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Lay the ego aside, it will be gone. (A Course in Miracles)

The ego wants to run your life. You need only remain unaware that it exists. Continue to believe that you are your thoughts, your body, and your life situation. Believe that sickness and suffering are inevitable, that the ways you have been victimized and oppressed are inescapable, that permanent joy, love and peace are impossible.

Most people believe that some ego is natural and that it is impossible to completely escape the ego. I have found that it is possible, and fully desirable, to abolish this parasite called the ego. Simply look at it. Watch it. Observe. Know what it is and what it does. When you do this, you will no longer want it. You will lay it aside. It will be gone.

If you are not ready to do this, you can put these teachings aside for some time. Suffer a bit more. Come back when you want perfect love, joy, happiness, freedom and abundance. Perhaps you still believe that there is something of value to be offered by the ego. Has its guidance brought lasting happiness so far? Has it ever delivered to you what it promises? You are free to choose a different thought system.

The ego seeks salvation in external forms such as wealth, moving to a new place, or sensual pleasures. But even if you get what you believe will make you happy, it doesn’t work for long. There is a momentary high, followed by depression, then you move on to the next thing. The ego seeks but cannot find. Rid yourself of this parasite.

Lay the ego aside to live at the center of the wheel. Go into the present moment. What problem do you have at this moment? Who is the “I” observing the thoughts in your mind? Now feel the energy in your inner body. Can you love yourself from within? Notice the silence, the stillness, and the beauty surrounding you at all times.

When you are ready, lay the ego aside. It will be gone. We continue tomorrow and each day after that. 154

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Love, as a continuous state, is as-yet very rare. As rare as conscious human beings. (Eckhart Tolle)

Romantic relationships, on one level, are extremely satisfying. You are in love. You feel alive. Your existence feels meaningful. You feel complete when you are together. The feeling is so intense that it becomes addictive. From a deep sense of neediness comes the fear of abandonment. This clinging is the cause of the negative side of the relationship.

Most romantic relationships oscillate between the positive and the negative every few days, weeks or months. The negative manifests as “possessiveness, jealousy, control, withdrawal and unspoken resentment, the need to be right, insensitivity and self-absorption, emotional demands and manipulation, the urge to argue, criticize, judge, blame or attack, anger, rage and physical violence.” -Power of Now

“Was it love in the first place, or just an addictive grasping and clinging?”

The romantic love relationship seems to offer relief from the suffering of this life. But without a deeper spiritual awakening, it doesn’t work for long. The positive turns to negative and back again. The relationship spirals downward because so much damage is being done. The ego cannot forgive, so the relationship eventually collapses under its own weight. In time, you come to believe that the other person is not relief from suffering; rather, the cause of it. The feeling is mutual. You can stay together and suffer or leave. Neither option offers much hope.

There is another way. You can end the cycle now. You will not find salvation in the current relationship nor the next one, but you can find it only in the present moment. Rather than trying to be in-love, simply be love.

Let go of the past, the expectations, and the clinging. Free yourself and your partner from the rules and demands. Love yourself and your partner unconditionally. Practice total honesty, communicating only in the language of love. This is love as a continuous state, where there is no negative and positive—just love. This is easy to do, but impossible within the ego. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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The only true revolution is a consciousness revolution.

A revolution that does not involve an escape from the ego is no revolution at all.

What about protests and uprisings? Exciting, a cause of great conflict, but activism only validates the legitimacy of centralized authority and does nothing to undo a system of egoic domination.

How about a violent overthrow? Terrifying, leaves a vacuum of power, and falls short of changing the way people think and behave.

Elections? You mean the ones run by a system of centralized authority designed to control and exploit you?

New technology? Possibly. Does it lead to the destruction of ego? Harmonious union? True abundance through creation being unleashed on a massive scale? Alignment with perfect love?

The world is insane. The wars, the exploitation, the destruction of the environment, the poverty, the general rudeness, aggression and ugliness that has become normal human interaction. Do you think any of this would change with a different party in power?

The cancer of the world is ego—a belief in separation, an identification with form which is manifested in attack. The consciousness revolution is the undoing of ego and the decentralization of a society based on the values of love.

We are currently stuck for one reason: we believe centralized authority has authority. Tomorrow we look, beyond fear, at a new social structure that is beginning to take form: decentralization.    

