this belief dramatically limits us to a confused thought system of fear and suffering. In truth, the universe is made up of both “stuff” and “not stuff” (or empty space). 99.99999999% of the universe is empty space, and the same is true inside our bodies.

Even the concept of “nothing” is beyond the mind’s grasp. Try to think deeply about empty space and you will enter being, or the now. The mind is designed only to function on the level of matter—which is useful in this world but limiting.

The mind also cannot understand that time doesn’t exist—that everything happening is always happening in the now. Nothing has ever escaped the now. It is the only place where everything is, always has been, and always will be. Matter moves and changes form, but all movement is happening in the present.

The mind cannot understand eternity or infinity. The mind cannot answer what love is, what happiness and peace is, or where life originates. How exactly does life come from nothing and become something? What is life anyway?

The mind will never figure out what it was not designed to figure out. To master life, you must master love, freedom, health, wisdom, peace, creativity. No mind will ever figure out this realm. So we move more deeply into consciousness tomorrow and each day after that.

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