The consciousness revolution is the only revolution that will lead to instant, lasting, fundamental change. It isn’t something we need to fight for—only look for within. It is a silent, peaceful shift and we do not need permission. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Being faced with an impossible learning situation is the most depressing thing in the world. (A Course in Miracles)

“This is why the world, itself, is depressing. Whenever the reaction to learning is depression, it is because the true goal of the curriculum has been lost sight of.” -A Course in Miracles

Guided by the ego, you are guided into confusion and chaos. The result is fear and depression. Guided by spirit, you are guided into love. All joy, bliss, and peace flow instantly from love.

What is the goal of your learning? What is it for? If the lesson is sacrifice, know that none of your needs can be met through sacrifice. Give all you have, but not in sacrifice. Sacrifice, by its own definition, takes you further away from everything you want.

The ego gives you endless reasons to seek that which you do not want and do not enjoy. Authority has conditioned you to seek that which feels unnatural, uninspiring and depressing. This is, indeed, losing sight of the curriculum. Now healing has become your curriculum.

To heal is to restore the normal function of the mind and body. Ignore voices of authority—including your own mind chatter. Pay attention to the stillness, to the silent guidance emerging from your intuition and brought into your body through emotions.

Now the curriculum is to feel good—which is only possible by serving a new master: not the ego, but spirit. Another word for love. Another word for God. The Source. Consciousness. Essence. Now the mind effortlessly communicates in love, connects in oneness, and creates with the purpose of joy. Here all needs are met.

The mind cannot do anything alone—it needs the body. The body is healed when it is restored to its natural function—to serve a mind aligned with spirit. This is our only curriculum—our purpose in this life. Escape the ego to heal in love. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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My book, “Belove: How to End Pain by Escaping Your Ego”, contrasts lower-case “love” and upper-case “Love”. What the world calls love is not Love. The word is misunderstood.

Love can only be known after you have learned to escape the ego. What the ego calls love is fearful, prideful, possessive, selfish and jealous. This is not Love. Love cannot be experienced this way. This is ego—the opposite of Love.

Love is unconditional giving and limitless creating. The ego merely gives to get (which isn’t giving at all).

Love is oneness. The ego negotiates and defines love through separation.

Love is acceptance. The ego resists, makes rules and manipulates.

Love is forgiveness. The ego seeks power in blame, shame, judgment, condemnation, and punishment—all justified by assuming the role of victim.

Love is freedom. The ego seeks to prove love through sacrifice.

Love is eternal. Everything the ego does is temporary, ultimately meaningless, and washes away in time.

Love is success and abundance. The Loving response is the right solution to every problem and the perfect response to every challenge. The ego only attacks—causing more problems, further separation, and blocking abundance.

Abundance cannot flow into your life if Love is not pouring out. The ego cuts off abundance, miscreates and produces a catastrophic trail of failure. This is how most people live, but a life aligned with Love is so much more fun—so easy and blissful. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Relationships grounded in separation will end in separation.

You meet someone. Souls unite. Life is beautiful. You are filled with passion and feel fully-alive. You’re both madly in love and it feels like nothing in the world could tear you apart.

So you try to hold onto this feeling forever. You start making rules: “Stop communicating with your ex. I don’t like how you look at her. Stop watching porn. Aren’t I enough? I don’t want to hear about that. I need to know where you are at all times.” This is not love; rather, rules based on the values of separation and enforced through the violent emotion of jealousy.

The world tells us that if we find the right person, then he or she will fulfill all our needs for life. There should be no needs outside of this one relationship. You have become a serious couple, separated from the world, cut-off, isolated.

This never works. Too many rules and restrictions here while the soul wants to be free. Next comes the resentment, the arguing, bickering, attempts to control and manipulate. Next the little lies, and eventually the big ones. You feel alone, isolated, deeply desiring some freedom. Unmet needs turn to fantasies; none of which can be fulfilled or expressed within the relationship. Now you either look outside the relationship or you simply repress it all as you turn into a typical, bickering, miserable couple.

Eventually you might decide to end it. Here again, you act according to the values of separation. You sever all contact and try to move on. Custody battles. Legal proceedings. Misery for everyone.

You meet someone new. You do the same thing with the next partner. Yet despite the painful separation, you still love each other. That original spark of love was real. What’s real is eternal and cannot be made unreal. Rather than trusting that love eternally, you chose separation all along. So much suffering for no good reason.

There is another option. It is called love—total union with each other, unconditionally, without exclusion. Let’s explore this tomorrow. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.    

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You are not your thoughts. You are simply aware of your thoughts. (Michael A. Singer)

That voice in your head sounds like your own. Most people believe that this mind-chatter is who they are.

The voice nags you, tells you what to do, who not to trust. It cares a lot about what people think. It regrets the past, worries about the future, and dwells on problems. The voice in your head constantly lectures, wants to be right, yet is inconsistent and usually wrong. Yet no matter how crazy the thoughts get, you’ve taken them seriously.

Who is it that is listening to the voice? Who is observing the thoughts, seeing the sights, hearing the sounds? Who is the you that dreams in sleep—where these waking thoughts are not? Who is the you relaxed on the beach—where thinking blissfully eases?

You are watching and observing your mind, but you are not your mind.

Are you your body? Which body? The one you had when you were 12 years old? Or the one you have now? Is it not the same you both then and now?

You inhabit the body, but you are not the body.
Who is the “your” when I refer to your mind, your body, your problems, your situation, your identity?

You are the observer—the unchanging nothingness perceiving through mind and body. Here you are perfect, complete, safe and in peace—watching in silence and stillness from a realm that is beyond the physical. To forget this is to perceive lack, fear, and suffering. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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Attack teaches nothing of value.

We punish, we make sarcastic comments, we argue—telling ourselves that we are “teaching a lesson.” But attack teaches nothing of value.

When you attack others in any way, you teach only fear. They are not comprehending your logic and do not see how you are justified. They see you only as an enemy, a source of fear—the emotion of separation.

Those who fear you in any way will withdraw so that their truths are withheld from you. You may demand honesty and openness, but if you have attacked you will not get it. Attack is your ego projecting separation as the solution. Attack breaks relationships and teaches nothing.

Fear is not the lesson you wish to teach. Always respond lovingly, not with attack. Look beyond the behavior you don’t like in another, see beneath it. As Marshall Rosenberg said, “Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.” Therefore, even if you are attacked first, the appropriate response is a loving attempt to address the unmet need in the other.

Love seeks resolution not in separation, but in unity. Communicate in the language of love and come together. Teach truth, peace and joy; never fear. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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My purpose is to create

We were manifested into this world from the void—from nothingness. Why?

So that we might watch the news? Obey authority? Debate politics? Be right? Impress people? Chase money? Fame? To endure a marriage for life? Or to party hard?

Consciousness exists in the realm of nothing, but it is not satisfied to stay as nothing. Through spirit, consciousness expresses itself as form. This is creation. The mind and body can create anything and our abilities to create are strengthened in unity. Love is the fuel for creation and the emotion of unity. Anything made without love is a miscreation.

A portion of everyone’s day involves doing uncreative things (work, parental responsibilities, taking care of the bills), but joy is only possible when we are also free to love, to connect, and to create. Joy is the feeling of fulfilling our purpose; it is our intuition saying “yes”.

Here’s what I’m creating right now: my nonprofit is developing a mobile app to connect people in spirit and love. I’m also filming a documentary movie to show what it means to live these values. I’m also recording a music soundtrack for the movie. At the same time, I’m running a profitable sales agency to generate plenty of income with minimal time spent at work. I’m still able to find plenty of quality time with my daughter. I’m expecting my second child to be born any day now.

If you are inspired, please let us know what you are creating. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.  

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Salvation is not elsewhere in place and time. It is here and now. (Eckhart Tolle)

We hope not for what will come in the future, and regret not what has happened in the past, because we know that reality is only in the now.

We no longer feel held back by our stories. No circumstance needs to change before we can be happy and complete. There is nothing to wait for and are no excuses to be made.

No longer torn apart by the painful tug-of-war between past and future, we are powerfully drawn into the present moment. Here we simply awaken to every sight, sound, taste, feeling and emotion. The energy building in the inner-body now is nothing other than pure love—made stronger with every breath, honored during each meditation, proven through every challenge.

The energy of joy builds until it has nowhere to go, then it extends from you as love—the inspired energy of creation, abundance, health, and everything you once dreamt of in the future. We continue tomorrow and each day after that.

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